We been trying for over 6 years - i 43 yrs now so kinda giving up hope...... any one had any experience with this???
My disease is uncontrolled at the moment - in between biologics and on steroids - had ivf twice a couple of years ago but no joy .,....... so hard☹️
Any success stories out there?!!
Yes! Don't give up hope ! I tried IVF , options, lotions, tablets, sniffers , scans, laparoscopy, tests etc etc etc lol and all no use .
BUT they found I had cystic ovaries and gave me metformin. Then more IVF and voila I got pregnant after 10 years of trying!
A few worries as the baby was maybe in the tube but no...he's just turned 30!!!
18 month later they kept me on sniffers and baby no2 arrived! Doctors were so pleased as they had managed to " keep my hormones going"and i also lost weight which they said helped. Cystic ovaries make you gain weight.
So I was very happy with my two boys!
10 years later for no real reason I put on weight. Couldn't work it out why my tummy was so distended. Couldnt feel anything. Went to doc who put a monitor on me and said " hear that?"... I was thinking what is it ..and realised it was a heartbeat... yep I was pregnant without IVF!! And I was 5 months! So rush to get ready etc and I had a lovely girl!
So hang on in there. It is possible. I found like they always tell you try to lose weight and if at all possible relax ..that seems to be the key. Good luck !!!!!
Wow what a story allanah. You give people hope 
Ahh that’s a lovely story - thank you for sharing!!! Can I ask how old you were when you finally conceived???
10 years of trying - I thought 6 was bad enough !!! 😉 xx
I was 29. Got married at 19 ! So then 37ish for the youngest!!
I remember people wanting to avoid telling me they were pregnant. i remember the monthly disappointment.
I remember the embarrassing tests. But it was worth it in the end. I think I would have tried adoption if not.
I did get support as our hospital had an IVF support group.
But keep trying and the hardest thing is to stop thinking about it. Lose weight. Eat healthily. Stop smoking . .the usual advice x
I don't have any advice, infertility is one thing I haven't dealt with, but I wanted to send you some prayers!
My prayer is for the Good Lord to put an end to your heartache and fill your arms with a bundle of joy! And that He hears your prayers urgently!
I hope you get all your dreams fulfilled as you have a lot of love to and strength to give!
Mandy 😇
The emotional pain of not being able to cuddle a baby is devistating. I feel for you & I'm sending you a big hug. I too suffered with what my aunt called "aching arms". I suffered 4 pregnancy losses before giving birth to my son at just 24 weeks gestation. He is now 26years old and a strapping young man.
I'm sure technology has developed vastly since my son was born, but knowledge is power. So I'll tell you my story for knowledge. It turned out I was a DES baby. I never knew that I was a DES baby. My doctors couldn't tell until I had a c-section. DES caused me to develop a bicornuate uterus with an incompetent cervix. I also had 3 ovaries and 2 fallopian tubes. In North America, DES was recalled sometime in the early to mid1970's.
I wish you all the best & I 'm sending you a big hug
Sue
I want to apologize for responding to your post while holding a baby in my photo. How bloody insensitive, I ment no harm. I just uploaded this photo of me holding a friend's baby today. So sorry if it caused you any pain.
But do you know what is odd about this photo? This little guy was born to a 39 year old woman who had fertility problems for over 10 years. I don't know what the medical rules are in the UK, but in Canada our government medical does not pay for infertility. So you pay out of pocket. So this little guy's parents maxed out their credit inorder to get infertility treatments. All treatments failed & the stress caused their marriage to breakup. This little guy's mom was indebt, divorced and sad. She finally came to the conclusion that she would never be a mother. Guess what? A couple of years after the divorce, she bumped into her exhusband and they went for coffee....( I think they just didn't drink coffee...but who am I to say?) Anyways 9 months later this little man was able to pose with me. He is well loved by all. His mom & dad remarried. They are still indebt, but they are happy. This little man will be turning 3 this January.
I can't help I'm afraid, we had 3 rounds of IUI & 6 rounds of IVF/ICSI from age 36 but we weren't fortunate, not helped by us both having problems except that there was nowhere to apportion blame so that really helped us remain committed to one another.
Stay strong & relax is the best advice I can give. I wish you real hope, never lose it, stranger things have happened. x
Gosh it’s so hard isn’t it? Wanting something that comes so naturally to others!!
How did you manage your fex
It is but you know, you're asked to be Godmother... often! They're all grown now, the youngest having just last week turned 21, but we were also but were named guardians to our close friend's 4 children which we were honoured by.
I'm not sure what you mean by fex?
Sorry that was a typo - I meant how do u manage your expectations?? Some days I just feel really overwhelmed with my infertility! And I kinda blame myself for it! Silly isn’t it?
Well, I'm way past now as I'm 58 but I think I must have been slightly odd because I didn't yearn for the loss, even when I had a false positive result I sort of resigned myself that I wasn't going to be a mum. Don't get me wrong I would have loved to have been but there was no point getting upset over something I couldn't help. Neither did it bother me my friends having their children, I loved cuddles, in fact the 21 year old I mentioned above, his mum hid that she was expecting from me as it was around my last course of IVF & was bothered it would upset me. I told her off about that! I was looking after her eldest & took her to visit her new baby brother in hospital when her mum said the nicest thing, that he would be as much my baby as hers. My husband is his Godfather.
Wow I wish I was that cool about it!! I have a 14 year old from a previous relationship so want to experience that joy with my current partner....... I was devastated when ivf didn’t work - I think I need to RELAX!!!
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