Ruminating tips: Do you find that you are trying... - OCD Support

OCD Support

1,361 posts

Ruminating tips

Starrlight profile image
21 Replies

Do you find that you are trying to be happy in the present but you keep being interrupted by negative thoughts. Im also finding that I conclude that bad is happening to me. I want to be free like a hawk.

So far I am telling my mind stop and I deep breathe through it when the worry comes up but it still keeps coming up. How to ease and erase the anxious and/or ocd obsession?

Written by
Starrlight profile image
Starrlight
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
Read more about...

The ability to reply to this post has been turned off.

21 Replies
Sallyskins profile image
Sallyskins

One of the things about mindfulness is that you need to allow the thoughts in, but not hold onto them. It's a skill I haven't mastered myself! Thoughts do come and go, and the more you push them away the more they come back with force.

So it's about not pushing them away but acknowledging them and then leaving them alone.

I don't know about being free as a hawk. People are not hawks, and we need to learn to be free on our own terms.

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toSallyskins

Thanks for the tip. It makes sense to acknowledge and leave alone.

About being free, I just want to feel I can handle what comes up and have and maintain have inner peace.

Sallyskins profile image
Sallyskins in reply toStarrlight

It's difficult to tell a busy mind to stop, isn't it? There are things that encourage you to be meditative though. Some people have found drawing conducive to it, and go to life drawing classes. I've found sewing by hand helpful. I don't know how it works, but there is something about keeping your hands busy and concentrating on a task.

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toSallyskins

Thanks so much that’s true staying busy with the hands... working on it.

Ulisse profile image
Ulisse

HI Starlight

it s normal for intrusive thoughts to intrude when you are trying to be peaceful and trying not to pay attention to them. The quickest antidote is compulsions, which unfortunately work for a very short period and normally means a proliferation of intrusive thougths.

The best method is a variance on CBT and its called ACT. This is basically Acceptance of the thouths without fighing them. It may be hard at the beginning, but it works - let the thoughts be and concentrate on what you are doing. When the thoughts continue to interfere, just carry on and try to ignore them or accept them for what they are - just thoughts. And they do not originate from you brain on purpose by your will.

Supplementing ACT techniques with medication works - antianxiety medication such as lorazepam etc work (well for me it does) and aids to improve your sleep patterns like quietapine are very useful. Try to be active without being overactive on purpose and ary your objectives or hobbies if you have any. The thoughts will diminish.

Hope this is of use to you, let me know. no rush.

Cheers

Max

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toUlisse

Acceptance of the thoughts and keeping on with what I’m doing sounds good. When they are negative I wonder if after acknowledging if I could counteract with positive thoughts. I’ll be trying over here, Max thank you.

Ulisse profile image
Ulisse in reply toStarrlight

Hi

you can try to counteract with positive thoughts. Though I think that the less attention we give the negative thoughts, the better off we are. It may work for you better concentrating on positive thoughts, we are all a bit different. I would rather promote a blank mind and carryying on with whatever we are suppose to be doing in our life.

cheers

be well

Max

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toUlisse

I am putting my all into raising my nchildren well but I want to have something I am passionate about and good at for later in life. Working on it...wow a blank mind sounds amazing! Working on it. Thanks, Max

Ulisse profile image
Ulisse in reply toStarrlight

Difficult to get to a blank mind without training, meditation, effort and a lot of luck. What i meant by 'blank' I meant a peaceful, un-anxious existence, a normalization from what the intrusive thoughts bring to us. That s I think is possible without the same meditation efforts etc, but it still requires patience and alot of acceptance particularly in the early days.

cheers

be well

Max

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toUlisse

I’d taken mindful meditation classes and it did get easier and I benefited greatly... must have gotten lost... practicing deep breathing now to ease back into it.

adogg383 profile image
adogg383

All good techniques! I have a had a busy mind and ocd all my life, ruminating was an understatement... I was also debilitated by intrusive thoughts..... I didnt want to get on meds, as I had tried quite a few and withdrew from benzos VERY hard, not fun! I did TMS, practiced meditation, breathing exercises, etc.. Nothing truly worked until I combined saffron oil and cbd oil... For the first time in my life, I am at peace and happy, I can be 100% in the moment, now, and that's when you truly live!

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toadogg383

I’ve tried cbd oil but not with saffron. I’m in such a bad place. Nothing seems to help much. I’m glad you have found what works for you.

adogg383 profile image
adogg383 in reply toStarrlight

I may have been in a worse place, i was afraid of the world and not comfortable in my own skin.... I was tormented by intrusive thoughts and negativity and, everyday, I considered stepping off the curb into traffic.... When you are even afraid of gong to family events, the hole is huge! I dug DEEP, and you must as well! I told myself, I dont just want to survive anymore, I want to thrive! You will thrive, too! Don't ever give up! Life will be beautiful :) Adam

alfreddy7 profile image
alfreddy7 in reply toadogg383

Hello adogg383I know this is and old post

How did you take the saffron with tea?

I’m also trying to avoid meds.

When you get the thoughts did you engage in them?

I feel like if I let mine just be and accept them, They tend to stay longer.

adogg383 profile image
adogg383 in reply toalfreddy7

I started taking 15 drops twice a day of the saffron oil in water along with 8 drops of cbd oil under my tongue. when i got better, took the saffron oil once a day with the cbd...Yes, just let the thoughts be. Mine were horrific... They are just thoughts, NOT REAL!

I now just tell them to f#$% off, and they do :)

Adam

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toadogg383

Wow I came upon this post from a year ago. I’m in a much better place now in general. How are you doing now Adam?

adogg383 profile image
adogg383 in reply toStarrlight

Same! :)

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight in reply toadogg383

😊

OldSkin profile image
OldSkin in reply toStarrlight

Hi, it's very encouraging to hear that you're much better. My wife is struggling with the thoughts and letting them pass. She's on sertraline and had some therapy which wasn't much help. What worked for you - did you try the saffron/CBD oil? Many thanks, Mike

Starrlight profile image
Starrlight

I must dig deep... I don’t know what to do, how to do that... I started running in December and it really was a help but now I’ve injured my foot. I’ve been praying sincerely to God. I try to help people but it’s hard because I need so much help myself...I feel like a bad person. I’m so tired. I won’t give up thanks Adam

Riverchick profile image
Riverchick

Try the headspace app it has really helped me .

The ability to reply to this post has been turned off.

Not what you're looking for?

You may also like...

Struggling with persisting intrusive thoughts. Any tips on how to avoid giving into compulsions would be very helpful!

I haven't wrote on HealthUnlocked before so I'm a newbie, so hello everyone, and I hope you've all...
jasummers profile image

We can't give up

Last night I felt awful. I was hysterical, trying to clean my 'contaminated' room until 2 in the...
jasummers profile image

A thought

So I’m just gonna jump straight in to it. When I was 7 I was molested by a family member who was a...

Please help

I feel so down at the moment over my intrusive thoughts, its like when im happy, Im waiting to be...
Faith7 profile image

Hiding contamination issues.

Hi, I have in the past had cognitive behavior therapy for G.A.D/contamination o.c.d. Sometimes I am...
chaoticbag profile image

Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.

Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.