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Doing exactly that. I will only post my days quit and a short summary of how I'm feeling from now on. Unfortunately, I feel the main forum dynamics have changed and therefore feel reluctant to post as often as I used to (this is just my opinion). From the bottom of my heart I wish everyone well with their quits. I will have quit smoking for two months exactly on xmas day and know that quitting smoking is a bloody hard thing to do. After a couple of not so great months my resolve however is the same, I won't smoke again. It really is that simple. On the personal side I thank my lucky stars for what I do have as I know others are having it harder than me. Have a great xmas everyone.

love lisa xxx

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Hmmm...

OH & I decided we were quitting the same day. We knew we'd get ratty & had 'the talk' before Quit Day; the talk where we told each other we'd probably say awful things to each other & that we weren't to take them seriously. By mid-morning the first day, he's told me to go play in traffic & at the time meant it. I didn't speak to him for three days after that. When we began speaking again, we kicked each other out, (figuratively), every few hours & the word divorce entered the conversation frequently.

So yeah, I think we're all quivery, touchy feely, overly sensitive in out quits - no matter where we are. Ads on the telly have been known to bring tears to my eyes lately & I tend to be taking everything personally - it's ridiculously embarassing. I suspect it's easy to do that anywhere - especially here in a population full of quitters.

We just hav to cut each other some slack.

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I changed my original post canada sue. Thanks for the reply...I think I'm finding the over sensitvity thing is getting a bit irritating and making me reluctant to post.

You're doing well Sue...I don't think too much about cigarettes now apart from stress triggers. But I'm learning how to cope with them as they happen. All the best.

Lisa x

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lisa

how much of your quit do you feel the allan carr book contributed

even though i used patches and inhalator for a few weeks i really believe it was the book that changed my mind set and here i am 12 days away from the penthouse before i quit i didnt believe i would succeed which is why i feel the book has got me here

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Hiya boo,

I believe my quit is down to three people;

1). Myself I had to come to realise that I really wanted to stop smoking and get that steely resolve (I was seriously worried about my health so that was a good incentive).

2). Mrs T. on this forum, she mentioned something in one of her posts that just clicked and made me think. I originally started my quit a few days before this successful quit. I used patches but failed miserably (again!!!). She said why keep doing the same thing when it had failed so many times (I have tried to quit on patches more times than I can count). Therefore I ditched the patches and went cold turkey.

3). Just as I was about to waver on that first day cold turkey I spied Allen Carr's book on my bookshelf (given to me by a friend, it had languished there for two years unread). After finishing that book I knew I would never smoke again. Never, ever it just totally turned the way I thought about smoking on it's head. I saw it as a pointless addiction and I was the sad individual feeding it...like a gambling addict feeds a slot machine with coins. Nothing more, nothing less.

I would say Allen Carr was the reason my quit has been successful in the end...I was about to have a ciggie on that first day until I saw his book on the shelf. What got me to quit in the first place was a combination of first two points. I really only want to have a ciggie when I'm stressed....but like I say I'm just having to learn to cope with stress better. I still have insomnia (it's 2.15am LOL!) and usually that makes me fail in my quit but no amount of no sleep will make me smoke....I have a stubborness about this quit now that I've never felt before. No-one and nothing (even no sleep) will get me to smoke now!.

Obviously people quit via a variety of methods...I tried most except champix and cold turkey has worked for me (it won't work for everyone). It's funny that I never tried cold turkey before and it's because I was afraid that I needed a crutch....I needed NRT as I doubted I could do it all by myself. I've found the cold turkey method the best and I am genuinely surprised by that myself.

Honestly well done boo for being 12 days from the penthouse. Can't wait for my turn next year :)

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P.S. The stress situations have to be quite big as well, like having a car accident (just a bump thank god but with a child on board quite distressing), having a difficult confrontation with a work colleague, redundancy etc. Not just little things which again I'm amazed at really, I thought I'd be wanting a cigarette everytime I chipped a nail :)

So much for short posts huh? How do you feel in your quit now boo?

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Hiya boo,

I believe my quit is down to three people;

1). Myself I had to come to realise that I really wanted to stop smoking and get that steely resolve (I was seriously worried about my health so that was a good incentive).

2). Mrs T. on this forum, she mentioned something in one of her posts that just clicked and made me think. I originally started my quit a few days before this successful quit. I used patches but failed miserably (again!!!). She said why keep doing the same thing when it had failed so many times (I have tried to quit on patches more times than I can count). Therefore I ditched the patches and went cold turkey.

3). Just as I was about to waver on that first day cold turkey I spied Allen Carr's book on my bookshelf (given to me by a friend, it had languished there for two years unread). After finishing that book I knew I would never smoke again. Never, ever it just totally turned the way I thought about smoking on it's head. I saw it as a pointless addiction and I was the sad individual feeding it...like a gambling addict feeds a slot machine with coins. Nothing more, nothing less.

I would say Allen Carr was the reason my quit has been successful in the end...I was about to have a ciggie on that first day until I saw his book on the shelf. What got me to quit in the first place was a combination of all of the above three things. I really only want to have a ciggie when I'm stressed....but like I say I'm just having to learn to cope with stress better. I still have insomnia (it's 2.15am LOL!) and usually that makes me fail in my quit but no amount of no sleep will make me smoke....I have a stubborness about this quit now that I've never felt before. No-one and nothing (even no sleep) will get me to smoke now!.

Obviously people quit via a variety of methods...I tried most except champix and cold turkey has worked for me (it won't work for everyone). It's funny that I never tried cold turkey before and it's because I was afraid that I needed a crutch....I needed NRT as I doubted I could do it all by myself. I've found the cold turkey method the best and I am genuinely surprised by that myself.

Honestly well done boo for being 12 days from the penthouse. Can't wait for my turn next year :)

thats why i used the NRT as i needed a crutch and was to scared on my own i didnt read the book until about two or three weeks into my quit and before i read it i was crying, getting low etc and after i read it i seemed to improve and i really dont think it was just me that made that improvement it must have been the book that helped

because i kinda did it all the wrong way round [used patches, inhalator then read book 2-3 weeks later] i didnt feel the full affect of the book

i see that people are trapped in smoking and my way of thinking now is very allan carr orientated so it must have had a bigger effect than i originally thought

i am very proud to be 12 days away from the penthouse and never in a million years believed i would be able to do this, i was a very very addicted smoker smoked for every situation and emotion and looking back i made situations stressful so i had a good excuse for a fag

i have lots of regrets from my smoking life mainly towards my kids i have wasted having quality time with them so i could go out in the garden and have a fag or send them upstairs so i could smoke [never smoked infront of them] but i have come to terms with this more now and make the most of now and not dwelling on the past as it changes nothing and wastes more time.

i to was worried about my health about 2 months before my quit it was like my body was saying this is it u have to do this, i was getting pains here there and everywhere, coughed alot, and just had this general bad feeling something bad would happen. happy to report aches and pains disappeared with in a week of quitting cough has gone completely and the bad feeling disappeared i still to this day think my mind and body knew it was now or never no going back

you are gonna do this and stay strong alot of wat u say reminds me of how i felt

boo

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Crikey boo we do sound spookily similar. I too felt awful for going into the garden for a cigarette a lot of times in the day. I didn't want my son to see me smoke at all. He'd say "mummy let's play" all the time and I felt awful that I was smoking and having to interrupt our time together. Sometimes when he was a handful, I'd smoke more and he'd spend more time in another room. I also kept thinking, like yourself....I've got to that age where I've been smoking for quite a while now and the chances of my getting some awful disease massively increases.

My cough and wheezy, painful chest has also completely gone and I feel loads better than I used to, it really is amazing. You should quite rightly be proud of being 12 days shy of one whole year quit. It shows me I can do it too. Don't regret the time you smoked when you've had kids....everything happens for a reason. You could still be smoking now but instead you've done the hardest thing and given up. They will have their mum for years and years to come, the best present you could ever give them. That is what keeps me going on this quit too...my family, especially my son.

Thankyou boo, you've cheered me up in the wee hours.

Lisa x

P.S. This might sound a bit cheesy but I honestly believe this giving up smoking m'larkey really makes you get to know yourself and others in a way that non-smokers will ever know. You push yourself, your will or whatever in a way that non-smokers do not need to be tested (if you get what I mean).

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What wonderful posts and wish you all positive thoughts (might steal a few for myself too) :)

Have a great Christmas and hope that 2012 brings you all happiness.

Big hugs

x

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P.S. The stress situations have to be quite big as well, like having a car accident (just a bump thank god but with a child on board quite distressing), having a difficult confrontation with a work colleague, redundancy etc. Not just little things which again I'm amazed at really, I thought I'd be wanting a cigarette everytime I chipped a nail :)

So much for short posts huh? How do you feel in your quit now boo?

oh i know what your saying my life is not short of stress with 5 kids and in november my OH was made redundant six weeks before christmas just what we needed

but you know what when anything happens a cigarette is never my first thought its only when i sit back after i have sorted the situation do i think 'omg i didnt think about smoking until now' and then i dont feel i want one just amaze myself it took me so long to remember thats how i used to cope.

how do i feel about my quit now? if it was a one word answer it would be FREE

the long answer is i am extremely proud, happy, content, not depressed,feeling normal and all these things are something i thought i could never be if i didnt smoke those first few weeks when i first quit i felt the complete opposite of how i feel now

i remember crying in my bathroom so no one would see me as i felt so pathetic crying cause i couldnt smoke, i had massive regrets about time lost with my kids because i smoked etc, then i read allan carr book and things seemed to improve massively my outlook changed and things got easier

how do i feel now today, i feel like i have in a way enjoyed the journey of quitting even the hard bit its made me a better person

i am starting college in january, me at college unbelieveable. Old smoking me would never have done anything like that

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WOW 5 kids...that's amazing boo. Day to day I find 1 kid stressful let alone 5. I'm amazed you escaped for a ciggie at all :)

Absolutely inspiring boo and well done. Sorry to hear about your husband losing his job. Hopefully it'll work out for the better (sometimes redundancy does that). I remember you saying your husband or yourself had lost their job. It really is a shitty thing but you do have each other and the kids. It's funny I cried and sobbed my heart out on about day 3 of my quit...it's like you're saying goodbye to a friend forever. Good luck with college...it'll be loads of fun. Trust me.

lisa x

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Great thread guys, Boo I'm so glad I wasn't the only person to cry over not being able to smoke.....and Lisa, please don't reduce your posts :( you are always so cheerful and positive I would miss reading your posts!

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