Strength and Weakness

[Cuttercat]

Charles is two patients. One, he is strong! Eating, drinking and all is well in that department. BUT......the impulsivity and the dementia comes and goes and I have to be ever vigilant to be close by always.

Yesterday he fell in the bathroom and I was standing next to him!! Then he rolled his wheelchair backwards (though I say no) and ran over his dentures and broke them into bits.

What makes me so sad is one minute he's loving and the next aggressive.

Does anyone else here have any suggestions. I don't want to place him in an institution but if this goes awry I may have to think about it.

I know he loves me but it hurts so badly when it's elusive. We both are afraid but for now we are stable.

Cuttercat

[Yvonneandgeorge]

George is eating and drinking, coughing and choking, he gets agitated, but he is not aggressive towards me anymore. Not sure what to suggest, maybe someone else will, sorry xxxxxx

[Cuttercat in reply to Yvonneandgeorge]

Sounds like we're in the same spot. I didn't mean aggressive towards me, but aggressive in his verbal exchange. He is frustrated I think and knows there is something he can't control.

I guess it's part and parcel of this crazy, unpredictable disease.

Cuttercat

[Dicampbell]

So sorry Cuttercat. I have been there too. My SO, Larry went through a stage like that... where he was very mean but only to me. I tried to discuss it with him, “I know you don’t mean that, it is the disease, not you” and it seemed to calm him down. I wish you luck as it is very hurtful.

[Duffers]

I wish i could give you some helpful advice but ger never was aggressive.

Marie

[Tippyleaf]

Dear Cutercat

Relate completely!! My husband can ‘turn on a six pence’ as though a switch goes off in his head. I have learnt to spot the signs for the building aggression but the impulsivity is a challenge. An idea comes into his head and he is off!! He also becomes fixated on a problem - real or imagined. Sometimes he will ask i am being paranoid?

It is a challenges we see a Neuro psychiatrist who is helpful but sadly no actual treatment other than a find a glass of chilled white wine ( for me ) helpful.

Sending love

Tippy

[Cuttercat in reply to Tippyleaf]

Thanks so much Tippy. This is us to a T. He just gets in the wheelchair and goes. Today he stood up for no reason and thank goodness I was there.

Plus the choking and coughing make it a challenge each and every day. Neuo psychiatrist might be a thought. I'll check into it.

Cuttercat

[allotmentartist]

My husband is the same can't leave him because he wanders and as he looks well nobody thinks to stop him,once he gets an idea he is fixated ,soRay I can't be of more help but I ditto the wine idea or going in another roof being busy x x