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I always listen to the Festival of 9 Lessons and Carols from Kings College Cambridge on Christmas Eve. Something my parents did when I was little and something I have carried on wherever i have lived. That 90 minutes is me time in the kitchen. No one is allowed in - no one. no exceptions.

In years gone by I would make sausage rolls. Yup flaky pastry, skin my own sausages. Mince pies made from home made mincemeat. Stuffing for the turkey with home made breadcrumbs, dried herbs etc. It was magical when a little girl and just as magical now.

This Christmas Eve was different. My faithful old radio had pipped its last pip and so the computer was tuned in. The solo voice of the young chorister singing the opening verse of Once in Royal David's City as the processional carol had begun there was a knock on the door. David. OK it is your tune come in. (He was born 23rd December). No he said.. I don't feel very well.

Knowing this was my sanctuary, announcing he didn't feel well was real. I abandoned any thought of getting to verse 2 and went with himm. The cold he'd had for a week now seemed worse. He was wobbly, couldn't breath and nasty things appeared to be gathering in his lungs. Topped up his fluids, assorted meds plus man size balm tissues for the sore nose, hot water bottle and off to bed.

Once the coughing had quietened he seemed to sleep. Few checks and although breathing very shallow he seemed OK.

Back to kitchen to catch the last and best Carol - Hark the Herald Angels, my Granmother's favourite. She could sing every word of every verse on exactly the same note. Loudly.

Somewhere between Christmas Eve and Boxing day is the 25th December. I don't remember this years. What I do remember is David waking me early on Boxing Day asking me to find a duty chemist open. Whatever for I asked. I don't know he replied but there must be something I feel dreadful. Me being my usual sympathetic self reminded him he had 'man flu' and it had to run its course. But I will admit even I was concerned. It had gone on longer then the usual few days. I rang NHS24. Lovely lady answered. Gave her David's details, explained what i wanted where upon she asked 2 questions. The answer to both was yes so no hesitation. I want him in. Transport on its way. Be ready in half an hour. Clunk phone went dead.

We have a wonderful NHS24 system up here and I had no doubts if they thought him seriously enough to go in then there would be no questions from me.

He was first taken to the duty Doctor. Usually they would come out but as there are so many calls over the period, they collect and take you there. GP one look...A&E. Off he went by Ambulance. They wired him up. Dripped him up. Blooded him out. Took notes of his drugs. Raised their eyebrows and sucked their teeth. Talked to him. Mumbled in corners. Sent for nurses. Sent for bed. No bed. Rang me.

Heart ticking solidly. Bloods OK but did show infection. Where? Noted that to find out. Breathing very shallow. Noted he has COPD. Big noted - takes Oxycontin and Oxynorm. More raised eyebrows. Ruled out side effects but still noted twice.

Poor lad by now had less stuffing and blood than Bag puss the saggy cloth cat. But they found him a bed, fed him and said lung Xray in morning to check for blood clots. Really? Yes you have flown long haul recently. I have? Yes you wnt to Lanzarote. That's long haul? Yes.

He is home now armed with buckets of tablets. Strict instructions to do nothing for a week and then take it slowly. And then start up the ladder again but a bit further down than the last time.

Happy Christmas to everyone.

Happy New Year too.

Pat x

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Hello Pat

Sorry you has been stressed over the Christmas period, my Father came back from Holiday several years ago and had a clot in the leg that ended in the lung. He died about two weeks on his return so I understand how you have been so concerned to get him into hospital, although now hopefully David should be on the way of recovery for the New Year.

It is a horrible time of the year for the older generation to take ill especially when hospitals seem to be running on half empty.

All I can say is sorry you missed the carols, although I know David is more important and He seems to understand the care you give throughout the year

All the very best to the both of you

BOB

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Bananas5 in reply to

Thanks Bob. No he didn't have clots this time just infection.

Sure I can find Carol service but doen't seem so important now.

Steady on with the older generation too. I am as young as the man I feel!!!

x

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Hello Pat

Like you I am as young as the women I feel. The problem is they will not let me feel and if I try I get called a dirty old man. Lol

BOBxx

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Life is a buggar Bob! I have an excuse, Cos I can;t se I have t feel them. Works every time!!

Stay out of trouble

x

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katieoxo60

Sorry to hear David has been ill over Christmas, hope he is on the mend now. Just goes to show with health problems you never know what's round the corner. Hope you are a bit more relaxed today and chance for a little me time. I wish you both a better start to the new year xx

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Bananas5 in reply to katieoxo60

Just one of those colds which went sideyas. Guess no immunity makes them worse. Still we were on our own so with dogs for company I could do what I liked!

Just knocks him back and never quite get back to where he left off.

Hugs

x

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nedd

You both must have matching shirts saying

keep calm and carry on.

May your climb up the ladder be slow but sure. dont forget to admire the view on better days.

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Bananas5 in reply to nedd

That's lovely. Thank you Ned.

Actually I have a Border Collie mug which says....

I can't keep ca;m...I have 2 Border Collies!!

Pat x

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Ha.

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Curlygirl54

I'm so very sorry you and David have had such a rotten time over Christmas Pat, you've made fairly light of it in this post but I know just how horrible it has been for you both.

What strikes me is the absolute care and devotion David receives from you, whatever you are doing or plan to be doing he comes first - you are an amazing person and he is very fortunate to have you in his corner.

I do hope the antibiotics are starting to kick in and he is starting to settle and feeling stronger

Thinking of you both muchly and sending big hugs

Shirley

Xxxxx

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Bananas5 in reply to Curlygirl54

Thank you Shirley.

Once i knew he was in safe hands and being looked after I did quietly enjoy some time alone.

To friendship and support from you and many others. Makes it so much more bearable.

x

Hi pat happy new year hope u get all u wishes for u and David over the coming year

Love to u both. Peter xxx

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Bless you Peter and the same to you.

You and many others have helped me this past year and long may we all continue.

Gentle hugs

Pat x

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deejames

Oh Pat . what a freaky scary time for both of you. I do hope David is on the mend now and you can take it easier.

I'll be thinking about you both over the next few days.

Love Dee

Xx

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Bananas5 in reply to deejames

Thanks Dee. As you will know anything 'extra' is always hard to deal with. I have him immobilised, or so I thought, while the anti b's gget working. And when he calls me i turn the computer a little louder.

Take care my friend and hope you, at leastt, are missing all the storms we keep getting. Number 6 now or is it 7?

Hugs

x

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We might be missing the storms but in my enclave winter vomiting but has struck down 9 out of the 11 who had lunch here on Sunday. Since 2 are in my house and I am related to the rest its been busy. Going this morning to drop off supplies to the sickly ones 12 miles away. Why I have remained free I cannot tell especially since I take meds that compromise my immune system. If I do go then it will be so horrible.

I got acupuncture yesterday and she sent me home with the instruction to not do anything for the afternoon. Cue youngest son staggering through the door having almlst thrown up into his motorcycle helmet.

Hope David is improved and you can keep the vo!time down .

Xx

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Oh gee Dee this is awful. At least there was only David and me here. Or me on my own. Do you know what starting it or was it the dreaded bug?

Yup doing nothing is always easier said than done. Consultant told David sit, or lie, or sleep for a week. Do nothing more than toilet and sleep. Apart from nailing his velcro slippers to the floor he is shuffling well. Says he is helping me. No dear you are NOT.

Yup he's on the mend and good to eat freezer contents for a while.

GP this afternoon for 2 weekly monitoring sp hope they both talk about the routine tuff and not digress.

Storms have been bad here, worse for many a year. Hens shut in their run and dogs blowing over.

Hugs

x

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deejames in reply to Bananas5

Oh that sounds savage. Its a bug that hit. Started from my grandson visiting g his other granny at the care home where they must have been incubating it. He brought it home and off it went.

Actually I enjoyed being able to help the others . its becoming increasingly that I'm the dependent on and I hate it. Especially my husband who doesn't even let me pack the shopping at the supermarket. I feel redundant at times and yet I'm doing pretty well with pain at the moment. Have reduced the MST just so I can get some brain function back. Pain levels OK despite that. I'm getting really good acupuncture weekly just now which works extremely well. Costly though.

Winds died down today ? We are frosty and properly winter like at last.

Dee

Xxx

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Bananas5 in reply to deejames

Dee shall I email you?

x

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Bunnytwo

Hi Pat Wishing David a good recovery and better health in the new year love and best wishes to you both x

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Bananas5 in reply to Bunnytwo

That's kind thank you.

Just back to his usual pain levels will be manageable!

Hugs

Pat x

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Boozybird

Gaud Pat! There's a Xmas drama for you both.... Glad it resolved well tho and as others have said, reading between the lines it's a heartbreak really... :( Thankful for all those NHS staff that work hard over Xmas, for the respite you had (although hard to 'enjoy' while you're worrying about David!) and all the other small miracles that occur at this time. Sending love Pat and wishing you a less eventful new year! X

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Bananas5 in reply to Boozybird

I only ever have praise for our wonderful NHS from consultants right down to porters. They work undeer difficult conditions these days and even though we are devolved NHS here they do exactly the same job. Yes I geet a little cross with them sometimes but a please and thankypu should be given more freely.

And believe it or not - it really was peaceful without him! In safe trusted hands while I made difficult decisions. What to do with cold turkey!!

It isn't his first stay and won't be his last and, as all chronic pain sufferers know, it is so hard to cope with anythingelse on top of the pain.

We meet those challenges as and when they come along.

xxx

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