Miserable!!

It's a weird one!! But I am miserable as sin and can't decide if smoking had anything to do with it or not!?

I am on day 67. Have the occasional crave or thought about smoking, also have the odd dream about smoking and wake up feeling guilty! But otherwise ok! Even had a crisis situation (long story) last night that would normally lead to LOADS of fags in my old life but I had a cuppa and a pot of porridge and managed to avoid smoking so was v chuffed

But I can't shake this grey cloud. Not sure if its the lack of cigs, whether its the fact it was my birthday on Tuesday and I am another year older but still where I was years ago, or whether its hormones, or its the weather etc etc etc

I am def not depressed but am being a bit of a victim, can't shake it and could cry A LOT!! Everything seems to be going wrong!!

I guess this is a waste of a post as have no plans to smoke. But wondered if anyone had some how to cheer yourself up tips? And whether we think its les fags!?

Thanks so much TVH x

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  • Thanks so much Kat, sorry to hear you are blue too but also kind of pleased as was getting a bit worried! I have always been a very cheerful person and never one for this black cloud business but just can't shake it!!

    I think physical exercise is probably key and my normal daily fix is horse riding but my horse has been lame so haven't been able to do that which can't help!

    Hope you feel heaps better soon Kat - keep me updated and I will too! I was CT since 6/1 so can't blame any sidekicks :) x

  • TVH/Kat

    This quitting malarkey is such an emotional roller coaster. Looks like you're in a wee dip just now. I think how you are feeling was similar to how I felt except I described it as a 'lost' kinda feeling. It'll pass, promise,

    And, hey, it'll soon be summer!

    Fi x

  • I hope you TVH and Kat are feeling better today. I know Kat is off out tonight, so have a good night Kat:)

    I think the reason you are feeling down is quitting related. I was in mourning and I dont use that word lightly! I felt like I had lost my best friend and I would never enjoy myself again. I had smoked for 40 years so I guess it takes some adjusting to. I dont think I have ever said this on the forum before at least not that I can remember. I probably felt people would think I was mad.

    HOWEVER I dont feel like that now. I can't remember how long it took but I do know that it does pass. You are not mad but you will have to dig in and get on with it untill eventually you will feel not just better but much much better and very happy that you stuck with it and did not give in. Some people sale through their quit and find it easy. I didn't... but I still managed to do it and so will you.:)

  • I have felt sorry for myself a lot since giving up the fags. Not something i would normally do either, but when its got bad, i have said to myself, jut go outside and have a smoke... i then picture myself standing outside lighting up and i then laugh at myself for being so ridiculous, might sound mad, but it works for me, i think about the smell of myself afterwards too and it puts me off straight away :)

  • I have felt sorry for myself a lot since giving up the fags. Not something i would normally do either, but when its got bad, i have said to myself, jut go outside and have a smoke... i then picture myself standing outside lighting up and i then laugh at myself for being so ridiculous, might sound mad, but it works for me, i think about the smell of myself afterwards too and it puts me off straight away :)

    That doesn't sound ridiculous at all it worked for you so that is what matters. All these tips help other quitters and they realise they are not alone hellers:)

  • Thanks all still here and still miserable haha! The good thing is I am not even thinking about or tempted to smoke so assume it is quit related plus a combination of other things as well.

    This ruddy weather doesn't help!!

    Kat - I am with you .. Got a wedding tomorrow .. What's that saying 'turn that frown upside down' .. Maybe grin and bear it is more appropriate!

    From Monday going to start running again to get endorphins going and get rid of the lifebelt I have acquired round my waist!

    Me me me Jeeeeez listen to me apologies!! None of you need to know any of that ... Kind of sums up how I feel i.e poor me!!

    Must pull self together !

    TVH x

  • Thanks all still here and still miserable haha! The good thing is I am not even thinking about or tempted to smoke so assume it is quit related plus a combination of other things as well.

    This ruddy weather doesn't help!!

    Kat - I am with you .. Got a wedding tomorrow .. What's that saying 'turn that frown upside down' .. Maybe grin and bear it is more appropriate!

    From Monday going to start running again to get endorphins going and get rid of the lifebelt I have acquired round my waist!

    Me me me Jeeeeez listen to me apologies!! None of you need to know any of that ... Kind of sums up how I feel i.e poor me!!

    Must pull self together !

    TVH x

    Sorry for not replying sooner but I have been in NZ. I had never suffered from depression until I quit smoking. It got so bad that my doc put me on anti depressants. After that I had the worst couple of months in my life. I couldn't even leave the house. I stopped taking them and took very high dose vitamins. Within 2 weeks I was able to function normally. Hope things improve for you because I know what you are going through

  • wow, day 67, that's brilliant. I'm on day 5 and have cried a little bit every day since quitting, and I'm definitely not a crying kind of person. I'd say cry if you want to, I always feel a better afterwards. Feels like I used cigarettes (and cannabis - I'm doing a double whammy) as a crutch for hiding emotional feelings. Now I will have to realistically see them for what they are and deal with it the tough way.

    I've always had a great positive attitude to life and it feels like something is trying to stop that. I've found these things help alot

    - not feeling guilty about things (anything), it is unnecessary and probably nobody else really cares about those things

    - sleeping as often as you want, I've been in and out of bed half the time and feel better after this. Even though it can't be right to sleep 14 hrs a day ;)

    - take it easy on yourself, don't give yourself a hard time

    - reading, if concentration is on the cards

    - being with other people

    - having a challenge with a deadline, something to concentrate on. Something you like to do, however silly it might seem. It might be making something, doing something you have not done before.

    - appreciating everything, the fact that you have a roof, enough food etc etc

    - book a holiday / break to look forward to, even if it's in a year's time. Concentrate on this when a down time comes

    - listening to feel good music, feel good films, interesting and not depressing or violent tv/radio.

    - jumping up and down (if you can), waving your arms around like a lunatic ;)

    - get some pens and draw whatever you like, be free with it, you don't have to show it to anyone

    - Eat something slowly that you love

    Don't know if any of these things will help you, I hope so. There's always the 'going for a walk', maybe somewhere that you have not walked before is best..

    Life is a good thing, old or young, it doesn't matter, it's never to late to have fun, to plan and to enjoy. Hope you feel better today

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