I have had RA for about 15 years and osteo for 30 and another form of it from age 11.
I have both or one in my hands back feet ankles knee both hips ,and my neck and have now spinal stenosis due to spurs growng n my spine , but not able to operate .
Today is my 56 birthday and mentally i feel about 30, and some say 3 .
I have had both hips repalced and the first one has dislocated twice and at risk of doing it again ,but will not change it . this is due to other health issues that make me high risk, I had cancer treatment before first hip and the chemo caused me to have major P E .This delayed op for 18 months . year later after second hip had anothe multi PE so all good fun . I have lived and loved and brought up my children and worked .But now can not work kids are grown and gone thier ways . I try to be "normal " walk without my stick as long as not oo far , ie to the car , drive as little as poss as it painful and leg swells and painful.
My eldest is actully embarressed by the fact have been so ill . And keep her and my only grandchildren distant from me . But influanced by her new partner to a great degree .
Feel something wrong if i have a day that pain relif work and not in agony, but it also like it if do not move but well that last all of 3/4 mins .
So i feel we can only rely on and help ourselves as much as possible .
But I try to enjoy my life with my few friends i go out when i can but am ok at home alone but some still find it hard to understand ,why one day can walk to the shop but can not carry anything back , but another day. can not move from the chair , but the chair day is a result of the first .
But must smile and enjoy what we can , :))) xxxx