How sick do you need to be?

My cousin in his early 70s lost his wife on Sunday. He rang 111 as she had a turn( how he described it) and was very shivery and rambling. They said she was not unwell enough for an ambulance. 2 hours later she was unconscious and her breathing irregular.was told to wait and see how she did. He said no and kicked up a fuss. Admitted to A&E and died a few hours later from sepsis. They had no children . She can’t have a funeral from the church and only 5 people can attend the graveside. Many can’t attend due to self isolating. We are scratching to find people to support him. Irish family funerals are enormous and God bless them they attended every family ( on all sides)party with very generous gifts. My heart is broken for him

[Mmrr]

So sad 😪

[sylvi]

Send him my condolences. Xxx

[rab1874]

Very sad xxx

[Dspooky01]

So sorry for him, you, and all the family xxx

[patsymay13]

How tragic xxxx

[Lolabridge]

Oh dear that is so sad for all your family and your cousin in particular. x

[Summerrain14]

So sad. I’m so sorry for your cousins loss and all the family. x

[helixhelix]

Very sad, hopefully everyone will rally round for a big memorial in a few weeks when things have calmed.

At age 70, once sepsis had taken hold they may well not have been able to save her even if they arrived earlier. It’s brutal in the elderly.

[VeronicaF]

so very sorry, my heart goes out to you all

[Ruth12345]

Im very sorry to read this. Thinking of you and the family.

[physicalwreck]

Very sad sorry to hear this

[Eiram50]

I so sad to hear this. Thoughts are with you .

[Pippy25]

So sad to hear this, I cannot imagine how your cousin must be feeling and offer my sincere wishes at this difficult time.

[nomoreheels]

How awful, for both your cousin & his wife, extended family too, I’m so sorry. Possibly arrange a gathering in her memory once all has calmed down? I do know how important such things can be for Irish families.

[springcross]

Really sorry to here this. Condolences. It's a really sad and cruel time.

[hatshepsut]

So sorry

[Morigan]

That's awful and so sad...🖤

[JFlay]

😥

[Neonkittie17]

So sorry to hear of this. Truly heartbreaking.

[Shalf]

Awful situation. Was it the Ambulance Service themselves who refused to come out or the GP? Shocking either way! Poor souls. Your cousin needs support. Hope his GP recognises this. Heart goes out to all of you.

[Hidden in reply to Shalf]

It was NHS111

[Barrister]

I’m so sorry for your cousin’s loss. He will be remembered in my prayers tonight x

Clemmie

[Dodo1943]

How sad. My eldest daughter's mother-in-law died similarly aged only 60 several years ago in an ambulance which stopped a few yards from the house on its way to the hospital in a vain attempt to resuscitate. Sepsis is dreadful.

Sincere condolences to all family and friends. There are likely to be many late memorial services this year: two so far to be arranged in the community here when the current plague is vanquished. It's heart-breaking.

[Happygranny1958]

So sorry to hear this. So sad. X

[janmary]

Add my thoughts to the many on here for his sadness

[Bookworm1961]

Good morning J1707

My heart breaks for him too. A similar thing happened to my family a few years ago. It was my poor dad hadnt been feeling well the doctor came out to him dad wanted him to call an ambulance as he was worried about his heart. The doctor said nothing was wrong with him and wouldnt waste ambulance time then he left. Mum said for the rest of the day he laid in bed his feet were cold to the touch. Following day he died. My dad was a lovely man and trusted doctors I no longer do. He was 82 I know he had had his life but he could have been saved but for doctor negligence. Most of the family wanted to press charges but mum just wanted him to rest in peace. I will never get over it. My thoughts are with the family.

[Plumcrumble]

So very sorry 🙏

[Otto11]

How sad. I’m so sorry for your families loss. It’s awful anytime but just so much more difficult at this time. X

[Cress]

So sorry to hear this. We all think how bad can it get and this is the reality. I think some funerals are being recorded? Not that I think this is a great solution but it might further down the line. X

[Nuttyshirlz]

Condolences to your family

[MadBunny]

My thoughts and prayers to your cousin and family at this difficult time.

[Babyviolet]

So sorry to hear this ,response not quick enough that's so sad ! May she now RIP x

[Hidden]

That's so distressing. I'm sorry to hear how they were treated. I've never heard of an unconscious person being denied an ambulance. Being elderly makes it even more important.

In normal times the family could put in a complaint about it, but I guess now is not the right time.

Condolences to all. xx

[MandiS]

So sad very sorry for your families loss.

[Monkeysmum]

Sorry to hear this news. Death is hard enough to deal with without also having to come to terms with a feeling that perhaps more could have been done. Only personal experience I have with sepsis was with my husbands’ Grandfather, it seemed to take hold incredibly quickly and even though we got him to hospital he was gone in a few hours.

Sending condolences to all your family.

[sueshepy]

Its such a tragedy Im so sorry hear of your loss.

[Smiler53]

How awful. My deepest condolences.

[Sheila_G]

Bless him. That is so sad. x

[JJJA]

So sad 😞 my heart goes out to him xx

[Valerietemps]

I’m so sorry to hear this. May God be with him and give him the peace that passes understanding.

[Mattsdog1]

It’s very worrying they didn’t think it was necessary to come out immediately, presume you get through to a call centre and maybe they need more training, so sorry for him

[Bradclew]

That is absolutely terrible he should ki k up a fuss that is wicked