Every day my wife seems to able to do a little bit less - and asks me to do more for her . I understand the decreased mobility and fear of falling etc but sometimes I feel she is just giving up slowly but surely - any day now I expect her to ask me to brush her teeth because she can't do it for herself .Is it just that the more I do the more she can't do ? Should I try to make her try to do more- it feels churlish when she is the one with PSP and having to deal with so much . I suppose I am wondering if the growth in dependency is a two way process and am I in some way encouraging her to be more dependent on me than she needs to be or is it just the inexorable onwards march of this illness.
A silly example of this is she might drop a handkerchief by her chair and although I am sitting on the sofa a few feet away she will ask me to pick it up despite the fact that I have got her one of those long arm grabbers . She says she can't work it and I know she has problems with anything vaguely mechanical now .I also know that if she gets out of her chair and tries to bend to pick it up she will most likely fall over so up I get and pick it up for her .All this sounds very trivial but it is invading every aspect of our lives from cutting up her food to putting her hat on when we go out .
Everyday she bewails the fact that she can't do the things that she used to be able to do and gets very emotional .So what's best - push her harder or just shut up and get on with it ? Any advice most welcome .
Georgepa ( in frazzled mode )