A positive can always come out of a negative

I was on my last legs in August 2014, I had a bloated stomach, couldn't eat, had lost 3 stone in as many months and kept vomiting.

I couldn't be bothered to shower and spent most of the day in bed, had just come back from Singapore and thought it was down to a stomach bug.

Then our wonderful friend the OC reared its head and with the draining, op and 6 months of Chemo, have had the long haul as so many of you brave ladies have.

I'm fully aware it could return at any time and I will board the merry go round again and I don't know how I will feel if that happens, but today has been a good day, I am still in remission and my check up gaps have been lengthened.

I say all this not to gloat because I think you are all amazing, but to offer hope to ladies on a bad day. I never thought I would cope given the worst news, but, when a plan is in place it is surprising how we all find the strength to get through and have a positive outcome.

Live each day as it comes and thank you for listening.

I will still log in each evening, I live in awe to what we all go through and love to hear all your news

Lots of Love,

Carole xx

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  • Great post Carole glad to hear you're in remission and doing well. Long may it continue xx

  • Thanks Katmal,

    Still in the club though!

    Best wishes to you too xx

  • Wonderful to hear about your ongoing progress. So much to be thankful for. All the extra days we thought would not be ours to enjoy. My final first line Oncologist appointment is on Friday, after CT scan tomorrow . Everything crossed. Hoping to be NED.

    Best Wishes. Loraine x

  • Lovely to hear your good news, we always love the good stories because they give us all hope. Well done and I hope you go celebrate,

  • Yes thanks Suzuki,

    One more check before the wedding, yours must be imminent? Am having a glass or 2 of red wine tonight and have my 2 year old Grandson tomorow, good times, love to you xx

  • Fantastic News!, thanks for sharing your story . You are so right we all need to hear the good outcomes ,,wishibg you continued renission and happiness

  • I always love to hear the positives from the ladies, no matter what we are going through there is always hope and a story from someone who has got through adversity,none of us should give up, there is inroads being made into treatment of this disease.

    Best wishes,

    Carole xx

  • Wonderful Carole xxxxx

  • Thanks Tina, best wishes on your journey xx

  • Fantastic news! Wishing you all the very best for the future.

  • And you, we all try our best, hoping you are ok xx

  • Thanks for posting Carole, just what I needed to hear this morning as I'm struggling a bit mentally at the moment, love kerry xx

  • So sorry you feel like this,I really hope things start looking up for you, I know how hard it hits us mentally, that lingers.

    That's why I'm starting at a support group to try and manage my depression at times.

    I wish you all the best, we are always here when you need us xx

  • Thanks Carole, Its an anxiety thing which reared its ugly head at Christmas but I'm getting there. It's my day off work today and I've just got back from a lovely walk in the winter sunshine which has also helped. Take care, love Kerry xx

  • Well done Kerry, I know you have posted about your Dad in the past, as I have replied, sometimes you just have to focus on yourself and it will get you through, just think, soon we may be walking in warm sunshine! (I live in hope), keep in touch,

    Carole xx

  • Yes the anxiety thing is related to my relationship with my Dad and everything else catching up with me. I'm now taking more time out for myself, hence the lovely walk today. Roll on the spring and warmer days ahead, take care and thanks again, love kerry. Xx

  • You too xx

  • Brill - long may it continue! X x

  • Thanks Littlesan, I wish you all the best too xx

  • Great post 😀 I too am 1 yr free today xx

  • Excellent Emilou! I will be 1 year free in March, so we are keeping pace on the same journey.

    I wish you all the best xx

  • Such a positive post Carole and you are so right when you say once a plan is in place it gives you the strength to get through. You are now giving me inspiration to be ready for whatever my scan will show . I will be either ready to fight or relax . I have always been preaching " live in the moment " but I dont always listen to my own words. Take care and may your remission continue for many years.


  • Thank you MollyO, if I've given inspiration to 1 person it's worth it, will you let us know how you get on?

    I don't always listen to my own words either, we all have ups and downs, that's life, stay positive and you will get through

    Lots of love

    Carole xx

  • Thanks Carole

    I was told scan would be within the next 3 weeks so I will be doing a lot of praying. Will let you know. Meanwhile stay smiling and positive and I will try to do the same. I have a little book with prayers and positive thoughts for every day of the year and I read it every morning. It gives me the jump start I need !


  • Goodo MollyO, will be thinking of you,let us know how you get on xx

  • Wonderful news. So happy for you and your family xxx

  • Thanks Tabropane, best wishes to you xx

  • Small world :) Where did you live in Singapore? We lived in Balmoral Park and Merryn Road between 82 and 84 and Kay Siang Road between 90 and 92. My youngest was born at Gleneagles and worked at Tanglin School. xxx

  • I can't believe that!

    My dad was in the Navy and I went to Naval base school, we lived in Mageedee Park in Malaysia then moved over to Naval base flats opposite the Naval Base in Sembawang.

    When I got ill it was the first time I had been back since then, Sod's law!

    Many a happy hour was spent in C k Tangs and the Alexandra club round the corner from Raffles.

    It had changed so much, but still felt nostalgic.

    I recognise all the names you said, but I don't know why!

    Would love to hear more!

    Carole xx

  • CK Tangs is still there :) We were members of the Tanglin Club and had friends who belonged to the Dutch Club. Singapore has changed enormously since the early 80s and TBH I wouldn't chose to live there again. Too many ridiculous rules. We deliberately chewed gum and prayed for someone to piddle in a lift ( that was BANNED!) I grew up in Ceylon and went to school in South India until I was 16. Simon and I have lived abroad since 82 ... in Singapore twice, Hong Kong, Thailand and now the UAE. Jeanne xxx

  • Hi Jeanne,

    I agree Singapore had changed beyond recognition and wouldn't stay there for any length of time apart from a holiday. You sound like you have had an interesting life, I must admit I could do with a bit of foreign sun, since it seems like it has been a long winter here in England,

    Best wishes,


  • Super news and an inspiration. I start my first round of chemo on 24th for PPC. Was being really positive but have a nasty chest infection. I've got antibiotics and a week to get better. Been waiting five weeks for chemo to start because of bed shortage. No wonder I feel low. You have lifted my mood xxx

  • Sorry you feel bad Gleedy, I had infection after cold after virus the whole time during chemo,but was lucky enough not to miss any treatments.

    Pretty sure antibiotics and a week will get you ready for chemo,stay positive it's only onwards and upwards from now on, best wishes,

    Carole xx

  • Thank you

    Tracey x

  • Happy days Carole. Great news and yes, this will give some mu h needed hope to our new group members. Ann x

  • Thanks Ann,

    Best wishes to you xx

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