Day 12 Blues

Hi all

Guess this is a cry for help really. Everything going really well, right up until I got home from work tonight, basically had arguement with son, who 12 days ago said "you should stop smoking cause it will kill you" (he is 7yrs old). Well I am certainly not blaming him, but I am in the process of going through my worst craving to date. I have that empty, gnawing feeling right in the center of my gut that I can feel leading right up to the back of my throat. I thought that getting on this form and typing was the best thing to do, as I have noticed that my OH has left her ciggies at home while she is working. :(:(

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  • hiya

    can relate totally to that feeling....it's shi**y but that's all it is....a feeling....it will go..... you CAN get through it.......have a drink..... grab a mint..... shove something in your mouth.......:rolleyes: Never mind my 12 stone weight gain.....:eek:

    That one ciggie will only make you feel so disappointed in yourself......

    onwards n upwards......:)

  • STEP AWAY FROM THE CIGARETTES!

    Sadly, I haven't got any children, but I'm fairly sure that the one thing that would have been my perfect motivator to quit smoking would have been if a son or daughter of mine asked me to quit.

    I don't think anything else in the world could be a more powerful reason to quit than that.

    Your son loves you enough to tell you his fears about you and your smoking and I'm damn sure he is your world.

    Do you REALLY need any more motivation?

  • Hi Michellopy SmokeStop

    Of course, deep down I know what to do, and you are absolutely right, I just need that shove in the right direction at times. In the past my nemesis has been the 2-3 week point and this has been playing on my mind a little. This time is different, I have a wealth of like minded people who can relate with me sympathis with me and when the occassion calls tell me off.

    Thank you. :)

  • Our posts clashed Don, so just in case you missed my reply, here it is...

    STEP AWAY FROM THE CIGARETTES!

    Sadly, I haven't got any children, but I'm fairly sure that the one thing that would have been my perfect motivator to quit smoking would have been if a son or daughter of mine asked me to quit.

    I don't think anything else in the world could be a more powerful reason to quit than that.

    Your son loves you enough to tell you his fears about you and your smoking and I'm damn sure he is your world.

    Do you REALLY need any more motivation?

  • Hi Michellopy SmokeStop

    Of course, deep down I know what to do, and you are absolutely right, I just need that shove in the right direction at times. In the past my nemesis has been the 2-3 week point and this has been playing on my mind a little. This time is different, I have a wealth of like minded people who can relate with me sympathis with me and when the occassion calls tell me off.

    Thank you. :)

    You are MORE than welcome......knowing where someone is at....you feel their pain......and it's the bloomin hardest thing ever.....but my god you kick that bloody nicodemon into touch...... I've got 4 kids AND work with kids so I've been tipped a fair few times by em lol :rolleyes:

    Hang in there cyber friend :)

  • Capitan

    A strong and powerful message, and fully received. You are correct, of course you are, there is no greater motivation than this, just sometimes you forget what it is you have, and all you can think is what you want. Then a thunderbolt strikes you, just when you need it. Isn't it a wonderful feeling when you feel that fresh wave of resolution after a weak moment. You guys make those moments actually feels like moments. As I read and type I feel so much more calmer and at ease.

    Onward to Day 13 me thinks and to hide my OH fags.

    Thank you all :)

  • God bless Don, go and give that son of yours a big hug and make it up with him.

    Cherish what you have right in front of you, he's a smart young man who wants his dad around for as long as possible :)

  • And I intend to give that to him. Why is it that something so straight forward turns into such a major drama. Oh, and I am not talking about my boy. Hindsight can be very embarrassing at times (sitting on my own going red):D

    Thank you both, if I have half your strentgh, then this will be a breeze.

  • Well done Don - now you can go to bed tonight with a proud smile on your face!! :)

  • And I intend to give that to him. Why is it that something so straight forward turns into such a major drama. Oh, and I am not talking about my boy. Hindsight can be very embarrassing at times (sitting on my own going red):D

    Thank you both, if I have half your strentgh, then this will be a breeze.

    This is YOUR strength that is getting you through......:)

  • Thank you Mandy

    Smiling as we type :) Feel so hypocritical, I haven given out words of encouragement and strength to others and here I am begging for some. However I am not to proud to admit that I need help. Hell thats why I joined this forum

  • Whilst I am 50 years old, I'm still going to use the youngsters phrase...

    This forum rocks!

    Throughout each of our journeys there will be times when we need help and times when we can offer support or help.

    I've said it before on here, if the world could interact like the people on this forum it would be a marvellous place to be :)

  • Hey Don

    I am still a newbie - this is my first serious quit so I am the same and will happily take any advice going as would not like to repeat that first week again!!

    Our kids know how to push our buttons - both my girls are so pleased I have stopped I am gonna have to make sure that is it!!

    :)

  • I am positively assured that everybody on here can do it, and make this quit, the quit. Just posted on our Feb Quitters group that this forum is the best NRT I have tried, and I truely believe that. So many people like yourself make it actually harder to fail than to kick the habit. :D

  • Hey Don

    How do you join the feb quitters group?? I was a bit late in coming on this site (waited a few days to register!) so think I missed the boat to join a group!!

    :)

  • Hey Don, well done on getting over the craving - I had exactly the same thing last night but members here got me through :D

    Stay strong, your boy loves and needs you.

    Zoe xx

  • Thanks Zoe

    Dont know what I would do without like minded people like youself :D

  • Haha Don,

    Will you consider us like minded when I tell you I am sitting here with a bucket of water to drink and a nosebag full of food strapped to my face lol but whatever it takes we gotta go for it xx

  • LOL, well actually, I have gone through a mulitude of bags of herbal tablets and pork scratchings, not a great tasting combination, but its helping me :eek: The food and drink may be different, but the diversion from nicotine and cravings are the same :)

  • In the last 2 hours I have had 2 choc ices, 2 ice lollys and a packet of fruitellas!! (not even gonna count the other 3 packs of fruitellas I have had today!) My nightly dose of junk has reduced slightly! :eek:

  • Thanks Karri

    you dont know how much help you are just by posting!!!! :D

  • Just keep going!!!! I can't stop eating chewy tangy sweets. Not even sure of the name but they come in packets of five. They're really sour but I suck and chew on them as if my life depended upon it!!!LOL I reckon anything is better than a cigarette :D

    Good luck

    Alison x

  • I thought that getting on this form and typing was the best thing to do, as I have noticed that my OH has left her ciggies at home while she is working

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