Well well can't believe this have come up to sit with George and I have a career with me the sister is saying only one of us can stay with him, for the last three days it has been 2 of us , so annoyed, even spoke to the doctor he asked her she said no just 1 person what is that about, he is terminally ill, how can you allow it for 3 days and then say no you can't so angry xxxxx

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  • Told them I wanted to speak to the doctors and if I hadn't gone in they would not of called us xxxx so upset xxxx

  • Oh Yvonne, that's terrible. Forget the doctors, ask to see the hospital manager. How dare they only allow one person around the bed, in this day and age. Please though, let one of your children fight this battle, you just take care of George and yourself.

    Sending you strength and much love

    Lots of love


  • I can't believe it either. If some one else wants to visit, you have got to leave...ridiculous. Did she say why? George can probably hear and I'm sure he would rather hear you talking to someone than you talking to him all the time when he can't respond. As Anne said, get someone to speak for you. You don't need this agro.

    Sending you a big hug.

    Love and prayers

    ❤ XxxX

  • I asked them to do home from hospital doctor said yes when I asked the sister she said doctor had decided not to. So fed up xxxx

  • Yvonne, go to the administrator of the hospital--the top person. And both stay anyway. What can the old grouchy nurse do? Crazy! And I am furious for you!

  • Oh Yonne how disgraceful. He is your husband and you can do what suits you never mind the snotty nurse! How would she feel in the same situation. I hope you get things sorted you could do with this extra stress.

    Sending you love and support

    Hugs Tillyhugs x

  • We have been coming up from 10 o'clock two of us to look after George and they are saying only 1 person, but from Friday until Sunday there was two of us, first sister even thanked us for helping. Bloody stupid we were here to help George, for god sake he is terminally ill, had a work with the doctor, he even spoke to her and she said no, bloody stupid. Yvonne xxxxx

  • Why when we are in such difficult times are there people who try to make things even harder? Than they try to tell you they are only thinking of you. How do they come off thinking they know better what is best for you? I am still fighting to keep us together . The ranks are closing in. It is clearly more convenient for many involved to get R into a home so they will no longer have to deal with us as they are having issues finding staff coverage. My prayers are with you. Don't worry about their stupid rules. I would get the news involved . If a person can't have support will sitting with terminally I'll patient what has the world come to? Don'the let them push you around. You have need of support at this time and they had better think outside their little rule book. Cause a fuss if they try to remove one of you .Than call the press the radio station what ever.I may be dying myself but I am not going down without a fight.If nothing else they may remember me before they try " I am only thinking of you" line on some one else.Hugs Hugs and more hugs. Keep the faith we will persevere.

  • I feel shocked, Yvonne. It sounds very officious. Does she say why ?

    You have nothing to lose by making a fuss. Tell them you were upset at feeling he was not being cared for with his medication. Get your children to create a fuss.

    love and hugs, Jean xx

  • George was really agitated I called the sister and said this is why we need two people, got upset, she said I can speak to the matron, matron came down and apologised and said she has no problem with 2 of us around the bed, sister did not come back and apologise. Sick of this hospital xxxx

  • Success. Sister has a problem. Detach yourself and focus on George. You need quality time together.

    Hug from Jean xx

  • I had this last year when Mum was in. Some of the staff were plain awful and the others thanking me for being there all day to look after Mum as they hadn't got the time to. Glad the matron saw common sense. Most rules state two people at bed at a time that I've seen in hospitals. Yeah the sisters who were awful last year never apologise to me after I got PALS involved.

    Hope G is less agitated now xx

  • Yvonne, I would go over the Dts head, administrator or someone. Not fair to you.



  • Don't accept it Yvonne!! Can you get the hospice involved? Or get palliative care at the hospital involved! If you have too, go mental and demand to see a manager! I did, when they tried giving me nonsense when dad was in hospital last year!! Take no crap!! Bloody hell, you don't deserve this, either of you!!!!! X

  • Have sorted it out hate this place x thank you all for your support xxxx

  • Your very welcome my lovely!! Keep us posted, please and try n take care of yourself x

  • Thank you sweetheart, going to leave soon, they are cooking dinner for me at home xxxx

  • Yvonne

    What has happened to you is a total disgrace! How dare they deprive you and George of the company of someone else. They are way out of order. If they so much as look crooked at you get in touch with PALs who are based at the hospital. Tell them you are considering contacting the press and your local MP. Believe me they will be very careful what they do afterwards.

    I reported the way Garry had been treated the last couple of times and the Matrons gave me their phone numbers should he go back in. I used them too! Believe me they couldn't have done enough.

    When I get my head together they will have another complaint. They were very good, as were most of the nurses but I was not impressed with the Ward Manager and felt very sorry for the junior doctors. The consultant was a disgrace! So this is not something I will walk away from as they will do it to others?

    If your family can help even better! Let them complain on your behalf.

    God Bless and if they try this again refuse to move! Sad to say I did that too! Thinking of writing a book about what we went through. We could probably all do that? I told them I was going to write a book about it Their faces were a picture! Don't let them bully you.

    Much love to you and George x

  • Thank you Marie all sorted but made my day so stressful xxxx

  • Let's face it none of us need anymore stress when our loved ones are so ill? Bloody woman needs a reality check! Hopefully she will stay from you now but if not go to PALs and threaten them with everything! They will make sure you can have someone with you.

    Lots of love.

    Marie x

  • Hope you have a better day today Yvonne.


  • Hi

    Tell her to remove the broom handle from her backside, if you r a pt of your local hospice ring them they will visit, I had to do that when Rog was so poorly in Nov.

    Keep hanging in


  • Yes today is much better, matron has been down all good, hopefully we can go home today xxxxx

  • That's wonderful news.

    Sending big hugs and much love.

    Lots of love


  • We are home 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • Good. Get support organised. Rest.

    love, Jean x

  • Brilliant xxx

  • Aww so pleased!!!! X

  • so glad to hear it.

  • So glad!

  • Jean everything in place George is so happy to be home xxxxx

  • So pleased for you both.

    love, Jean x

  • Jean it is so good to have him home, I was scared that this was going to be the end of George's journey, so we live to fight again xxxx

  • Its a torment, isn't it ? Never knowing if a slump is going to be final or just a dip.

    Hope you can rest. xxx

  • Yes agree with you, too many people have passed away over the last few months, it is worrying, sendingbyou a big hug Yvonne xxxxx

  • Gah! We just went through the same thing with my beloved brother-in-law, who is dying in a Catholic hospital in Maryland, Went in with the flu and was told he has untreatable cancer and only days to live. The nurses have really enjoyed enforcing the limit on the visitors, overruling the doctors' orders, defying the patient advocate my sister appealed to, waking my sister up at 1 in the morning to throw out the other sister who was watching while she slept. Horrible. Apparently a few orcs escaped Middle Earth and are working outside Baltimore. And a few over your way, too, I guess. Unconscionable.

  • Yes they have no heart xxxx

  • Well, they didn't go into nursing for the money, so it must be the power....

    Caring? Ha.

  • Yvonne, sorry you had such a stressful time at the hospital. Glad George is home and happy to be there. Take care. Lots of love Nanny857xxx

  • Some off them are compassionate, but a few are really horrible, should not be nurses if they have no compassion. Thank you all for your kind words. Yvonne xxxx

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