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Today would have been Steve's 73rd birthday. Been getting into a bit of a tizz about it. Staying at my sisters so I am not alone.

I just wanted to share this with you. Steve had a Facebook page, well we both used it. I managed to changed the name to me, but didn't know how to change the birthday. So yesterday I got wished Happy Birthday from Alana, Sharon AB, some may well remember her, lives in Australia, with a young daughter. That well meaning thought, has changed my life. Decided as Steve left everything to me, why not his birthday as well????

Instead of feeling really sad, I am happy, its my birthday!!!! Family think I am crazy, saying it's fine, but I have to give up my other one. The Queen has two, so why not me. My brother in law, bless him, has gone out to stock up with wine, so we can celebrate tonight.

Suddenly, those two little words have changed my entire outlook on today.

Lots of love

Anne

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MaureenMo

Anne, I haven't posted before, but have followed your posts and just wanted to say how lovely this is - what a positive spin to what could have been a sad day - and of course to wish you a very Happy Birthday! (And if HRH deserves two, then you DEFINITELY do!) :-) Cheers! xx

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Georgepa

Mmmmmmmm! Bit worried about you Heady but still what tyne heck , HAPPY BIRTHDAY xx

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Georgepa in reply to Georgepa

Even what the heck maybe.

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Auddonz

I CELEBRATED DON'S BIRTHDAY AT HOME BY BUYING CUPCAKES FOR US. HE NEVER LIKED A CAKE, HE IS NOW 80, BIRTHDAY JUNE 8TH. IT MADE ME FEEL BETTER. WHY NOT HAVE TWO BIRTHDAYS. I DO NOW AS WELL, MINE AND HIS. IGNORE THE FAMILY AND DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER. HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANNE <3 BTW, THERE IS A GRIEF SUPPORT SITE ON FB, WHICH I HAVE JOINED. EVERYONE HAS LOST A LOVED ONE AND WE JUST VENT BASICALLY AND DISCUSS ANYTHING THAT IS ON OUR MINDS. DON IS NOW GONE 6 MONTHS, 2 DAYS AND IT IS STILL HELL.

LOTS OF LOVE BACK, HUGS AS WELL ((ANNE)) VIRTUAL HUG,

AUDREY

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ssdw1958 in reply to Auddonz

Hi Auddonz

I want to wish you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎈🎁🎂🎉🎊 I hope you have a great day.

I am also sorry for your loss you deserve two Birthdays.

I know the Birthdays to day but cares.

By for now my name is Sandra I have MS and have been diagnosed since 2004.

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doglington

Sounds good to me. Enjoy for both of you !!

lots of love, Jean x

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jzygirl

Love it. Hope you enjoy the wine and company. Jane xx

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Althea-c

🙏💛

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Yvonneandgeorge

Happy birthday beautiful lady 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

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Nanny857

Happy birthday Anne, hope you enjoy the wine and your time with your sister and brother in law. After what you've been through you definitely deserve another birthday. 🍷 Cheers. Marion, (Nanny857 xx)

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Satt2015

Wow heady! Strange how sometimes something someone says makes something click!! Many happy returns! Enjoy the 🍷! X

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NannaB

Happy Birthday Anne. You are not crazy, well no more than the rest of us!

Enjoy 💐 🍷 🎂 ❤️

XxxX

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Patienan

I don't think you are mad, strange or anything critical; it is good that you have seized the chance for a happy day, you certainly deserve it !!!

this afternoon, for no reason at all, I suddenly felt happiness waft in close to me. So, despite myself, I invited it in and enjoyed quite a pleasant interlude in the garden trying to deadhead plants and cut some overgrown ones back. It was a very difficult task - the work in the garden - because of my restricted mobility and pain but I slowly managed to get one corner looking much better and felt grateful for the opportunity to be outside in my own - until, that is, DH came out and said that I shouldn't be doing the cutting back because 'it's is too much for you' etc,etc.

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ssdw1958 in reply to Patienan

I say if you can do it without getting hurt and over tiered like that bumper sticker says

"Just do it"

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Patienan in reply to ssdw1958

I was very tired afterwards and probably did overdo it but it was worth it because that corner of the garden looks so much better and because I remain very pleased with myself for having made the effort (against advice)!!!

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BindiLeech

I hope that you have enjoyed the wine x x xx x and Marie and Andrea, I think it was both of you anyway, I wanted to comment on your suggestion of having a PSP day sometime next year - now, my Husband and I are intending on coming over to England (Scotland, Ireland and Wales) next year so........ I was going to suggest a meet up somewhere over there!!! What do you and others on this wonderful site, think of that idea - we are at this time planning on coming over around June/ July.

cheers and love BIndi

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abirke

Happy Birthday, Heady why not inherit Steves birthday It sounds like a grand way to celebrate ....and that your family is all on board with the idea makes it even more festive!

((HUGS))

AVB

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ssdw1958

Hi Heady I want to wish you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂🎈🎉🎁🎊

I Hope you have a great day!! Another good thing would be if Steve was younger than you and you take his age I just wouldn't tell your family they just may think you have lost your marbles

LOL

Have a drink for me I can't even have a glass of wine 🍷 any more with some of my meds I get a little lighted headed not good when your unsteady on your feet

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easterncedar

How nice to hear from Alana! I have wondered about her often. Happy Birthday, Anne. Celebrate early and often is a good rule for life. Love, Sarah

what a great way to look at it my lady😊

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Sawa

It was Jonathan's birthday last week and I found it to be tougher and more emotional than I thought it would be. I wish I'd read your post then, as I think I would have adopted his birthday too! What a wonderful way to take a sad day and turn it into a happy one. Happy birthday, Anne!

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Katiebow

Happy birthday Anne you lovely crazy lady, great idea to adopt his birthday and a lovely way to remember and honour his life. Cheers 🍷 xxx

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millywigg2

Happy Birthday,i will raise a glass to you !!!!

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Duffers

Good for you anne. Why not have two birthdays. Celebrate the life that steve had with you on his special day. Crazy. If we're not already that way then dealing with psp is sending us all in that direction. Up the crazies is what i say. Cheers and god bless.

Marie

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Tippyleaf

Happy birthday mark 2

What a good idea. The first of 'everything' is so painful after a bereavement. Anything you can do that makes it more bearable sounds really good . Hope you get a decent glass or two this evening!!

Sending love and hugs

Tippy

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NanBabs

Any excuse to remember happy times can`t be bad !

xx

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Heady

Thank you everyone for your good wishes. Yes I did enjoy the day, even got a cake, although they couldn't find any candles.

This has put a whole new spin on these anniversary days, instead of dreading them, embrace them, inherit the birthday and celebrate. Wedding anniversaries, it still is the anniversary of your marriage, so again celebrate the day, throw a party, whatever. Like ideas for the anniversary of the death????

Lots of love

Anne

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jzygirl in reply to Heady

For the anniversary of Brian's death the plan is to have a pub lunch in his favourite pub. Did the same for our wedding anniversary ⚘

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Heady in reply to jzygirl

Yes, I thought I will have to mark it in some way like that. Allowing it will be my real birthday and Christmas, all at the same time!

Hope you are doing well.

Lots of love

Anne

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jzygirl in reply to Heady

Have had to go back to work.. shock to the system. Only part time.... but it seems strange to have to be responsible and reliant on my own earnings. I'm still struggling with the solo life.. but like everything else it's the new normals. Jane xx

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Heady in reply to jzygirl

Keep thinking I ought to do something, but brain still full of marshmallows, wouldn't last until coffee break at the moment. It's only just dawning on me that Steve has actually gone and not coming back. Not the most pleasantest of feelings!

Lots of love

Anne

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jzygirl in reply to Heady

I'm lucky I have got 3 private care jobs 2 are mornings so I'm finished by half 10 the 3rd one is a sitting 2 afternoons so not to hard. And still got plenty of time for walking the dog etc. I think it does help to get the brain and body used again. I know what you mean about the reality hitting home. I found it very hard leaving and returning to an empty house. But since I got the dog there is something to come home to and discuss things with. Also an excuse to not do things if you can't be bothered to do them. Jane xx

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DoreenC

Happy birthday Anne 🍾🎉🍷🍸

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LynnO

Two birthdays sound like more fun then 1!! (as long as you don't age twice as fast!!)

Happy Birthday!

: )

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Brenive

Happy birthday , hope your enjoyed your birthday , I was away for the weekend so only just seen you post .may you enjoy many more birthdays ......Brenda x.

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MaddyS

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Anne. I can see the end of the tunnel shining very brightly. I'm so glad. All the very best, love Maddy xx

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MaddyS

Anne, how is Alana ? We haven't heard from her since she sold her house. Maddy

HAPPY BIRTHDAY.... and a toast to a healthy life for u. X

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