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Seeking company as I live alone in Uk

Roukaya profile image

Self isolating is hard. I live on my own and I have hardly anyone in Uk

I wonder if anyone would like to talk

I ha e an elderly Mother overseas and since my Father died I have spent a lot of time overseas but this came at a cost as i kept failing a Post Graduate Diploma

I decided to stay in Englanc to concentrate on the resits and finding employmrnt but every time my Mother has a problem I am expected to sort it out she she is unable to

I think this social isolation is ok for thosr who have family, husbands and friends

But those who live alone it is soul destroying and the loneliness hard

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Where do you live? I would be happy to help in any way, even if it's just to exchange moans!! I live in Thames Valley.

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Roukaya in reply to veriterc

Thank you for reply

I live in Derby

I hope you will keep in contact

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veriterc in reply to Roukaya

Am sure we will keep in touch on this Forum. Incidentally, as a medical journalist I was writing something for cancer survivors, which migh be useful for others when we make a dash into the supermarket aftercancers.com/keep-safe-...

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LindaDaisy in reply to veriterc

I’ve started taking my own quite open bag into the supermarket for a few items. Quite a relief not to have to worry about trolleys or baskets. Just must try not to have a senior moment and walk out without paying.

Hi Roukaya,

Welcome to the group.😀👍

I’m self isolating, but I’m doing it because I’m a Diabetic with other health issues.

How’s your day going today?

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

I hope you are well

I find the social isolation to be very hard to cope with

I have an elderly Mother overseas and she is an indepedent person

But she is also very alone and we try to talk

I have been trying to study but when my Mother needs help I will neglect what I am doing to assist her

I have been trying to study but I lack discipline given the uncertainty we are facing

A life of total isolation

How was your day

What did you do today

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

I’m doing okay, but I miss going out and seeing other adults. I don’t usually stay home 24/7, but I have to since this all started Monday morning here for all of us in the USA. The County Government is thinking of using the Centers as homeless shelters.

I’ve been babysitting for my Nephew and Niece everyday from 9-5:30. Their parents are working at home, now.

We can talk anytime.😀👍

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

Hello

How are you

Thank you for replying to y post

I live on my own and since I lost my Father for whom I cared for I have been seeking employment and requalification in Elderly Care Law

But I have failed the exa ination several times by a few marks

I made a decision to study and find employment but I am always worried about the hezlth and welfare of my Mother as she also lives on her own overseas

How are you managing with the onset of Social Distanci g and Socizl Isolation

How do you spend your day

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

I read, spend time on HU, babysit, play card games, word games, listen to music, etc..

For my job, I work with Seniors with and without Alzheimer’s Disease and other forms of Dementia in a County Government Senior Center.

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

Hello

Thank you for your reply

I should be studying and trying to cope with the loneliness of social isolation

I cared for a Father who had mental illness as well as dementia

No doubt the residents were pleased with your care and support

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

They were and we gave them a lot of different things to do during the day. We even had a lunch program and free door to door bus service if they were in a 2 mile radius.😀👍

Are you doing online classes for school?

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

Very good service and a kind service

I am studying on line and with the social isolation this adds to my loneliness

This is why I would like to have support from kind people on line

How do you intend to spend the next few days

How is your health and general well being

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

I take it day by day. Starting Monday, it’s going to be the second week starting that I will be not going to the center. I will be here on HU and babysitting all week at the same time. I will also try to get some ideas for art projects to do this week.

You can always talk to me anytime.😀👍

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

Health is okay, but I had a small headache two days ago and I have trigger thumb on my right hand. Can’t see the doctor since they won’t say it’s an emergency.

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

Thank you for saying I can talk to you

I have always been lonely but was able to cope

But with the travel ban and social isolation, I find it very hard to adjust

Now that we are experiencing different world , it is essential to find ways of positively spending our time

Keep in touch

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

I will!😀👍👍

What do you want to do tomorrow?

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

Do you like reading mysteries?

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

I will try to study a little and go for a walk as I am isolating due to the virus

How will you spend tommorow

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

Reading and be here before lunch and during the day, in general.😀👍

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

I have not read mysteries for years

Do like reading mysteries

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

I like mysteries, horror and romance stories.😀👍

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

I will have to get ready for dinner here soon. I will get back on later when I’m done.😀👍

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

It was nice talking to you

I hope you enjoy your dinner

Thank you for talking

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

You’re welcome! Thank you, too.😀👍You can always tell me anything.😀👍

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Roukaya in reply to Activity2004

Thank you and take care of yourself especially concerning protection from the current health scare due to Coronavirus

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Activity2004 in reply to Roukaya

Thank you! I will be in touch soon.😀👍

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san_ray70 in reply to Roukaya

How do we private message , we could exchange phone numbers, I am near Derby.

Hi

I'm sorry to see you are alone. Everyone on here will help you, I'm sure. Where do you live? Please take care and stay safe. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

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Roukaya in reply to

Thank you for repky

It is the total isolation which is very hard to come to terms with

How are you

I live in Derby

How did you spend your day

in reply to Roukaya

Hi

I'm in pain 24/7 and have an hour or less sleep per night due to pain. At the moment I'm watching box sets, colouring books, cross stitch. Phoning friends and family to check up on them. I would normally be seeing family and friends but having to self isolate. I'm very lucky I have such a great support network of family and friends and everyone on here. Please take care and stay safe. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

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Roukaya in reply to

It is at times like this the loneliness is very hard for others

in reply to Roukaya

Yes. Everyone needs to pull together and help those who need it. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

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wiserlady in reply to

Hello I was sorry to read about your pain and trouble with sleeping, but its great that you sound so positive about all of the contacts and support and care you get even if it is at a distance. If we can all look on the bright side it helps so much.

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Yes, it does. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

It must feel very lonely for you. I live alone, but have work to go to every day which supplies me with people to share my thoughts and feelings with.

I'm not sure I have anything helpful to offer........but for myself I've found a lot of inspiration online from various sites.

XXX

I would like to thank you for your reply

I find your reply to be very understanding and helpful

The advice you have given will enable me to continue to try.

My Father had mental health issues and I cared for him

I will try to support my Mother but I realise there is only so much I can do

Also trying to cope with the social isolation and loneliness is very hard

I have missed the the pass mark by a few marks and I as much I am worried for the welfare and health of Mum, my own sense of self is neglected as I have always put my parents first

This terrible virus is causing so much uncertainty and dealing with the on going issues of my Mother does create anxiety and self doubt

Hi. I know how you feel. My mum lives overseas and she had cancer 2 years ago. She had chemo so her immune system was compromised. I'm really worried about her and can't fly to visit :(

So hard... What we do apart from praying for our parents? Take care x

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Roukaya in reply to Jiwa

Good morning

Thank you for your reply

I wish you and your Mother good health

I am totally on my own with an elderly Mother overseas

I would be pleased if we could support one another during this difficult time of social isolation

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wiserlady in reply to Jiwa

Can you email or text your mum?

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Jiwa in reply to wiserlady

Hi. Yes. I call her every day, message etc. She lives with my dad so she's not lonely. I hope to fly there in August if possible...

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wiserlady in reply to Jiwa

Knowing you will see her must be something really nice to look forward to. What are you doing today?

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Jiwa in reply to wiserlady

It is. Definitely. But Im worried that there will be no flights in August. Will all this madness be over? Im gardening, studying for my exams and reading a boom. What about you? Have a lovely day!! X

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wiserlady in reply to Jiwa

Ive got a friend who says she is going to the USA to visit her son in July, I doubt it will happen, but she assumes it still will.

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Roukaya in reply to Jiwa

I hope you are well

The first stage of this crisis is the unfolding nature of the world which is changing

I miss my Mother greatly and I try to speak everyday but this epidemi is spreading and this leads to more anxiety

I really do not know when we will be able to take a plane and visit our loved ones

Very hard

I have always been lonely but coped with external distractions but I should focus on my studies during lock down

How are you

What are you studying

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re finding this so difficult. It can be hard on your mental health being isolated so you are very welcome on here to chat.

I’m pretty much used to being on my own and actually enjoy it most of the time. I live in a very small village with poor public transport and my family live on the other side of the country so we keep in touch via phone and WhatsApp.

Keep your spirits up.

Good Morning

I hope you are keeping well

Thank you for message

A positive sent from you

As you enjoy living by yourself could you tell me how you spend your days given self isolation and social distancing

I also speak via WhatsApp

Wishing you to be safe

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MissKota in reply to Roukaya

I read, do various craft activities and bake or cook, trying out new recipes. I am on Twitter and have made some good friends on there. I am also learning Polish on line.

I always start my day in a slow, lazy fashion, breakfast and coffee and then some time to catch up on social media and checking on family.

Then, an hour doing whatever household task needs doing.

Afternoons are me time when I craft or sew

Evenings are for TV and reading before bed.

I don’t really think there is any great secret, just be happy with your own company and believe in yourself.

Always happy to chat with new friends. 😘

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Roukaya in reply to MissKota

Dear Miss Kota

Thank you for reply.

I can see how you plan your day

I make a list and I end up only doing ond thing or becoming anxious

about the impact of the uncertainty which unfolds before us

I have been trying to order food on line which I managed to today this morning

My source of income may be uncertain given the impact of Covid 19

But I used to run a business and I have a small pot of savings should I need additional resources

I should develop the quality of endurance and acceptance of this chaotic and uncertain world

I do call my mother every morning and I have a uncle that I speak to as well

I think I should concentrate on what I can do within these limitations rather than of what I cannot do

Do you enjoy learning Polish.

As a matter of interest why did you choose polish?

Stay Safe

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MissKota in reply to Roukaya

Hi Roukaya,

You’re right, you need to concentrate on the things you can control and take the positives from that.

It’s hard to give up control of things but at the moment we all just need to concentrate on our strengths and and use them to make life bearable.

Do you have any hobbies you can do?

I chose Polish as I have a Polish friend who has fantastic English but I wanted to be able to talk to her in her language.

It is quite hard but good fun.

Look after yourself

Kat

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Roukaya in reply to MissKota

I hope you are well

I am pleased to hear from you

I think as I see the sheer volumes of those impacted with Corona virus very disturbing

Do watch the news

It is very worrying

I should study Wills and Probate and look for a years work experience in Wills and Probate in order to try to qualify

I have been trying for three years, it would seem I am easily distracted given my anxiety issues

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MissKota in reply to Roukaya

Hi Roukaya, how are you doing today?

May I suggest you only look at the news once or ice a day at most, preferably in the morning so that it doesn’t affect your sleep so much.

You said you write lists - it would be good to list all the things that are causing your anxiety, no matter how large or small. Then, with them in front of you, divide them into groups, those you can do something about and those that you can’t do anything about.

From there, you put aside the second list.

Decide on a time line for the things on your first list. It could be most urgent or easiest to achieve.

You can take each item on your first list and create action plans to achieve them.

That will hopefully help you to focus and take you mind from the things you can’t change.

Kat

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Roukaya in reply to MissKota

Dear Miss Kota

I hope you are well

How have you spent your day

Kind of you to remember me

I do write lists but my anxiety gets the better of me

Given the spread of the virus I think I remain in self isolation for the next four weeks

We are all very worried about the uncertainty but I have understood some people are open and some chose not to say anything

I think 🤔 it is the worry I have concerning an elderly Mother

But I am quite religious and I need to believe more in my faith and that there will be an end to this dreadful virus

I was going through my handbags and luggage today as I had performed the mini Pilgrimage in Mecca 🕋 in Jan and this seems a long ago

As I put my handbags away I wonder when I will be using them again

How did you spend your day

I should restrict the news I watch

Very good advice

Keep in touch

Stay Safe

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MissKota in reply to Roukaya

Hi Roukaya, I was thinking about you today. How are you doing?

I’m hoping things have improved for you and you are managing to find some positives from this situation.

For me, finding all these people in this group to share with is a massive positive.

How is your mama? Are you able to video chat with her?

Keep smiling Roukaya and stay safe

Kat x

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Roukaya in reply to MissKota

I hope you are well

The people are this site are very supportive

But I have been having problems with my Mother

She has a tendency to put all her problems on me

It will be the Month of Ramadan as from next Friday and yesterday I fastrf

My Mother rang me ten times yesterday and I told her she rang ten times

I rang her this morning and I hope to ring her this afternoon

But she has not rang in between after what I said

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MissKota in reply to Roukaya

Maybe if you set some kind of routine where she can phone you first thing in the morning and you phone her at night before bed. Explain how expensive it is to keep phoning and that is makes you anxious when she phones so much.

It’s very difficult as she is probably feeling as lonely and anxious as you but it isn’t fair of her to put all her issues on you.

I hope you are managing to get back to your studies.

Take care of yourself.

Kat

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Roukaya in reply to MissKota

I hope you are well

Thank you for reply

I am on WhatsApp and it is free

She has not rang since since this morning and I expect it is because I said she rang so many times yesterday

I spoke to her this morning and due to speak this afternoon

Thank you for asking

I am trying to set a kind of routine

I’m so sorry you feel so alone - it’s not an easy situation that we find ourselves in but we will get though it 🙂

I’m happy to listen and try to help as and when I can - sorry ☹️!

Have you considered speaking to the course provider and explaining your concerns? I’m sure in the current circumstances they will be understanding, reassuring and at the very least offer you as much support as possible?

Please try and keep yourself occupied (I know it’s hard), either by studying, trying a new hobby, reading or some other pastime - the more you keep your mind busy the better the time will pass

You could also try meditation &/or mindfulness both long practised, effective ways to deal with stress, anxiety and other mental health issues

Are you able to do some voluntary work - pop to an elderly neighbour and do some shopping for them, take their phone number and have daily chats, or see if a food store wants help restocking shelves or make up food parcels &/or deliver them?

Not sure if any of these suggestions would work for you and the list is endless but hope they may help you 🤗 x

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Roukaya in reply to Bluepup1

I hope you are well

How was your day

How do you spend your day given the self isolation imposed on us

I will continue to study for the resit

Go for walks

I am a Muslim and I will start to pray more regularly

I actually performed a mini pilgrimage earlier this year so I will try to have more patience in these testing times

I will try to cope

I volunteer at Age UK once a week but as I am a volunteer I will ask if I can give telephone assistance from my home

How do you cope

You have been kind enough to offer advice and suggestions

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Bluepup1 in reply to Roukaya

Hi Roukaya hope you’re feeling a little better?!

So far my day hasn’t been too bad thank you, I’ve been knitting and watching tv

Walking is always good - fresh air, change of scenery, birds singing and the chance to spot them and other wildlife - good decision imo and nothing to stop you from talking to others as long as you keep a reasonable (2 metre/6 foot) distance 👍🏻

I have also work (now at home - hate it) Tue, day off this Wed, work Thu n back 2 a long weekend from Fri to Mon, I will also be paid if I can work from home or not so that’s a relief 🙂

I think many more people will be praying in one form or another - if it helps, why not?! 👍🏻

Age U.K. is a great charity to work/volunteer for and I’m sure they would appreciate the extra help, very worth while and helpful for yourself and our older adults 🙂

It sounds like you are finding your way through the ‘fog’ and by yourself so you have a lot to be proud of - yes, you reached out, but by doing so it shows you recognised the need and took action to lift your mood - all positives to be proud of 🤗🙂!! x

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Roukaya in reply to Bluepup1

I hope you are well

Very kind words of encouragement

I am trying to make sense of where I am but always very worried for my Mother who lives overseas

Thank you and I wish you a good week ahead

Thank you for listening

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Bluepup1 in reply to Roukaya

YW! Glad to help whenever I’m able x

Please rest assured that you are not on your own - I think the majority of us are feeling the same x

I live with my folks and are concerned (getting worried) for them so I cannot imagine how it must be for you - just keep in touch as often as possible and I’m sure you’ll both be ok 👍🏻x

Aaww that’s kind of you thank you! You look after yourself, carry on with the things you’ve mentioned and hope you have a better week - remember we are all here to help each other anyway we can 🤗 Xx

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Roukaya in reply to Bluepup1

Thank you for listening

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Bluepup1 in reply to Roukaya

YW! x

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wiserlady in reply to Bluepup1

I hope you do not mind me replying to what you said. But suggesting he goes to an elderly neighbour to do their shopping sounds foolhardy to me. At the moment most able bodied people with cars or within walking distance of the shops are choosing to wait weeks for a safer delivery rather than go into a shop and take a greater risk of catching the virus. And that is for their own food, not food for someone else. Maybe it is better for them to order their stuff online and ask the neighbour if they would like some delivered at the same time - and much safer to speak to them on phone than go there. Its bad enough if you have no choice and have to risk catching the virus to go out for your own things without taking on risking your life for another person, especially one you dont know that well and is not a loved one.

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Bluepup1 in reply to wiserlady

Hi wiserlady

How are you? No I don’t mind you mentioning but I would like to point out I did post this before the recent lockdown and inherent stricter measures placed on us all x

I was only trying to help someone who was feeling isolated and seemingly downhearted to try and help someone else who may also be in the same position - obviously exercising the ‘rules’ about distance etc. Most people are (though recent news shows some aren’t) sensible enough to observe these measures without being reminded 🤷🏻‍♀️?

I’m truly sorry you appear to have been ‘offended’ by what I suggested ☹️ x

Take care 🤗 x

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wiserlady in reply to Bluepup1

No not offended. Just concerned. And its my fault for saying when it was posted before the lock down. But people like my partner and myself self isolated before the government thought of it - we didnt want to be told, we thought for ourselves. Under normal circumstances we would help a neighbour-not now - far too risky. As for going to the shop, wouldnt do that if you paid us a fortune. We are now starting to grow vegetables to try to make sure we are covered for food no matter what. I envisage a time when as more and more get the virus it will be harder to get the shops to deliver or be stocked . Less and less staff to do it. So you should think ahead.

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Bluepup1 in reply to wiserlady

No worries 🤗 x (I fully understand the need to self-isolate as my father has been more or less since before this virus came to light due to ill heath & I have (mild) asthma so kind of vulnerable myself)

I also live on my own, my health has always been poor, so at this time I am self isolated, I believe now I have the milder type of corona virus, maybe the virus recognised this? I have been in and out of hospital since the age of ten, and had enough pills to put Boots out of business, I am what my doctor calls me a "one off", I have various 'specialists' covering numerous conditions, one condition the only case known of in N. Ireland! I am immune to pain killers! Due to this I have virtually lived in isolation most of my life, but as my family motto tattooed on my arm PATIENTIA VINCIT [patience overcometh] my own motto on the other arm ADAPT THROUGH ADVERSITY! I passed my degree BA Humanities in History after 13 years of bad health and have just finished a book after ten years, ironically called 'Bodies for Sale??'

I did this on my own, self isolated, I do not have many friends because of this, ok I have two sisters whom are aware of my present medical condition and can ship in my food and medical needs! Probably a couple of days ago I thought I would be more susceptable to the COVID 19 strains I now believe the opposite to be true? [Hopefully?] I will survive! It is only for a couple of months there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am a twentieth century guy, but I do believe the internet, phone and even the old written word will help to break the pain of loneliness? A bit of humour always helps to brighten the day!

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Bluepup1 in reply to Adlon57

Sorry to hear of your health issues - I cannot imagine what it must be like for you bless!

Well done on your achievements - must be proud of yourself?!

Yes, humour always helps and if people listen to the advice we are given then it will only be for a few months 🤗 x

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Roukaya in reply to Adlon57

Your story gives a great deal of encouragement and understanding

I take a great deal of courage from you

I would be pleased for you to keep in touch and to find support

I wish you well

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Adlon57 in reply to Roukaya

Good news and bad news, I do not have Coronavirus, another lump on my "gentlemanly area" as my sister called it, [I have schwannomatosis, benign lumps which grow on my nerves] is causing the high temperature, I had not coughed or sneezed at all was the query point, I will need more operations but at least I can walk in the garden in the pyjamas! All the very best!

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Roukaya in reply to Adlon57

You must be very pleased

How I wish I had a garden

I hope you are able to manage now that you know your illness

How did you spend your day

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Adlon57 in reply to Roukaya

Blimey? Everything is happening, blood tested, prostate trouble [confirmed], operations coming up, sugar level too high, now being put on diabetes medication, and officially told to self isolate, am one of the few? Still am able to get out to the garden, cherry trees blooming! My doctor rang up with the news, he had just broken his leg, which I asked after, he really appreciated that! Still no Coronavirus!

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Roukaya in reply to Adlon57

Take courage and take strength

I enrolled to do. Post Graduate in Wills and Probate, I scored 46.5 per cent then 41.5 percent

I have now been told the exams have now been postponed

I registered for the course in 2017 and three years have now passed by which I have made no progress

As I live on my own and my Mother lives overseas I worry about her and when she struggles I normally go and visit

Now due these circumstances I have to stay put

I am thinking of studying for mental health awareness courses on line

In all of this I have learnt what matters to me the most and I expect you have learnt to value and appreciate what matters to you the most

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wiserlady in reply to Adlon57

You are better off than Prince Charles

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Adlon57 in reply to wiserlady

I am now since Monday when told by my Doctor, a routine blood test recently taken for another condition proved negative for Coronavirus, but close family connections prove to be my lifeline, I am now in a official isolated condition, isolated to the four walls off my house at least hopefully better weather I have a small back garden, a bit of sunshine and fresh air does help Coronavirus! Hopefully? I suppose I am better off than Charles in that respect, but IF I do catch Coronavirus, I am just as susceptible as him, it MIGHT not be the more mild strain?

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wiserlady in reply to Adlon57

So stay in - dont go out - dont meet people. Thats how to make sure you dont get any of these things.

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Adlon57 in reply to wiserlady

OH YEA???? What's on TV? in your face females, effeminate males, cookery programs [with what?] American detective and 'comedy' "shows", ENGLISH what is termed comedy programs, ENGLISH NEWS AND EVENTS, ENGLISH ADVERTS {Not available in N.I.}, INTERNET [have a virus now from a Covid 19 help web site?], read a book, I now have an eye infection? sorry will end this conversation, not very positive!

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Roukaya in reply to wiserlady

I saw a beautiful home for sale very near where I live

Just right a small home with a little garden ideal

If God allows the day I actually start working or start to find my way in Wills and Probate I will put an offer for that home

It is not big just beautifully proportioned

It is at a time like this we can take the time to try to create a life which really matters

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wiserlady in reply to Roukaya

Yes. It gives you time to think and a reason to rethink everything and then you can plan how you will achieve those ideals or work out they are a fantasy and forget them or just dream about them. Whatever it takes to move forward.

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wiserlady in reply to Adlon57

Wow. I know you did not intend to but you have really impressed me with the matter of fact way you share your circumstances and problems. Most would have found these so difficult and be moaning all of the time, or going on about how anxious and depressed they are, you really do make the most of it and cope so well. It would be nice to get to know you a lot better if that is ok with you . Have a nice day.

Go for it?

"Always look on the bright side of life!"

Very kind of you

How did you spend your day

Keep in touch

As I have no one in UK and I live on my own I am grateful for contact

Hi I’m also alone with no one near me. I’ve being self isolating since Friday and will be for 12 weeks or till Boris says I can go out lol

Hello, how are you coping with everything and being alone?

i Talk to my family and chat to ppl online but I’m waiting to move so obviously that’s on hold for couple of months or so. So at present I’m going through all my draws and cupboards sorting them out and then I’m planning on packing a lot of stuff I won’t use. lol

Good to use that extra time wisely and at least you are in touch with people. The days must be slow and very much the same as the day before though eh?>

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Roukaya in reply to Nuttyshirlz

I think planning your day and doing something with your end goal in mind is a very good idea

I should be preparing for retaking a Post Graduate Diploma but as soon as I think of the previous borderline failure I seem to lack focus

Am in a similar situation to you. I have my partner and he is here with me, but he is very busy with stuff, it doesnt follow that we spend all day together - I have no family at all and his family live a long way away and we just send each other a few texts or emails.

Good morning and what a beautiful day in Kent. I fully agree it's little more challenging in some ways living alone. But from other posts I've read above we have the advantage of being a little safer. If other people in the house go out even to exercise which I can't they possibly could bring something back. I'm stuck indoors as my letter said not to go out to exercise. But with the phone and messaging it's bearable. Keep your chin up. We can get through this.

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wiserlady in reply to TdeF

I woudlnt live with someone who goes out to shop or exercise and thinks they can come back and endanger me. They would have to move out and stay away while this all going on. My guy shut down his business and lost his income rather than risk meeting others now. I dont take any risks I dont have to.

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Roukaya in reply to TdeF

I agree

The advantages of being alone in the midst of this virus should be balanced with the costs of bringing and sharing the virus with some one else

This is one way to accept this

Hi there. How are you coping? Its a lovely sunny day here.

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Roukaya in reply to wiserlady

Dear Wiser Lady

Thank you 😊 for asking about me

I am ok

I have managed to arrange food deliveries 🚚 on line as it essential to maintain self isolation This is first time I have done so

They say Necessity is the Mother of Invention

How are you ?

How will you spend your day today?

I will try to go out for a very short walk for a little fresh air later today God Willing

I have been indoors since Monday so this is why such isolation takes a toil on my mental health

Also as a Muslim I can try to do the prayers more freely than before

I miss my Mother and I worry but I try to call to see how she manages

Thank you for asking

Much appreciated

Hi, regards to your post I'm very much in the same situation, I'm in Nottingham and I'd like to find a genuine person to talk to, ? If you ever want to talk I'm here 07485105018

karlkershaw1311@live.com

@karl7278

Hi, regards to your post I'm very much in the same situation, I'm in Nottingham and I'd like to find a genuine person to talk to, ? If you ever want to talk I'm here 07485105018

karlkershaw1311@live.com

@karl7278

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Roukaya in reply to karl7278

Hello

How are you

How are you managing with the self isolation

How is it in Nottingham ?

Derby is very quiet but the weather is very nice

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karl7278 in reply to Roukaya

Hey, so I'm 4 weeks into isolation and definitely not happy, but coping. I'm decorating my whole place as I need to get my head stimulated!

I have family in Manchester, mum and dad and they seem OK but there is not much I can talk about with them

I'm in Nottingham city and honestly I don't know or have anyone that is call a friend to talk to, I keep myself to myself. I know it's sad x

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Roukaya in reply to karl7278

Hello

I seem to have missed your message

I hope you are ok ?

I am also in Lock Down by myself and I have hardly any one I can keep in contact with

It is just incredibly lonely

What have you decorated so far ?

Apart from decorating how else do you spend your time ?

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Kazbe in reply to karl7278

Hi Karl 7278

I’m on my own in isolation just around the corner as it happens in sunny Derby 😎 I am struggling I must admit I have been painting and decorating to keep myself busy ! I can go out for a walk for exercise and I must admit it does lift your mood just getting out in the fresh air and sun but it is such a scary time for all of us ! I’m always hear to chat to if you need a friend 😀

Kazbe

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Roukaya in reply to Kazbe

Hello

I am pleased to hear from you

I also live in sunny Derby

Shall we call it Costa del Derby

How are you managing given this Lock Down

Just incredibly lonely

What are you decorating ?

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karl7278 in reply to Roukaya

I'm painting my whole place and laminated my bedroom, I'll get there!! I feel like I've painted myself at the minute lol , a good bath is in order!

Please don't judge but like you just said, I'm so lonely and I'm here for you anytime

I'm going to jump in the bath and I'd definitely like to talk more? That's if you want to? If you want to text or call, email or just message on here ? And please feel free to ask me anything?

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Roukaya in reply to karl7278

I would be pleased to talk on here

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karl7278 in reply to Kazbe

Thank you , if ok ill message you again in half an hour? I'm just running a bath and have 14% on phone , xx

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Roukaya in reply to karl7278

As it is late I think it is best we speak when you are able to talk

Thanks

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karl7278 in reply to Roukaya

Hi, sorry just out the bath, I'm going to be up for a while yet, and the same as you said I'm here anytime you want to chat ,

So, please let me know what if anything I could do that would make you smile?

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Roukaya in reply to karl7278

I hope you are well

I am surprised not to have heard from you

It is ok if you have decided to speak with Kazbe instead.

Wow hello x Gosh talk about random things, your in Derby lol just around the corner.

Weather looks ok, but a few clouds are on the way over. Not that it affects me as I'm HOME, alone and just plodding on with things to occupy me, DECORATING

So how about you? Are you ok?

So my name is Karl, im 41 and like you I'd love to find anyone that's genuine,

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Roukaya in reply to karl7278

Hello

I hope you are ok

I live in Derby

Kind of you to reply

You say you are decorating

What are you decorating

By the way I am fifty years old on my own

Many people live with their family’s

Do you have family you keep in touch with ?

I am not sure if this is applicable but you might take a look: cnn.com/2020/04/17/opinions...

It might feel like it but you are not alone.

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