I often post on here as I find the group very supportive.
The time in Lock Down can be very restrictive but also a time to reflect on the important things in life.
I have had a troubled past and for three years I have been and still trying to pass the Diploma in Wills and Probate and once the Lock Down restrictions are reduced I will start to apply for a years work experience.
I find life at times difficult enough as it is but again my elderly Mother overseas puts all her worries and illnesses on me as she is lonely.
Part of me listens but part of me is sad because I know how she had treated me in the past when she had someone else in her life.
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Hi Roukaya, This horrible virus has a knock on effect for everyone I think. Your mum will have increased fear and anxiety because of it and in turn that fear will be aimed directly at you. I know it's hard but you must try to shield yourself from some of it. People need to get some frustrations out especially if elderly and alone but then try and divert the conversation so all your mums negativity doesn't have such an impact on you. To keep your mind occupied, nothing is stopping you from doing all your applications for work experience, then you can put them aside till you feel the need to post them. Now, would be the ideal time to prepare them all. Have you been getting out for a daily walk as this can be helpful to brush aside the anxiety for a while. Try to plan to do something nice for yourself today. Treat yourself to something nice if you can. Say to yourself I'm doing ok, I'm getting through this because that's exactly what you are doing. It's OK to have a shaky day. It's normal in fact. Try to keep active today and your mind busy. Hope you have a great day. 🌸🌷🌸
I realise that I need to keep up with my studies and eventually start to apply for a years work experience.
I think Sunday brings painful memories back and these memories haunt me.
I tried explaining this to my Mother but as she is elderly and on her own she finds it hard to hear what I have to say.
Thus is why I am in UK as where my Mother is living , it is only possible to succeed if you know that right people and have the right connections and in many ways it is a very unfair country in the sense I have been humiliated by several family members on my last visit.
I will try to focus on the studies and look to find a years work experience .
I have an employment adviser who will look at ways I can re enter the job market as an Apprentice in Wills and Probate.
I hope you are well and I hope you and your family remain safe and well.
Thank you again
Hi Roukaya,
Yes this is a time for reflection on what's wrong in our lives and what we can do to make it better as we return to normal, but I think the trick is not to do that for too long. What begins as reflection can quickly become self doubt, and worse, depressive thought. I know that this is a reflective time in your faith which can increase your thoughts, but then you can also use your faith to be positive too and to focus on the blessings which we can all find in our own lives, if we try hard.
You do have some special challenges and the biggest is probably being on your own too much at the moment. Your mum too can be difficult to handle but she is an integral part of your life. It's probably one of the things that's hardest for you to change, but do whatever you can to accommodate her, without her causing you too much negativity. Sometimes when a problem won't or can't go away, we have to adapt our thoughts so that we can somehow deal with the problem. A bit like our isolation really. None of us can wish it away, no matter how hard our minds try to do that. So we have to endure. And learning to endure can make us all stronger, in the end.
So try to enjoy your day today, and do whatever you can think of that will make it better for you.
Thank you I'm great today and staying safe. I managed one of my rare walks around the neighbourhood as it's Sunday and much quieter. It's amazing how much wildlife and floral interest there is once you get onto a side street.
Yes, I think that's the answer for you. Don't dwell on all the problems you can't solve at the moment. Try not to let your mum aggravate you too much. I know it is challenging to deal with the elderly sometimes, and it must be so much harder when she's so far away from you.
You will, I'm sure, summon up the strength to continue your studies and never give up on your goal of employment. The victory will be twice as sweet for your having to struggle to get there.
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