Canon sand be due to parenting skills

[Sue0909]

Can autism be down to parenting

[Bananas5]

No. But as a parent you can do a lot to help.

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[cyberbarn]

Parenting can't cause autism, but how we parent can make things better or worse. Autism isn't a single condition, it can be caused by many underlying things, they haven't unravelled all the genetics yet, but one thing is certain, it is how the brain is arranged that causes these behaviours.

That said, there are things other than autism that can cause the same or similar behaviours that are found in autism. Take sensory problems for instance. Many children with autism are hypersensitive to sound. This could have various physiological causes, the the resulting behaviour is the same. The kids have meltdowns when the sound becomes overwhelming. And this is where parenting can help, you can remove the child from the noisy situation, thus avoiding the trigger of the meltdowns.

As you have posted this in a pain forum, I take it that who ever it is that has autism also has pain? What many parents have found out is that some of the meltdowns that their children have are because the child has chronic pain that no one knows about. Children often don't express this because they don't know that pain isn't normal. So for instance a child might be start playing up on the walk to school, then have a full blown meltdown when they get there, caused by having undiagnosed and untreated condition in their feet which causes pain to build up as they walk.

Does that help any?

[deejames in reply to cyberbarn]

you are righ cyberarn. Children with autism often have a disordered perception of pain, either feeling it more than would be expected or less.

Emotional and sensory pain is just as much pain as that from a physical cause.

Many years ago parents with autistic children, particularly mothers, were blamed for their children's condition, causing great distress and trauma to those poor parents.

We still don't know what 'causes' autism. Maybe we never will.

Parents, however can help with the correct management of the child but this can be extremely stressful and exhausting. Any parent of an autistic child needs huge amounts of suppport and understanding. Respite care is an importanty part of that support but is not readily available. Support from friends, neighbours and family is vital.

Dee

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I’m not really sure why this question is being asked? Autism is just one word for so many different things that are all genetic. The autism spectrum is HUGE.

But I don’t understand why your asking if parenting can cause it?

Bad parenting can cause behaviour issues but not genetic issues like ADHD , ADD, Autisum etc

[jointpain]

Am I the only one who cannot understand the question?

[Hidden in reply to jointpain]

No lol

[johnsmith]

What question are you asking? Where are you coming from?

Are autistic meltdowns due to parenting? Yes it is. However, before you beat yourself over this consider that the skills needed for looking after an autistic child are way beyond what most people need for looking after a child who has not got autistic problems. It takes time to develop skills that you never considered that you need. It takes time to find ways to develop these skills when all your friends do not have these skills.

It is the subtle things that are important. What takes place before a meltdown. What actions work to bring a meltdown to a close. What skills can you help build in a child to become more aware of meltdown issues and take steps to avoid.

Having autism is not the end of the world. There are autistic people who have a phd.

An important skill is to learn to observe dispassionately. Buddhist Meditation and Mindfulness is good for this. Many people do not know how to observe dispassionately.

In a system there is a stress breakdown point. Below the stress breakdown point the system functions. Above the stress breakdown point the system falls apart. There is a relationship between stress and performance. The control of internal stress takes a lifetime to learn. Sometimes the internal stress rises too fast when external stresses are applied. The skill becomes not to allow the internal stress to rise above a certain point.

Also if internal stress are too high information gathering and learning cannot take place and hence skill development for handling new experiences cannot take place.

Hope this has been helpful.