No words....angry

[Kstargirl]

Firstly, 67 days smoke free, yippee. Sat with my cousin all weekend who is a slave to the nicodemon and felt sorry for her and hoped she too, could be in the same position as me one day.

Off that topic, my nan passed away last Thursday and after my mum passed away last October, there are now only three siblings left. It’s now Monday and nothing has been arranged for Nans funeral yet, they are all playing cat and mouse with there coin and none of them want to help pay for her service. It’s actually really sad to see. Yet when my mum passed I got accused of being greedy which is far from true. Even if my mum had no money I would of paid for her funeral. I thought of asking the siblings if perhaps when they work out who they go with if they can let us know so we can make a contribution. It’s just difficult cause I don’t want to step on anyone’s toes either. They are just that way. I have been told in the past, nan is none of my business. I honestly have never come across a family like ours: they just can’t bind together and focus on what’s important which is laying nan to rest.

[Vicky68 1 Year Smoke Free]

I am sorry to hear of your nans passing. But I am proud you are remaining smoke free.

[Kstargirl 1 Year Smoke Free in reply to Vicky68]

Thanks Vicky, tbh it isn’t hard. I really focus on Alan Carr’s statement - would you smoke that one cigarette if you knew it would cost you $100,000.

The answer to that is simple, no. I purposely brought myself a new car that I have wanted for the past 18 months, a Prado. A lifestyle choice. I love it and that is what makes me happy and feel free. I know Im 100% invested in my resolve. I also love not getting anxious and stressed wanted a smoke and most of all, I love not stinking like smoke.

[Vicky68 1 Year Smoke Free in reply to Kstargirl]

All very good reasons to stay a non smoker. I have purchased his book but have not read it yet. I am 5 weeks smoke free. I have it so if cravings get bad I can pull it out and read

[RoisinO1 Administrator 3 Years Smoke Free]

Hey Kstargirl so sorry to read of the passing of your Nan, it is a very hard grief to get over loosing a grandparent. I lost mine 9 years ago and there is not a day goes by I don't think or speak about her. She influenced my life so much that I am now doing something I have a passion for in cooking/baking that she taught me. Huge well done on overcoming another very difficult ordeal smoke free. As for family, a saying my Nan said to me numerous times, 'Ya can choose your friends but not your family' You might not think it, but the crap goes on in ALL families, that's just the way it goes.

Wishing you strength for the funeral, keep in touch

[Kstargirl 1 Year Smoke Free in reply to RoisinO1]

Thank you, I guess it probably does go on in families. It’s just crap and I’m glad I live so far away from them if that’s how they act. Anyways, I am contributing to nans funeral because it’s about my nan, no one else. She would do anything for us, yet it appears the kids that do have money won’t reciprocate the same back. They have lost focus and forgot it is about nan and laying her to rest. Just feels so heartless.

Yes, I am definately determined! After loosing my mum to lung cancer last October and nan had it too with her dementia. That’s it for me, I’m done. I feel free! I’m determined to stay that way and take each breath pain free, no tightness or wheezing. It’s great!

[ccurn]

Aww sorry to hear about your nan. And I can certainly relate to family weirdness. I paid for both my moms and my sisters funerals.. everyone said “it’s lovely ...” but no one ponied up with any cash. I was closest to them so maybe they figured that’s how it should be.

Good stuff staying smoke free. You sound so determined! Rock solid in your resolve. It’s inspiring to me, so for that I thank you.

Take care and I wish you all the best.

[Kstargirl 1 Year Smoke Free]

Thank you for your ongoing support everyone. I am 10 weeks today! Crazy! I would not of been able to do it without these forums. I read so much during my resolve and almost everyday. It really helped me stay focused. The support here is fantastic, so from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for sharing your stories and experiences. It has been a huge help.