The news nobody wants to hear

Hello to all you fabulous ladies on this site. My name is David and Gillian is my by far better half for the past 38 years. I am devastated to have to let you know that Gill died when on her way to bed at about 11p.m. On Saturday night. I am in a daze now, 4a.m. Sunday morning. I needed to thank you all for the many messages of support and helpful information that Gill received over time. She would be adamant that one day a decent cure will be discovered to put paid to this wicked evil desease. Keep as well as you are able to and pray for this miracle to occur. At least now Gill is free from the dreadful pain that blighted the last few weeks of her life. I'm going to miss her and her strength and hope that now some of that strength will rub off on me. Love. Hugs and best wishes to all you wonderful friends, from both of us. David and Gill.

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  • Oh, David, I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of Gill. One more angel fighting for us from above. Thank you for letting us know she is free of her pain and worries. I wish you all the best in navigating life without her. You were strong for her and if you need to pull some strength from us, just holler. Huge hugs.

  • Greatest sympathy at this moment. Hope you have gained as much as her strength as possible. May she rest as she has left the pain behind.

  • Dear David, I wanted to post the news of my wife Gauri having tested NED , six months post her last chemo. But news of Gillian having been taken away to a better world has definitely robbed the sheen off Gauri's NED. Indeed none of us ever want to hear of such news and pray to Almighty to give you the strength to bear this irreplacable loss. Incidentally , we too will be completing 38 years of our married life coming Thursday. God Bless and Keep the Faith.


  • Dear Naimish, Gill would be so pleased for Gauri and yourself as of course am I. She would want you to be shouting from the rooftops your fantastic news. So please go ahead , find a high roof and shout so loud that Gill will hear you and smile. Congratulations on 38 yrs married and do all you can to make it 50. Love and best wishes to you both. David and our faithful little friend Timmy our dog.

  • Dear David, firstly thank you for letting us know about Gill's death, I've just read all of her posts again and what a powerful and inspirational lady - even if she didn't feel it or recognise it herself.

    I am thankful that she is not in pain any longer but feel heartfelt sadness for you that your beloved wife and friend is gone.

    I pray for her and you, this is such a hard, dark place for you to be and I pray that you feel all the warm and caring wishes coming your way. I hope that your happy memories of your life together will bring you some comfort.

    Thinking of you,

    Clare X

  • Hi David. Im sorry to hear your news. Thank you for letting us know. May your memories comfort you at this difficult time xx Kathy xx

  • David, thank you for letting us know. I have only had contact with Gill recently but her enthusiasm and generosity were a wonderful model for me and I am sure for others as well. She will not be forgotten. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  • David ,

    I'm so so sorry and saddened to hear of Gillian's passing.

    Damn this wretched disease.

    Am thinking of you and your family.


  • Dear David

    Our sincere condolences, and prayers that she may she may now find the most beautiful and finally perfect existence beyond our broken earth.



  • Such sad news. Thank you for letting us know. We will be thinking of you. xx

  • Dear David, I'm so sorry, and can't imagine how you're feeling, right now, but it must be awful. I wish I could give you a big hug, and send you much love.

  • I am so very sorry for your loss David. May Gillian rest in pain free peace.

    Take care of yourself.


  • so so sorry to hear this awful news, but she is now at peace., take care David, your wife was an inspiration to us all. hugs xxx Jeanette

  • Sending you heartfelt condolences for the sad loss of Gill. I hope you can take some comfort from knowing she isn't in any pain or discomfort anymore. In time hopefully you will be able to remember and take comfort from memories of all the good happy times you had together. Take care of yourself, sending you lots of love and hugs xxx

  • I can add nothing to whats already been said, but want you to know that my thoughts are with you and your family as you come to terms with life without Gill. She was a remarkable lady, and Im sure in time, you will draw strength from the memories of your 38 years together. Take whatever help you need to get you through the immediate future. Much love to you. xx

  • I'm so very sorry David. Thank you for letting us know. Fly high Gill xx

  • Oh David such sad news. Praying for strength and peace for all who loved Gill. Much love to you. xx

  • Sorry for your loss x

  • So sorry to read your post and wishing you strength through the coming weeks. Trix

  • My heart goes out to you in your loss . I am so sorry David . You will find a way to live : Gill will want you to keep fighting on her behalf ,this awful disease . Our thoughts are with you .

  • Hi David, I am sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. 💞

  • So sorry for your loss

    With love

    Judy xxx

  • Dear David ...

    I'm really sorry to hear your very sad news. I knew Gill was under the hospice and I hope that helped her in terms of managing the pain she had towards the end. I will pray for a cure and a miracle. Sending hugs. Xxx

  • Dear David.

    I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Gill and have each day been thankful each time I've checked into health unlocked that there was no word.

    She was an inspirational lady and I hope you can take comfort in knowing how much she supported me and others, all the time. A beautiful selfless lady.

    May she rest in peace.

    Much love to you and your family xx


  • David,

    I'm so sorry to hear of Gill's passing she has been an inspiration to so many people on this site including my special person she's helped raise awareness of this terrible disease and for that so many people will be grateful.

    I hope Gill is now at peace and free of pain, I also hope you stay in touch with everyone on this site as they bring so much comfort and support to people in the darkest hours when people feel there is nowhere else to turn.

    May Gill Rest in Peace.


  • Hi David so sad to read this. Thankyou for letting us know. Thinking of you over the coming days Dee

  • I have only just seen this...I am so sorry to hear about Gill. My thoughts are with you David..Gill is at peace now but you are bereft.

    Take care of yourself and please accept the support and help that others want to offer you XxL

  • My thoughts are with you. All the best.

  • Deepest sympathy ... gill is not in pain anymore and she will always remain an inspiration to us all ❤️

  • Such sad news but at least she's no longer in pain. Thanks for letting us know and we are thinking of you.

  • I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. my thoughts are with you. hugs Linda xx

  • Dear David, so very sorry to hear about Gill. I was listening to Steve Wrights Sunday love songs reading your post and they were playing Witney Houston singing Greatest love of all! You will both be in my thoughts and prayers. Love Bridie.

  • Dear David,

    Im so so sorry for your lost. Be strong! Gill is with angels now, pain free. She looks after you and after us.

    May she rest in peace. Xx

  • David-My heart goes out to you losing your mate. She was a strong fighter and a inspiration to all of us here. May you find the strength to go on. Although we never met her in person her courage against this horrid disease gave us a shared kinship. I am glad she is out of pain and suffering, in a sense she has beat cancer in this way.

    XX Carol

  • Dear David, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. x

  • Lots of hugs


  • So sorry to hear this news. Sending love to you and your family. Xx

  • My prayers are with you. So sorry that Gill has been taken from you. I hope that you find peace in the future. xx

  • Hello David. I am so sorry to hear about Gillian. She was a wonderful person who has and still will help to raise the profile of this horrible disease. May she rest in peace but will never be forgotten. You and your family must be so proud of her xxx

  • I'm so sorry for your loss David thinking of you xx

  • So sorry to hear the sad news about Gill , will light a candle for her tonight. May she rest in peace. Keep hold of all those special memories and hopefully they will ease your pain through the coming weeks. X

  • My heart breaks for you right now as I read this. I have no words. Gill was definitely is an angel for the rest of us. Thank you for sharing with us. Much love,


  • David, I am so sorry to hear this news. I hope that your many happy years together remain the most important thing - Gill was a wonderful person and we are all lucky to have known her. Take care of yourself now too and give yourself all the time you need to do what's necessary. Sending condolences to you and the wider family too and very best of wishes.

    All best,



  • David,all of what the ladies have said,I don't feel I can add any more,it's such a sad day,but,thanks for letting us know and you take care of yourself,

    Carole x

  • So sorry for your loss. A very sad time for you and your family x

  • Hi David, I am really sorry to hear this very sad news. It must be a huge shock to you. My heart goes out to you at the moment. Yes Gillian is now pain free and her suffering is at an end. I am sure you will miss her greatly. We will also miss her here on this site. Thinking of you

  • Very sorry for your loss!!!

  • So sorry David. May the pain ease with time to be replaced by happy memories.


    Lou xxxx

  • Ah David I am so sorry for your loss, Gill has gone to join all our other angel warriors who have all had to endure so much with this hideous disease.

    Sending my prayers

    Ellsey xx

  • So Sorry David for your devastating loss.She was a great support to many of us here and was so pro active with the evil disease.She will be part of you forever and will be remembered with love and affection x

  • David, I'm so sorry to read of Gill's passing. I'm certain you were a great comfort to her during her time with this disease and throughout your life together. Please accept my condolences. Ann x

  • God Bless you both. I am so very very sorry.xx

  • So sad to hear Gill as gained her teal wings

    My sincere condolences to all her loved ones x

  • Sad news ..I'm so sorry , try to look after yourself , I'm sure she would want you to do that xx

  • We are so sorry for your loss xxx My husband of 1979...(like you ?) has been a solid rock of support to me throughout my life but specially so with my illness and both of us appreciate what you have said and also done for her. Please take some satisfaction and joy in the knowledge that you were there for her always ... better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all xxx

  • David......How devastatingly sad for you and your family. I pray that God will give you the strength that you need at this time. Sending hugs from far away.......JudyV.

  • Dear David I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. You must be devastated. Sending peace, strength and hugs - Kim xo

  • I am so very sorry to read this, sending you virtual positivity to help with the coming months. May Gill rest in peace

    LA xx

  • So sad to hear this news, David. You will have some lovely memories to help you overcome the devastation you now feel. Gill would not want you to be unhappy for too long. Take care. Hugs x Carole H

  • So so sad to hear the news of your dear Gills passing.Hope the wonderful memories of the happy times you had together,will bring some comfort to you now and in the coming months.

    Rest in peace dear sister Gill

    Jackie O xx

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