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Hello all, I hope you are all pain free today. I have been plodding along ok on MTX 20mg and sulphazalaine, Celebrex and targin when needed. Anyway bloods are all ok, apart from elevated albumin.

I am about to move house tomorrow and I feel that my body is refusing to participate. I am doing it alone for lots of reasons, but am overwhelmed and in pain this morning. I feel I have so much still to do for the removal men at 8 tomorrow. I just want to crawl under a rock and hide. Spent yesterday in bed as I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck.

Please send encouragement, why do our bodies fail when I need it the most.

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Hi good luck .you will suffer.all this to do to much for you ..after it is done plenty rest and back to paceing little bits not chunks .when you recover from this .good luck hope you get through it

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Hi ninja73,

I hope you are doing better by the time you get ready in the morning. But I must say, could you be experiencing a little bit of anxiety about your move? Sometimes when I know that I have to do something that only I can do, for what ever reason, I seem to get sick(er) than a "normal" day. I am not saying that this is you, but sometimes, not even really noticing it... It's me.

If you are this way by chance too, be patient with your self and breathe deeply, if it does not hurt. You are in my thoughts and I wish you the very best. Congratulations on your new dwelling place.

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Hi Ninja73. It sounds like you're in 'situation normal' for this stage of a house move. The panic really sets in and you convince yourself that the job is never going to get done. Having moved house far too many times already, twice by myself, I can sympathise. My first step was to make an emergency box of kettle, tea, coffee, milk, sugar, biscuits, mugs, teaspoons, medicines, loo rolls, soap, towel etc. Then ensure that a sleeping bag or my bedding was to hand (to fall into when the adrenaline ran out). If you have room in your car it's also a good idea if you can pack a torch, matches, candles, light bulbs etc. Next, take a deep breath and tell yourself that it will be fine. Only do what you have to. Your new home will take a while to sort out but there no mad rush to do it all at once. Great big hugs

J

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Oh my darling don't you have any help at all. Perhaps the removal men could help you when they arrive as they will see you have tried. Hugs darling.xxxx

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Thanks everyone, it’s so nice to know that there are people out there that get it. I have done a fair bit today and feel like there is light. You are right my anxiety levels are pretty high, I too have moved more times than I wish to remember, but this new health issue is a hard one to deal with sometimes.

I am excited for the move really as it’s a new chapter for me. Deep breathing all the way..... xx

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Oh sweetheart, you are a brave girl... A move in recent years very nearly got the better of me: If it hadn't been for the downright chivalry of the movers in making no comment whatsoever and just going back later in the day - I had only left behind the fridge & washing machine!! I so wish you well for this "new chapter". Heartfelt best wishes for a happy future.

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Love Gnarli practical advice plus others encouragement. Yes difficult time without extra health issue. Pleased you can now see light at end if tunnel. All the very best. Dont try and do too much in one day....we all want to...really hope you enjoy your new place. All the best and be kind to yourself

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Hi Ninja ,sorry your having to do it all alone. Just do what you can I'm sure the removal guys will understand. It's more then likely the stress of moving that's making your body rebel so try to relax it will all work out in the end.Hope you will be happy in your new home.

Regards Mike

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Try and look at the positives and enjoy your new home, you will get through today. Sending hugs.

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Hi Ninja 73

Oh how I know how you feel! It is so unfair isnt it? Do what you need to do then throw yourself on the bed for 15 minutes or so in between, put some music on and tell yourself it will be all over in 24 hours.

I am driving 9 hours next Sunday with a furniture truck to pick up son and family and dont know how I am going to do it! Painkillers and coffee and prayer. And I know I am going to be wiped out after it.

We are in the same boat my dear. When one has RA we dont have mole hills in our life but mountains and we wonder where we will find the courage to climb yet another mountain.

Hope you get a really good sleep and feel encouraged that others really do care .... this site does I know.

Hope the pain eases off enough for you to cope tomorrow.

Warm wishes....... and a big hug.

Rosie

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Sending you gentle hugs 🤗 I suspect it’s the stress of the move that is causing you pain. You will be ok once it’s all done, it might just take a few days of rest after the stress and anxiety about moving is over. 🤗🤗

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Make sure the first thing that's put in place is the bed, and then use it!

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One more little, ok big, hurdle & then you're in there girl. Your own place, nobody to say I don't like that colour or that piece of furniture there & best of all nobody to bother you if you want to or need to rest. You're nearly there so find that last spurt of energy & then that's it, you can flop. I envy you, we've just had another offer on our house, very close to the asking price, after the last one messing us about for 6 months then just as we were about to complete telling us he hadn't the funds. We should have pulled out as he was asking all sorts of us,could he buy the freehold etc, delaying tactics. Trouble is although this couple are very keen, even overly it's her dream house, they've only just put theirs on the market (to buy ours) coincidentally because they'd taken it off because they'd had the same thing happen to them but for 11 months! We've lost the bungalow we wanted, they received an offer 3 weeks before this couple said they wanted ours, this after the agents ringing regularly asking if we were still interested & us saying yes, but I've resigned myself to that, we weren't meant to have it.

So you enjoy your new home, the stresses will melt away when you've decided where everything goes & can relax into it. Have you decided where you want to put your Christmas tree? x

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Good idea to lower your standards! Seriously, try to be one of those people who don’t pay such close attention to all the details. Try to focus on breathing, and try to relax....pretend you are overseeing a move for someone else. Nothing is as important as your health😊 you can do this!!

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Thinking about you and wishing you all the best for tomorrow's move. I am in the same boat, trying to clear and pack up a house on my own. Hang in there, look forward to the day after tomorrow, feet up and celebrating your achievement, remember you can take as long as you like to unpack.

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Wish you better and hope you move goes ok

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