A tribute to my Mom

[Chasinglight]

My mother passed away four years ago from pancreatic cancer that had spread to her brain. She was a good woman and even though she did not want to be a mom I still loved her and believe she loved us kids too. In her own way as she said. As she said when she was dying before she went into a coma for nine days, she was not meant to be a mother. I wished I would have been more understanding of her situation. I'm sorry mom. I love you, always did and always will. When I see you again I'll tell you in person

[Seasun36-uk]

Hello Chasinglight,

I’m sorry you have to remember that about your Mum. She probably felt she’d somehow let her children down, as many parents feel at one time or another. I’m sure she wouldn’t have wanted to be without any of you.

Sending you hugs for today 🌼🌸🌼

[TinaB1]

Hi there Seasun has said wise words. Did you know though that this site is for Ovarian patients. I was thinking that the healthunlocked pancreatic might be a good place to find support.xx

[Cropcrop]

I’m sorry this is how you remember things, it’s good you love your Mom and always will and now have a clearer understand why things were the way they were, our children sometimes test us beyond reason but we still love them regardless and we know they really love us too, they’re just finding their feet in the big wide world and often not in a way we’d choose for them.

I think we all think we could have been better parents to a greater or lesser extent but we did our best with what we had and I’m sure your mom did too. I know I look back and sometimes wish I’d loosened the apron strings a bit more and had been slightly less protective but all we want is to protect them from a sometimes very cruel world. I also believe we can look back and think we could have been better children to our parents, I know I sometimes do, but we can’t undo the past.

It’s easy to look back with regrets but we need to try to look back with love and understanding, I’m sure she did the very best she could with what she had and loved you all without any question.

Love and hugs to you today lovely ❤️Xx a Jane