I have made an error today in the sense I accidentally ordered food by Uber .
I was just looking at the menu and added to orders and then found out it had gone to debit my account .I am normally careful with my outgoings and it was an accidental error . By the time I had attempted to cancel the order it was too late .
However, the food was quite nice enough for today and tomorrow.
I expect this is how on line errors can happen too quickly .
I have noticed that if I have been through a stressful situation this impairs my ability to cope at times .
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Hi Roukaya! Hey don’t beat yourself up about a mistake, easily done, especially in this heat!! I ordered something from Am...n for my granddaughter‘s birthday last year and forgot to look at the delivery date! Her birthday is in August and it was delivered in October!! She had it for Christmas!!
Sooo hot today! I was supposed to meet a friend whom I haven’t seen in a couple of years in a pub garden (first for me since all this), but I had to cancel 😌 I am very lucky that my house is very cool, in fact I had to pop outside to warm up a couple of times 😂 Am outside now and it is pleasant . How is your home Roukaya? Does it stay reasonably cool?
I hope the Lebanon receive the support they need, I am sure we will all be giving what we can, even if it seems like a drop in the ocean, it all adds up .
Lion heart, you have a lovely evening and enjoy the rest of your meal tomorrow! 💕 xx
I think the food was a happy mistake. Maybe it was a message from the universe to treat yourself.
On a separate note anxiety can be crippling and make you do things that are out of character, do you have a way of resetting or switching off. Meditation, mantras or chanting which you can find on you tube might help with this x
Good evening Roukaya, when there is an increase in anxiety levels for what ever reason, there are lot's of things firing off in our brains and sometimes because we are thinking of so many things all at once, it causes a momentarily lapse in our concentration. So, when you are paying for anything online, be aware to give it your full attention, if you know you anxiety levels are on the up. At least you now have a meal prepared for tomorrow and will not be cooking in a hot kitchen in this very hot weather at the moment. If the food is good, that's an added bonus. 🌸😊🌞
I realise this is very much out of character for me but I realise in the past when my Mother would shout at me on the eve of the exam , I can see how I missed the pass mark by 3.5 per cent .
All because I said you would never allow me to talk to you as your male friend talks to you .
I am learning now not to get caught up with her worries as I am far away .
I think as all her properties all empty she is sad and is on her own
I am also quite sad at turning 51 next week and I am thinking of going to London.
I never realised that anxiety can make us lose our presence of mind
Anxiety is very powerful and can take over a person life, it has the ability to take all, out of context and proportion. Evolutionary wise, we need a certain amount of anxiety and fear to survive. Everyone has a certain amount of anxiety. It is when that anxiety becomes uncontrollable and starts to dictate our lives, it becomes a problem. Even a small elevation or a brief episode that causes our anxiety levels to suddenly increase, can have a very big and sudden impact on what we are doing at that time. I feel you have very good control of your anxieties and know the root cause of them. So, even though, you suffer with anxiety, you seemed to deal with situations very well and in context. Do not be sad at turning 51, celebrate every day of your life, not just your Birthday. Celebrate your being and the people you have help. You have mention you help people so celebrate the difference you make to a life and the human race as a whole. I am very well thank you. 😊🌸👍
I believe it’s Absolutely Possible I’ve done things that I’ve Never done before. I paid for gas and left without pumping it. Groceries paid for those forgot to take them. Are You on Medication? That could be another reason? 😷🙏
Don’t worry, everyone makes mistakes. Yesterday’s Ocado delivery included 2 big boxes of strawberries instead of one and the loaf was half size. I was having a phone chat at the same time of ordering online but not a problem. I’ll freeze strawberries for the winter and it will make me use up the bits and pieces of bread I’ve got in the freezer.
I can relate to your distress. Two weeks ago I spent an entire morning speaking to my bank on the phone sorting out a large cash transfer from one bank to another, as I am not able to get into the bank at the moment. Eventually, it was all done and dusted , as I thought. But here comes the BUT. In the afternoon whilst I was sitting out in the garden reading, I had a phone call from the bank checking if everything was OK with the transaction, and was I was satisfied with the service I had received. I said I had checked and the cash hadn't transferred as yet, but would check again a little later. Caller said it should have gone through straight away (which unnerved me a bit) and then asked for my details so he could check on it - AND CAN YOU BELIEVE IT I ACTUALLY GAVE MY DETAILS TO HIM . I am usually so careful. I really don't know what possessed me , or where on earth my mind was, other than the excuse of suffering with fibro fog. As soon as I had put the phone down I realised what I had done. I panicked and got straight on the phone to the bank. They checked. It was a scam, and I was very fortunate in that they were able to close the account down immediately so no money was taken. I suffer with extreme anxiety, what with trying to cope with my illnesses, caring for my DH with his, and suffering from being shut in for weeks with very little contact or support from anyone else, and I completely lost it! I fell apart , was crying on the phone to the bank and couldn't stop crying for ages afterwards, even though I had managed to stopped the scam. I am still a nervous wreck over a week later, as it has shaken what confidence I did have, and I am now concerned and worried about my judgement, and am frightened of what I might do next. The only good thing is I did stop things in time, and did not lose any money, but I can't stop thinking how I so easily could have done so. My DH, bless him, says I should congratulate myself for realising what I had done straight away and saving the situation, instead of not beating myself up with what might have been and I know he is right but it is easier said than done. Maybe this will put your problem into perspective and help a little. Take care.
You have shown me great understanding but thankfully you managed to save the situation and I can only think what a relief it was for you to save such a large sum.
I also cared for my Father as well as his Properties plus he was also involved with one of his tenants.
As the only child everything fell on my shoulders as my Mother lives overseas .
I had an argument with a bank clerk on Friday as she reprimanded me for not having a four digit code and I asked for this not to be posted to my address .
She told me I give up
I reported her but I think I was left shaken the next day .
This is sadly anxiety can do as it can impair our ability to make rational judgments.
This is something I am learning to realise as my own Mother shouted at me on the eve of my exam because I dare say a wrong word about her male friend who is no longer her male friend as he came to take advantage of her
My parents I am beginning to think have put me under a great deal of stress as a result of their actions as they turn to me when things go wrong .
After several failures I will be resitting for part one of the Diploma in Wills and Probate.
I think you should be incredibly pleased that you saved your large sum of money .
Thank you Roukaya. I have seen several of your posts and you seem to be having a really difficult time. Do you live on your own in this country? Have you any friends here? Are both your parents living abroad separately and are you responsible for them even though you live here? It does seem a very complex situation. I too am an only child and eventually was responsible for my mum for several years before she went into care, and the following two years until she died, so I can relate to that. I found it difficult at times and she only lived fifteen miles away from me, but she was profoundly deaf amongst other things and would ring demanding |I go as she didn't feel well, but couldn't hear me well enough to answer my questions as to what was wrong. So I had to go, just in case there was a real problem, and sometimes when I got there she was fine. Which could be very frustrating, particularly as I wasn't happy driving, but had no other option as there was no available public transport. You are obviously not alone with your problems. We all have them. Some more than others and all different. Unfortunately all we can do is try our best to deal with them and move on. Take care.
Thank you so much Mydexter for your response. It really does help to know someone else understands how you are feeling. You are probably right it is more than likely a combination of things. Up until a few years ago I coped with fibro reasonably well, over the years after finishing work, having done some childminding of my grandson and caring of my mum, plus driving. It all changed after my mum died. My DH finished work, had an unsuccessful knee replacement operation, (so hewon't have other one done}, then he had a fall and broke his foot (he now no longer drives - another story )so was incapacitated for several months, and now is hardly mobile at all. In the meantime I had three very bad falls myself but didn't go to hospital - thought I was OK, and with DH not up to supporting me it was difficult - had second thoughts since, however, ) plus DH became more unwell and during this time was diagnosed with dementia. This is when my anxiety kicked in, and fibro got lots worse. I also have other medical problems, but now also have trouble sleeping, I find I weep at the drop of a hat these days and I was never like that in the past. It really is a vicious circle. and with the present situation am not too optimistic for the future, but one never knows. thanks again. It was nice to chat, so post again any time and take care yourself and stay safe. I
Gosh, Roukaya. If your mistake was the worst you've made during this stressful time, with the heatwave making everything even more difficult, I can only congratulate you. I'm doing much dafter things two or three times a day!!
Oops!😬 I hate when that happens. I have done similar things. 😊One evening my husband placed a pizza 🍕 order and we waited the 30...40...50minutes later and no pizza. We get a phone call from my daughter who lives down in Florida thanking us for the pizza.🍕He had entered her address a few months prior online when they were tight on funds to help them out. I have done similar things too like most recently a friend introduced me to $5 paparazzi jewelry that people sell on Facebook. The lady put me on monthly billing. When I found this out I said “oh no! Never put someone with memory problems on monthly billing.” Talk about sticker shocker! It was a shocker!😳So we all have done something similar. Glad you were able to enjoy the food.
Anxiety can effect behaviour, we make mistakes and panic, misplace things, get clumsy and can be forgetful, it's unpleasant experience and it s up and down, making us have bad days and okay days.
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