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I shall be quiet for a while, my eldest son died this morning,he was only47 , and leaves my three lovely grandchildren,and my dear daughter in law without their dad/ husband.My own husband died age 48 ,we have a bad family history of heart disease on the male side. Nothing prepares you for the loss of a child, I wish it had been me instead.I have my friends and family around me, But I am broken woman.xx

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Eiram50

I am so sorry to read about your loss. As a mother of four, I cannot imagine what you must be going through. My thoughts are with you.

Oh I am so very sorry for your loss. I know there are no words but please know that you are in my thought, as are your family. I wish you love and peace and may your memories bring you some comfort as you face the days ahead. Take care.

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nomoreheels

I'm so sorry to hear this Sandie, what a shock it must have been & no age too. His wife & children must feel lost & although there's no good time to go it's that bit more difficult at a time we're supposed to be joining together to celebrate. I'm pleased your family & friends are rallying round, you'll need that. Take care & come back when you're ready. My sincere condolences. x

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Philip

I'm very sorry sad to read about your loss, please accept my sincere condolences, I also have children and I can't begin to imagine what you are all going through.

Philip

Samaritans is a good place to discuss your feelings in confidence won't prejudge.

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Crusee

Rosebaywillowherb ,I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

My thoughts are with you,and your sons widow and children.

I cannot begin to imagine what you are all going thru right now.

Please take care of yourselves,my thoughts are with you and I really feel for you all right now. Moving forward from this will be difficult but I hope you will find comfort in your thoughts and memories of your son,and that you will find the strength that you need.

Crusee

XX

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keeta

My heart goes out to you my love.i lost my lovely mum and it killed me .i can.t begin to know how you are feeling .love and hugs to you and your family x kathyx

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sylvi in reply to keeta

Keeta i lost my mum 16yrs ago in tragic circunstances and i had a breakdown which took two years to recover from,so darling i understand your suffering. xxxxxx

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keeta in reply to sylvi

Thank you so much.she was 94 but danced and loved her bingo.its awfull when you lose a mum young .

everyone says thats a good age. But i wasn.t ready to lose her and didn.t say goodbye.

She had such a hard lifewhen we were young.we actuall lived in a workhouse for a while. Sorry for the lon story .but its nice to talk and its my first christmas without her.she passed away in may.

Thank you my love .merry christmas and big hugs to yo.xkathy x

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sylvi in reply to keeta

It was her time to go darling and i am sure she was ready and sadly there is nothing you can do to change it as it took me two years to realise after my mm died. I won't go into details at this happy time. xxxxxx

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sylvi

Rose darling i am sending you heartfelt condoences from me and my family. I can'r pretend to say i feel your pain as i don't having never lost a child,but what i can tell you is my friend lost her daughter age 4 1/2yrs and i know how much she suffered and still does even though she has two children. If you want to talk to me anytime in a private message please feel free. Sending you oodles of love at this sad time to you and your family.xxxxxxx

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LindaDee

So very sorry for your loss, I just can't imagine what you are going through. Thoughts are with you and family.

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Smiler53

RW, My heart goes out to you, your Daughter-in-Law and grandchildren. A life cut far to short. Sending you all, lots of love. xxx

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JEM95

So sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you sincere condolences xx

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Mandalou

Bless you and your family at this dreadful time. May you find the strength you need to keep going.

Sending you cyber hugs and deep sympathy! Small comfort I know and words from a stranger but none the less heart felt.

My thoughts and best wishes to you and your family in your time of great loss.

Mx

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Fra22-57

Thinking of you and hope you can all pull through this darkness together.No time is time to lose the ones we love.When we are supposed to be celebrating and having fun it is terrible.

Think how he would want you to be.Try for him and be there for your lovely grandchildren .You all need each other still and even more now.Big hug

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helixhelix

How very sad, I feel for you and the rest of the family. I hope you can all support each other and share your grief.

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MaryTH

Bless you xx

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Horsemadhere

I have no words, but I am thinking of you and your family xx

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Carolsos in reply to Horsemadhere

My thoughts are with you

X

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Jacki08

So sorry for your loss. Cannot imagine your pain. X

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Entero

That your primary thoughts are for your daughter in law and grandchildren says so much about you. My bet would be you were a wonderful mother and your family are blessed to have you. I wish you every comfort possible in your terrible loss.

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Creakywrists

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you all at this time

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kathgallagher

So sorry for your loss

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linda-5502

Hi am so sorry to hear of your loss please accept this my sympathy. I do not know what I would do or how I would cope if I lost.my only son he will be 40 next year and I am so proud of him. I do not want to say to you the "usual "

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woodstar1

So sorry for you and your family. God bless.

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LesJames

So sorry for your loss, Life can be so unfair. Love and best wishes to you and your daughters family.Xx

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Zip1

My thoughts are with you.

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Diddydriver

So deeply sorry for the loss of your son. I can't imagine the loss of a child. Find comfort in your precious grand children. Thinking of you at this difficult time. X

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ruth_p

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Caza

Oh Rose, I'm so so sorry to read this. Unfortunately I know exactly how your feeling & my heartbreaks for you. It's not something that you'll ever get over but in time you'll learn to live along side it.

Be kind to yourself. Much love & hugs xx

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Pinkbungelowgirl

Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. My sincere condolences.

so sorry to hear of your loss and at this time of year.my thoughts go out to you and your family.

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stbernhard

My thoughts are with you. I hope you and all your family find some moments of happiness in all this. My heartfelt condolences.

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bencar

Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I know how it feels to lose a loved one. We lost our beloved granddaughter 8 years ago she was only 4 1/2. It is so hard to deal with, somehow you manage to get the strength from somewhere. You need to be there for his family, like I had to be for my daughter and her husband. Your loved one never really leaves you, they have left you so many lovely memories of them. Hugs from me for all of you suffering this loss.

So sorry for your loss hope you find the strength you need now xx

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cathie

Words are inadequate but my deepest sympathy. Come back and talk when you're ready. I hope you have a lot of love around you at such a different time.

Love,Cathie

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Dodo1943

I cannot imagine how you must be feeling but I wish you all the strength and comfort of remembered happy times to carry you through the difficult times ahead. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Barb66

Oh I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how painful this must be xxx

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MajesticMo

Gentle Hugs xxxx

So very sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

Nettie

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Gigi71

Oh my goodness, RoseBayWillowHerb it breaks my heart to read your post, what you and his family are going through is unbearable, no time is right but just at this time of year. My eldest son had a heart attack 6 years ago and pulled through, but I went to pieces at the time, it's hard to find the words to say how much I feel for you. I hope your memories and love for him help you all to cope. Love and Hugs G xxx

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Sharonbernt

I am so sorry there are no words xxxx

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Lulu66

So sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you, sending gentle hugs x

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janmary

So sad to hear of your bereavement , and will be thinking of you. May you in time be able to find happiness again when you see him in your grandchildren. Be what he would want you to be

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vharrison

Prayers for you and your family!

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munchkin

So sorry to hear about your loss. I can only imagine how hard it is to deal with the loss of one of your own children

Seeing your son in the faces of your grandchildren and feeling their loss of losing their father and a daughter-in-law losing a husband when you all should be enjoying Christmas together as a family. As a group we can all only offer you our sadness and condolences and wish we could somehow do more.

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Kris65

Oh no, I am so very sorry. Prayers for comfort.

Please allow yourself a lot of extra grace and self care during this difficult situation.

🙏😘

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AgedCrone

My heart goes out to you, your daughter in law & your grandchildren.

Take your time, butbdo come back some time.

AC

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Sunny99

So sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

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popsmith1874

Very sorry for your loss , thinking off you at this sad time xxx

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littleR

So sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you and your family x

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64notout

I am so sorry to hear of your awful loss. Please accept my prayers for you and all your family.

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Valentina6

So very sorry to hear of your loss.I will be thinking of you all during this sad time.X

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beeckey

That is awful for you and your family thinking of you and your family at this sad time xx

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Ruffles13

So so sorry to hear your dreadful news. Big hug for you. There is nothing anyone can say to ease your pain. Thinking of you at this awful time xx

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soootired

My sincerest condolences. There is nothing worse than losing a child.

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EmmaH15

Sincere condolences, thinking of you all. X x x

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time xxx

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Jeanslmn

So sad for you and your family I cannot imagine how hard it is to loose a child at What ever age it's been bad enough loosing my husband this year ,you will stay strong for your grandchildren I'm sure ,cry when you want to and laugh when you want to he will live on in his children ,hugs to you all

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Em13

Heartfelt condolences, Rosbaywillowherb. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child.

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Sunflower62

Please don't be quiet use the group for support so sorry for your loss I hope you managed to have an ok day today for the children xx

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d-creasey

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.

RIP. X

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pixiewixie

Dear Rosebaywillowherb, I have just read your post & found out about your dear eldest son. I do not have the words to comfort you. May I just please say my thoughts are with you & that I realise your brokenness. XXPixiewixie

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Amy_Lee

Poor Rosebaywillowherb,

I am very very sorry to read this, I do understand how you feel when a mother lose her son, a wife lose her husband and the 3 kids lose their father. The only thing I can say is to support each other and go through the hardship together. Time will heal the wound and the kids will grow up strong and healthy in future to remember the hard time together.

Take good care, dear.

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Leonwp

I feel for your whole family. Please find your strength again for the children, they need you now.

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Sandra30

Hi I am new to site. I was diagnosed with ra in November. I know 100% how you are feeling. I lost my daughter to cancer aged 10 at christmas 26 years ago so please take time to grieve and remember all the happy times you had. Its the worst thing ever imaginable to loose your child at any age. My ra diagnosis was nothing compared to loosing my child. Lots of hugs to you

I am so sorry to hear this, my heart breaks for you and your family. So bloody sad...

I am sending my love to you and your family

Sue

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GranAmie

so sad for you all and thinking of you, sending hugs. this too will pass, eventually xxx

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mickeysmom34472

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray for the Good Lord above to wrap his loving arms around you and your family and bring you some peace, comfort and acceptance. I am sending you Healing Hugs.

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CloudTreeDrive13

Stay strong, communicate with each other and don't be rushed into making arrangements and decisions. It will take time for everything to fall into place. Thinking of you all xxxx

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crispym

So sorry to hear your sad news, keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers xxx

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hatshepsut

Just read your post, I am so sorry, you and your family are in my thoughts. Words are so inadequate, please look after yourself. Mavis xx

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Rocky07

I am so sorry to hear about your son it's not easy to loose someone life can be so short sometimes we all need to be kind to one. Another and understanding and be there for each other take care

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rome2006

aw loosing a child must leave you broken and the worst thing is no one can say anything that makes it better. You have to think of your grandchildren and remember they need you x loss of a loved one is so hard and the gap it leaves is wide x sorry to hear of your troubles, my heart goes out to you.

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