I am trying to cope with the self isolation but as I try I find myself thrown by the worries of my Mother
She is elderly and on her own
She projects much of her anxiety onto me
Today I did on line yoga and on line reiki healing
But as my mum had a slight cough as she has Sinusitis I become almost paralysed with anxiety
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Did your mom say that she was feeling a little better from earlier today?
Thank you for asking
I will God Willing call Mum tomorrow and see how she is
Thank you for asking
I hope everything goes well for you
When you’re done talking to your mom, please let us know how she’s doing.
I will be here.😀👍
Very kind if you
I usually call Mum in the morning
I will let you know
Thank you for asking
Stay well and Stay safe
Thank you! You, too!😀👍
I am similar as son trapped in Central New York . He has year contract for a bank and they wish him to stay there . I phone everyday ..just to see his face . We sometimes chat for only 5 mins as time difference ..and maybe he is prepping lunch or I am interupting a film /work / etc but I still phone . It makes me feel better . Even if you have nothing to say - or even think of a few questions ..silly me writes them down ...this just helps me and I think if he admits it- him too .
Evening, Roukaya.
It's hard, isn't it?
Despite your mum causing you substantial anxiety when she projects her anger and her own anxiety on to you, the second you sense she may be unwell, all that falls away and your natural concern as her daughter comes to the fore.
That's a very normal response, and a situation so many of us have to deal with.
It's harder for you than many others as she's so far away.
You have coping strategies, though: I hope the reiki and yoga helped.
Have you looked into art therapy? I have been having AT sessions at my local hospice (now transferred to the telephone and email setting because of the virus), and they help me to relax and understand myself better. They have been invaluable to me, actually, and I thoroughly recommend that you look into this or a similarly creative pastime.
I hope you are well
I thank you for answering my post
My Mother always concerns me despite what she puts me through
I try to talk on this website as the supportive group members help me rationalise my anxiety
I will try Art Therapy
I hope you keep safe and well
I think you are doing exceptional well under the current circumstances. You are finding ways to help cope with the anxiety and stress you get overwhelmed with at times, so you are handling everything very well. You need too sit back occasionally and say to yourself, hey, I'm getting through all this. The art therapy sounds interesting. It's good trying a new hobby. Hopefully when you phone your mum in the morning your mum will be settled and well. ☺☺
I hope you are safe and well
Thank you for replying to my post
I think you are right in that I should check on Mum to see how she is and in turn focus on my own responsibilities
I hope you are keeping well
Mum seems to be ok and she is a religious person and I explained even though you feel alone have appreciation for we have
It has taken this lock down to truly see my strengths and weaknesses
I have followed your posts and you write with eloquence and understanding of the current given climate of uncertainty
Thank you for listening to me
You are a fantastic daughter Roukaya and your Mum must be so proud to see that you really care about her . A lot of people have nobody or their connections with family have been broken for so many reasons . You have each other - always . Yes ..at a distance but distance will not break that bond .
Very well written
Thank you
We do our best
I cared for my Father now he has gone I can realise how important it is to care for our parents
Money wealth career really occupy a second place compared to our parents in your case your son
Just try to keep her spirits up and yours. She knows you wish you could be there, Blessings, Hannah
It is hard when your so far apart but even though you sometimes have problems with her your still persisting so good luck and hope she's doing a little better
I know it’s easy to become concerned about a cough, could also be bronchitis. Are there any other relatives that live nearby?
Thank you for asking
I hope you are well
My Mother is elderly livinb on her ow n
She has Sinusitis brought on by pollen
I think she will tell me of her illnesses
She does have neighbours who are very near by
She is not totally isolated
That’s Good to hear, I can tell you as a mom of 3 adult daughters, we don’t always tell you if there’s something Wrong because we don’t want to worry you? I’ve only told the ones I live with because in case something does. So I’m sure everything will be Fine.
Roukaya, does your mom have a neighbor she's comfortable with maybe they could check on her on your behalf? Even if it's "safe distancing" from her door if that would ease your mind. These are difficult times for all of us, I pray she feels better and pray for your family.
Blessings
NeeC
Very kind words
I hope you are well
She does have a few good neighbours
Mum suffers from anxiety I think as she gets older and on her own shd gets frightened
She gets worried
This is quite normal
But not easy on your own
I hope you are well
How do you cope during Lock Down
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