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I am not BusyLizzie. I am her husband. I can see Liz has been receiving a number of messages. Sadly she will not be replying as I am afraid my beloved wife lost her fight and passed away Thursday the 24th May.

I know Liz was keen on this sight and so I thought it best to let you know.

Kindest Regards

Jan

Edited to say I have responded to your lovely messages in the thread - about post 33. Thank you.

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wendydee

Hello Jan

I'm so, so sorry to hear your news but I am also glad you came onto this site. I had been in touch with Ruth at Ovacome and knew what had happened.

It was so obvious, from her posts, that Lizzie drew such great strength from the love of her family. I know, from personal experience. I often think we overlook the battle that our husbands face when one of us is diagnosed with this #****# disease, so I'm sorry to have this communication but glad I can tell you how much I thought of your wife.

I know I didn't know Lizzie, except in the virtual sense, but I felt like she was a real friend. I hugely admire the way she coped with her illness. She never sounded sorry for herself or appeared anything other than positive, even if her news was not positive of latter months.

She showed great courage, great dignity and great humanity. She also sounded like a whole lot of fun to know. Her thoughts showed a sensitivity to the needs of others and to the world around her. I still think of her a lot.

I know you are going to miss her hugely but do come back on here for a while from time to time, as I'm sure I'm not the only one whose life has been touched in a positive way by a wonderful woman I did not even know, except in this weird virtual world.

I am sure others will want to tell you how much we will miss the wise words and thoughts of Lizzie.

Warmest thoughts to you and Lizzie's family

Love Wendy xx

Jan... I am so so sorry she will be dearly missed on this site.... I loved her so much even though we never met.... and I know others on here feel the same...

my heart goes out to you,her dear Mum and Brother.

Thank you so much for letting us know, such a hard thing for you to do .

Love Gwyneth xx

Jan,

There are no 'right' words. I am so sad to read of Lizzie's death, and so sorry for your loss.

Wishing you and your family every good wish at this awful time.

Thank you for being so thoughtful and letting us know.

With love,

Isadora.

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Flyhigh

Hello Jan,

I am so sorry to hear that Lizzie has passed away. She was always so kind and upbeat in her posts on here, she truly was an inspiration.

I wish you and your family all the very best at this difficult time and sending you lots of love and good wishes xx

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Bloomin

I am gutted to learn of this news particularly over the Jubilee weekend when so many will be celebrating. I have been a fairly new and very apprehensive member of this forum. When I raised a question about summer clothing and feeling like a killer whale with my swollen belly, Lizzie's answers were so positive and humorous. Her edits alone made me feel better. My deepest sympathy to her husband, family and all her knew her. xx

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julie93

Dear Jan,

I am so very sad and sorry to hear that Liz has died.Thankyou for telling us.

My deepest sympathy to yourself, her family and all her friends,

Julie

Hello Jan

I was thinking only this morning that I hadn't seen any posts or comments from BusyLizzie for a while and wondered if this meant that she had deteriorated. I'm so sorry to hear this news and extend my deepest sympathy to you and your family. Liz was clearly someone very special and I hope that the fact that this was recognised by the Ovacome community is some small consolation as you mourn her loss.

Linda

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kitjules

Jan,

I am also so sorry and sad to hear the news of Lizzie passing... my thoughts are with you and all her family and friends.

Julie x

Jan im truly sorry to read your news about lizzie.

She had been in my thoughts constantly the past couple of weeks and im very grateful to you for letting us know.She was an amazing lady and my sincere condolances go to you all. m

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ScardyCat40

Dear Jan,

I am crying as I write this. Lizzie had great spirit and I thought of her often particularly when I was doing my run. I will miss her very much

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charlie12

Dera Jan

Deepest sympathy to you , I cannot even begin to imagine how you must be feeling , but we very much appreciate you letting us know.

Charlie xxx

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bosue

Jan, I'm so sorry of the loss of Lizzy she always added something to the foram advise ,laughs and smiley faces , I feel she was one of my friends, feel bad I hadn't answered for a week or so but have been in hospital,she will be greatly missed,my sympathy to you and your family. Love Sue x

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suse

Dear Jan, I am so sorry to here of Lizzies passing, she was an inspirational woman,and always gave good advice and she will be sorely missed. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family.Love Sue x

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SandyL

Dear Jan,

I'm so deeply saddened to hear of Lizzie's passing. She was a wonderful supporter and advocate to the many women who posted here asking for advice and support. She helped each and every one of them and she will truly be missed by all of us. God bless you and your family in the days ahead. Sandy.

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Meryl

Dear Jan

I am so vey sad like everyone else who knew Lizzie , she was so supportive to us all and we, like you will miss her very much. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Love Meryl

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MargaretJ

Dear jan,

There are no right words to express my sympathy, i am sad for your loss and will miss Lizzie very much, she has been a great support to us all and to me personally!

With deepest sympathy.

Margaret

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Whippit

Dear Jan

Thank you for letting us know. Lizzie has been a wonderful member of this community and I always looked forward to reading her posts. I admired her quirky sense of humour and her various 'takes' on issues that were such an inspiration and full of fun and wisdom. She was a truly lovely lady and a caring friend whom we shall all miss.

I'm sending my heartfelt condolences to you, and to her Mum and brother.

Annie

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nandi

Dear Jan,

I have been very concerned that Lizzie had not posted. As you know all of us here loved Lizzie. She was the first person to respond to me and with great advice. I know words are inadequate but my thoughts are with you. We will all miss her so much.

Lots of sympathy and love,

Dorothy

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SusanC

Jan,

I am so sorry to hear this sad news, Lizzie was truely a lovely lady, she always took the time to answer questions and always seemed to look on the bright side, she will be sadly missed by a lot of people on this site. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family, I hope you can draw strength from knowing that Lizzie touched so many peoples hearts.

Love

Sue

x

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spanishanna

Jan what can I say . I loved your lovely wife. I am so sorry.

Love, hugs Anna xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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lizward

Jan I am so sorry to hear that Lizzie has passed away! My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I loved reading lizzie's comments and she will be sorely missed. Love Suex

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Jacks150

What can I say that everyone else has not already expressed. I have gained so much from " virtually" knowing Lizzie and in some way felt she was a friend.

She gave such great advice and comfort to loads of us and was so strong and brave fighting to the end. She leaves a legacy of being brave and popular in her compassion for others even when she herself was not doing so well.

We will all her miss her and are thinking of you and her family.

Lots of hugs

Jackie

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Tess

Dear Jan, like everyone else who has commented I am so very sorry to hear that Lizzie has passed away. She was always so supportive in her comments and advice and I will miss that tremendously. My heart goes out to you and your family at this terribly sad time.

Love Tess xx

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ladygooner-uk

Dear Jan

I can't add anything else, huge huge condolences for your loss.

Sue

Dear Jan

I was deeply saddened to hear that Lizzie has lost her fight. And fight she did, not just for herself but for all of us. She was a great inspiration to us all in so many ways, not the least with her humour and her gift of common sense. She also always knew the right things to say in comfort, compassion and advice.

I shall miss her so much. She had become a very dear friend. I wish rhat I had known her in person.I shall miss our chats.

Lizzie often talked of you and of your love and support, how much she valued it.

She would have been so proud that you had the strength to let us all know that she is no longer with us. Thankyou Jan.

My condolences too to dear Lizzie's Mother and brother.

I hope that the messages on this site will have bought you some comfort, knowing how much Lizzie was loved and admired and will be missed by us all.

With love Sue

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LizK

Dear Jan,

Thank you for letting us all know. i had been wondering how Lizzie was doing as she hadn't posted for a while, and thought of her often. She will be very much missed as she always had valuable and supportive comments to make - plus fashion advice! My heart goes out to you in your loss and I hope you can gain some comfort from knowing what a tremendous person Lizzie was that she was able to fight so bravely till the end.

Love Liz X

I am so sorry. I was only thinking of Lizzie this morning and was going to ask if anyone had heard from her. Her posts on this site have been an inspiration to me and I will miss her greatly. She was one fantastic lady and my thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

Love Chris x x

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SueLR

I would like to add my deepest sympathy to you and your family at this sad time.

Warmest wishes

Sue

x

Dear jan,

I have tears in my eyes as I read your message. Busy Lizzie was so near to my heart, and always there when you needed an uplifting comment on two when you were feelingdown. Thank you for letting us know.

I will miss her so much. As soemone else said 'nobody thinks of the husband' in these cases, but my hear goes our to you and the family.

good luck, and keep in touch.

Viv

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Heffmeister

My thought are with you and all at this difficult time. As you have already read Lizzie gave alot to this site with her positivity and upbeat attitude. She will be sadly missed, may she rest in peace.

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Ruby

I am so sad. We were richer for knowing Lizzie and so much poorer for losing her. Shopper, stylist, researcher extraordinaire, I am so sorry for her hubby and other family and friends. A bad day for all of us. xxxxxx

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suzannehadenough

Dear jan.

I have just seen the news of lizzie. Im at a loss for words to be honest. Ive only been a member ov this forum for about 10months. And whenever I have had trouble coping the ladies on here are always there to help me along. Lizzie was among those on here that I consider to be my friends and her chirpy positivity will be sadly missed. My heart goes out to you and your family. May lizzie rest in peace and always be remembered for her courage and bravery. I hope I can be like her. Lots and lots of love

Suzanne. X x x

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BusyLizzie

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I loved my wife at least as much the day she died as the day we met 28 years ago. Our experiences together made our bond stronger. She was many things as well as inspirational to many people all her life. She didn't diminish to the end. I am so proud of her for the way she fought. We knew it was only a matter of time, but despite this she put up a remarkable battle with spirit and determination right to the end.

She wrote me a farewell poem. Whilst it is deeply personal I'd like to share it so that people can see what we meant to each other.

Jan For Liz Forever

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I met my soulamnte in I.T.

We bought a house and he moved in with me

We travelled the World on holiday

Shared hobbies galore along the way

We worked hard and became secure

And our love grew strong and mature

Then at our best I became ill

We knew we would go through the mill

We joined together to face each knock

But it was always a race against the clock

He did everything I could ever wish

Even fricassee - my favourite dish

Only one thing now is left to do

And that is to say goodbye to you

I wish you love in your new life

Know I was proud to be your wife

When you stroll through the leafy wood

I'd be with you there, if I could

Instead you'll know where my ashes lie

And in that comfort our love won't die

Goodbye my dear Jan, Love forever

Your Liz

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

(one for every year without me)

I hope I told Liz often enough how much I loved and cared for her. I know people say time will help but that seems a long way off at this moment. I am proud to have shared my life with such a remarkable person. I am priviledged and honoured that she chose to share her life with me.

Love to you all.

Jan

in reply toBusyLizzie

Jan'

Thank you for sharing these very special words, Lizzie mentioned that she wrote poetry, she certainly was a very gifted lady...It would be nice if they were put into print, ( even if it's just a pamphlet .....).... I for one would be very interested to buy one.. ....A lovely tribute to our special "BuzyLizzie"

Love x Gwyneth x

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Cara2

Hello Jan,

So so sorry to hear your news - I had been looking for her comments just this past week, wondering how things were. She displayed a wonderful strength and determination in her comments. Her many funny, helpful comments. Bless her.

Remember the good, happy times, myself & my husband will be thinking of you. I wish there was more one could say that might help. Take some small comfort from the number of comment you have here - how Lizzie touched us all.

Take care

Cara

This news is so sad, life cut too short and too fast, my condolence to you and Lizzie's family.

M

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jurassic

Dear Jan,

I am so sorry to hear about Lizzie she was one amazing lady.

Thank you for sharing her farewell poem .you must be so proud of her.

Many condolences to you and your family.

love Marilyn

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Jan76

Dear Jan ,

So very sorry to hear this very sad news , Lizzies poem is beautiful .

My heart goes out to you and your family .

Lizzie was one very brave lady .

She has Helped so many lovley ladies on here , Lizzie will not be forgotton .

Love Janet .

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lucy1dog

Hi Jan, mother and brother,

Lizzie has been such an inspiration to us all here I have had great support from her that I know we all have enjoyed. We all know how this disease works but apart from her funny and sensitive side Lizzie was very knowlagable and always sought out the answers to our questions. I am not ashamed to say I have shed a tear today for a lady that became a friend even though we never met. I send you all my thoughts to you at this sad time. I will miss her.

Linda xxx

Dear Jan

Thankyou for sharing Lizzie's beautiful poem of love.

With love and a gentle hug I used to share with Lizzie

Suex

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thehusband

Hi Jan

So sorry to hear about Lizzie, like most i didnt know her but she had sent some words of hope to me regarding my wife before. You dont need me to tell you how sxxxxy this disease is and the devastation it causes to families.

Everytime i read a post that says someone else has lost their fight, i just know sooner or later it will be my wifes time.....as you know we all fight to delay it.

I wish you and your family peace and happiness.

Take care.

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FlorenceW

Hi jan,

My love and best wishes go to you at this very sad and difficult time. I too hadn't seen any recent posts from lizzie and was worried. She was an inspiration to us all on this site-my heart goes out to you!

Florence

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trolleydollyuk

So very saddened to hear of your loss. My deepest condolences to you and the family, Lizzie will be missed by many of us, a truly inspirational woman

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Anne-2

Dear Jan

I was so sorry to see the news of Lizzie's death- she was a fighter to the end and I know you must be so proud of her.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family,

Anne

I am so very, very sorry. Lizzie faced the grimmest reality of this disease with courage, wit and dignity. She touched the lives of so many and we will all miss her. I will never forget her. My thoughts are with you and her family.

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Bettyann

What else can I say, it's all been said. So sorry Jan & family. Rest in peace Lizzie

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jennybutler

thankyou for sharing your love for each other with us, we all loved her and have been thinking of her more of late, be sure her spirit will stay with you and you WILL meet again in a better place. You inspired each other real soul mates, please tell her mum brother and family how much she was read and loved on this site and hope it gives comfort at this very sad time.Never to be forgotten.xxx

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Eleni

Dear Jan

Lizzie was truly an inspiration to us all and I loved her too.

Thank you for sharing the deeply personal poem; you must be feeling bereft, but maybe knowing how loved she was will help you somewhat.

Bless you

Eleni x

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VickyEm

Hi Jan

The number of people posting is testament that Lizzie touched all of us. Her absence from posting, I'm sure, was noticed by all of us immediately and we shall all miss her.

So sorry for your loss. xxxx

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cathw

Dear Jan

So sorry to hear this sad news. As others have said Lizzie was always so supportive to others on this forum, offering wise words with her own very special touch of humour. Such a caring person and will be sorely missed. My thoughts are with you and Lizzie's family.

Catherine xxx

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starlight

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Starlight x

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Chez

Dear Jan,

I'm so sorry to hear this news. Lizzie always made time to reply to the worries, comments and concerns of others with encouraging words. Like everyone else I was wondering how she was getting on of late. I know from her poem and your words you have shared with us that you have been such a loving support and strength. We all know how tough it is for partners and family. She was an inspiration and I am sure you were to Lizzie.

Chez x

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MargaretJ

Dear Jan

Lizzie inspired me and many of us! Please look at the blog "i wrote this one day when I was angry!" Many of us want to do something to celebrate Lizzie. She is the same age as my son! I do not use the present tense in error! Lizzie inspired and helped me and I am old enough to find death not unexpected! hope that you can find the strength to get through the next few months after that you need to live and remember that Lizzie would want you to be happy and remember her!

I wrote a poem for Lizzie, very derivative I know but it is on the website above!

Be strong! Lizzie was!

Margaret!

Can't be at her funeral but would like to send a donation in her memory! To whom and where?

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BusyLizzie in reply toMargaretJ

Margaret,

Lizzie left notes having a preference for donations to one of the following instead of flowers at her funeral:

Kemp Hospice - a local day hospice

Macmillan

Ovacome

Cancer Research

For reasons I could go into privately, I am gathering all the donations from people at the funeral and other friends. The funds will be evenly split between Macmillan and Ovacome. i.e.: the support organisations. I am happy to receive a donation and make it part of Lizzie's contribution if you feel that would be better than contributing directly.

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bosue in reply toBusyLizzie

Jan, would love to make a donation, was going to anyway in Lizzies memory, message me with any details if not I will do it on line, hope you have some comfort from all the messages and how many lives lizzie has touched, cyber hugs Love Sue x

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MargaretJ

Dear Jan

I only met Lizzie on here! She could be my daughter and she inspired me so! I will make a donation in my own name because Lizzie inspired me but a few of us are planning something bigger inspired by Lizzie's verse and hope to begin a memorial to her spirit! When I go Leeds Uni gets my remains (I am an atheist) and I hope my friends and family will celebrate my life!

I knew Lizzie only on here and for such a short time but she made me laugh and enjoy life and I shall remember her as a lively, vibrant beauty! You were lucky to have loved her and she loved you too!

Margaret!

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MargaretJ

Ps I already give to Macmillan and cancer care, and our local hospice so Ovacome it is! Not much (pensioner) but I hope to raise more in future! Please can I have full name for dedication? Use email annajohn40@yahoo.co.uk

Be strong as far as you can! Lizzie was amazing!

Margaret!

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sunny1

I am so so sorry to read of Lizzies passing, my heart goes to you at this time and I will miss her posts on here. Much much love to you and your family

Kate x

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Becalm

I was so sorry to read of LIz's death. Deepest sympathy to you and all those who loved her and great respect to her memory. She was clearly a feisty lady and contributed a great deal to others in the fight against this horrible disease.

- 'Peace to her soul and a stone on her cairn'

B.

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Lizneild

She was loved by people she didn't even know. She touched souls.

People you will never meet are with you as you carry her heart

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Helen1

My condolences.......she will be missed.

Beautiful poem,thanks for sharing with us.

May she rest in peace.

X

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Fitzy

Please add my condolences to all those lovely comments already sent for Liz. The poem was so moving. I have read lots of Liz's comments on this site and she was always so upbeat and comforting to everyone. xxxxxxx

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sarah1963

Dear Jan

I felt as though Lizzie was one of my best friends. We called each other 'twin' and I felt as though she looked after me. I know this sounds far fetched when we never met in person but it is because she was warm, funny, brave, loyal and very kind. You know this of course and I am deeply sorry that she is no longer with you except in spirit. I will never forget her.

Love Sarah

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RuthPOvacome

All of us at Ovacome are really saddened by the news of the death of Lizzie and send our thoughts and condolences to her family. We know how much all her responses meant to people on this forum and how much she was appreciated.

Hearing of someone's death from the illness that you are suffering from can be really hard so do please feel free to either email Ovacome or give us a ring if you would like to talk through any feelings that have been bought up by this news

Best Wishes

Ruth

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daisycandoit

As a relative newcomer I too benefitted from meeting Lizzie, she was so brave and positive, Love Diane xx

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jan50

Although I have not been a member of this site for long I found Lizzie's posts very informative, witty and funny, she was clearly a very special person,

my sincere condolences to you and your family

X

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AimingForTen

I'm a newcomer to this site, but recognised Lizzie's posts for her incredible wit and spirit. I'm so, so sorry to hear this, and my condolences go to you and your family. x

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