Elizabeth died

I don’t know if I’m ready to post this or if it’s too early for me so let’s see.

My partner of 25years, my soul mate and my butterfly died on Friday morning at 1am as the final and inevitable outcome for her of this evil disease. Elizabeth always said she wanted to die at home if possible before she became ill (2006). It was possible so she did and I was with her when she died.

We are both recovering alcoholics and met up in Alcoholics Anonymous in 1988, we got married in ‘92 and have known the joy of living for many years together since then. Neither of us have been to a meeting for years but we still consider ourselves to be members of AA. So it’s RIP Lizbeth I am so so very very sad and unhappy you died because I loved you to bits and always will. But you died sober my darling.

Chris F

22 Replies

  • Chris, I am sooo sorry to hear that Elizabeth has died. May she rest in peace away from this evil disease. I'm glad you have both carried on with your AA membership, don't forget to call them if you find yourself slipping. Grief is a tough one, especially after all you have both been through.

    Look after yourself, it still is one day at a time.

    Sending very large hug and lots of love


  • Oh Chris, I'm so sorry your darling Lizbeth has left you. I don't suppose when you went to the AA meetings, you thought it would change your life and give you 25 happy years with someone to love and be loved by. The last few years must have been long and tough but you showed your love by caring and being with her at the end. I hope you are comforted by knowing you did your best for her.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. You must be a strong person to have resisted drinking for all those years and I pray you will remain strong and sometime in the future, find a good life after PSP.

    With my heartfelt sympathy,

    Nanna B


  • Oh, Chris

    I am so sorry to hear your news.

    What achievements! You great love together and that she died sober.

    I hope you have friends about you.

    Thank you for sharing your deep loss.

    Sending a warm hug


  • So sorry for your loss, at least she is in a better place away from this horrible illness, sending you a big hug. Yvonne x

  • Sending massive love to you. I can feel your love coming through your post for your butterfly. May she now be at peace. Be kind to yourself and strong. We are here xxx

  • Chris, so sorry Elizabeth has died. I hope you can take comfort from the fact that you were able to carry out her wishes and be with her to the end.

    Vicki x

  • Dear Chris, So very sorry about your love Elizabeth such a hard time for you, no more tears, sadness or suffering, take care. Nettie

  • Dear Chris,

    You and your Elizabeth are true warriors....God Bless you with continued strength.Your Angel will guide you to peace.

    Sincerely, Rita

  • Dearest Chris, I'm sending my heartfelt sympathy to you. You have been strong and shown such courage looking after Elizabeth right to the end honouring her wishes. May you find some strength from our wishes, some of us have been where you are right now and others are facing it soon but either way we are all here for you. Keep strong Chris, and don't forget AA is always there for you, as we are.

    With much love, Michele xx

  • Chris, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my wife last weekend, shortly after having celebrated 35 years of marriage. I'm still pretty numb, but I try to stay busy and be around family and friends.

    God bless you and comfort you.


  • I am so sorry you are going through this. Your Elizabeth is finally free of all the negatives of PSP. May God bless you and all Elizabeth's family and friends. I will pray for you all.

    Love, Mary B

  • Chris , I am so very sorry for loss of lizbeth but in the sadness you speak of the twenty five lovely years you had together , not everyone can say that can they , I hope you can eventually look back and just rememberer those happy years ...

    I have a neice in early fifties whio is also going through a drink problem .. I pray she can do as you did. . Hugs xx

  • Dear Chris, I am so sorry for your loss of Elizabeth, your soul mate, I hope you find peace and comfort from your family, friends and all of us here. I too am already grieving for the loss of my soul mate although he is still with me and hanging on. It's so hard to watch someone you love with all your heart suffering as they do.

    I'm thinking of you, keep in touch with all of us here, we feel your pain and understand....

    Love and hugs to you....Pat xx

  • So sorry Chris that Elizabeth your lovely butterfly has passed away. Hopefully someday the memories of your happy times together will replace your sadness. Take care. Lots of love, Nanny857 xx

  • God bless you both. Inspiring!


  • I am so sorry for your loss. It is a great accomplishment that you have been able to support each other through both these diseases. You will need support . Your love would want you to reach out and get all the support that you can get. I will pray for you. This whole community will stand behind you. Noelle 21

  • I am so sorry to read your post. I've only been on here for 3 weeks. That is how long we've been told about my dad. I feel the love and compassion on here. It feels so good to open up and talk about our troubles and sadness. We are here to listen and care.

    Please look after yourself and stay strong x

  • Welcome and thank you. It's a difficult journey but I found everything I needed here

  • My thoughts are with you xx

  • A hard journey done, but your butterfly is now free to be a butterfly forever. take care and stay strong. x

  • So very sorry for your loss. Please have some peace in knowing you were able to do what she wanted.


  • Takecare of yourself now at this difficult time

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