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1 Day meltdown and lessons learned

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I have written a very long and "from the heart" post, which I hoped might be useful, particularly for those starting out on their quits.

That post has "disappeared" and I am presently waiting to see if it can be "found" by the mods.

I am very upset about this.

Val

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Re yesterday and Declan asking what happened on 11th October (see my sig), the best thing I can do is to resurrect the thread which contains my ghastly breakdown! It starts on 8th October, but halfway down page 2 I have reached 11th October and the breakdown is there in all it's glory.:rolleyes: Link to thread is at the top of this post (I hope it works!)

Despite what I wrote at the end of the thread, I did actually go back to Day 1.....it was a further "punishment" for having had those damned fags on the 11th October.

But, the whole episode served to make my re-start a whole new ballgame. I had a totally different approach as I had learned many lessons.

Now I am going to see if I can dig out the first post from my re-start. I didn't post straight away......I waited until I'd got back to the point where I had previously failed. But if I recall correctly, I did witter on about the lessons that I had learned and which I was taking forward with me. I hope that there may be something in there which may help someone. :)

Val

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This link (above) is my first post when I had got back to where I was before! It contains some lessons that I had learned.

In the thread, Max replies and uses the phrase "essential breakthrough in your mind". That is the key to a successful quit........it requires an adjustment in your mind. Get it right and you can sail along; the quit is not the enemy any more, it is your friend, so embrace it, warts (craves) and all!

I've forgotten already if I mentioned being permanently alert to being zapped with a crave. They can come like a bolt from the blue. I actually had one about half an hour ago, but with this different mindset I can swat them away now, just like you would swat away an irritating fly. That's all they are and all they have been since I adjusted my mindset.

If there is anything anywhere in my posts and links that is of any help to anyone quitting, then I shall be delighted. The old threads have certainly brought back some memories for me! Interestingly, in my post on 12th December, I noted that the price of "my" old fags was £7.38. This morning, in the same shop, I noted that they are now £7.85.

Val

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I remember it well hon, I don't think I've ever see someone be so hard on themselves, you were soooooo mad at yourself! And to then fight your way back to the same point entirely on your own was truly awesome and testament to your unequivocal, wholehearted determination to win your freedom. From the day of your return to posting I have never, ever doubted that you will make it - commitment like yours is rare and MUST result in success.

Bless you Kat! It's horrendous sometimes when you go through your old posts from the early days, isn't it! :eek: But that self-punishment had a purpose and that was to make absolutely sure that I never ever made that mistake again, of throwing away a quit. I was not going to have to start all over again for a third time. :rolleyes:

....and just look at you! :D You must be walking up the path to the front door of the penthouse now. How brilliant and well-deserved is that, eh? I'll answer my own question.....it is absolutely brilliant and totally well-deserved. It's people like you, Kat, who help make it possible for people like me to quit this foul and vile addiction. Bless you again and thank you. :)

Val

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