An old Chinese saying. They do the obvious so wonderfully well.
Well I have had the slope and now, please, have arrived at the easy plain.
Liz has been rather hostile toward me for a while. Over the last two years its waxed and waned and in equal measure so very loving and caring. She has been so angry at the illness, the helplessness and the inevitable. Then when her needs were too great for me and the carers she had to go into a nursing home. Thankfully we found a really good one.
She then became angry and difficult with the staff. Last Sunday I brought her home and she was impossible.
I read her the riot act. Warned her about loosing her placement and the likely consequences of an EMI placement. I told her that it was not on to complain to me about staff being nasty when they were standing there listening and ready to help. Also of the possible use of Deprivation of Liberty Safeguards if she continued to wilfully undo her safety belt on the wheelchair followed by unsupported experimental transfers.
When I got her back to the home she told me not to visit on Monday. When I asked about Wednesday she added. "That too."
I became frightened this placement would break down and felt tearful at her distress.
Well I slipped in today and found a different Liz and a different attitude with the staff and with her. Everything was smooth. She was smiling and there were many hugs and kisses. She seemed peaceful too.
Maybe, just maybe, she is adjusting and learning to trust them.
Maybe we are on the plain at last... then will come another slope, of that I am sure.
But tonight I will be able to sleep and not toss and turn hurting at her distress and worrying about a failing placement.
All is well tonight.
Thanks for being there for us.