I have at least three months of hell. My husband has dislocated both shoulders in this time. The last dislocation was 5 weeks ago and they held him in hospital until they got a care plan in place. We get a carer for one hour in the morning and night. He is very angry as he says he wont be restricted but his mobility is very bad and we are trying to keep him safe. The first morning a lovely man arrived and my husband was so bad with him would not have a shower so the man insisted in washing him in the bed he was livid with this. The carer said it will take time. The next day a woman came and I could not believe the difference in him he had a shower she shaved him and chatted with him it was much better. The next day another woman and everything was ok, then the male carer arrived the next day a lovely man but my husband was very hostile. God I feel so grateful receiving the help and I dont want to say how uncomfortable he is with the male. Has anyone else had experience with this. I keep going over it in my head and in the beginning of his condition I found it very hard to deal with and went for councilling and after awhile I was told my husband was more comfortable with womans company. He had no hobbies or friends and only went to work and home to his family. He loved his family and did everything for us. He was in total control and happy with this. I often encouraged him to maybe go with his work mates for a drink but he never did. My husband is so angry with not having control and seems to blame it on me. Please I would welcome any advise I can get. Thanks Ron.