just not ready yet

I was meant to be here but to no avail. I an very irratable and my hub puts up with an awful lot of my mood. One minute its my last and then i get anxious and no matter what i am finding it very difficult to keep my cool . If only i could get back that positive and focused way i had when i quit in feb this year. 4 m i got too. Them bang lit up a fag oh i wish i hadnt. I keep reading on here but im just not focused. As some of you pinpoint a day to quit. Not everyone is ok with this. I now have to get focused on this and get my determination back and when i do you will know. Jacqui

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  • its like sky diving its the jumping thats hard the falling comes naturally!!:)

    its always going to be hard but try not get stressed thinking about stopping nwhen your ready just jump!!;)

  • Hey Fleetwood you have my sympathy and empathy too same thing happened to me...... got my determination,motivation back in the end ,just so you know it does come back ..not easy but there is a way back and the sooner the better. right now the inner junkie/addict has a lot of power,but so do you ,you just cant see it yet.... be strong in your weakness. you are right the addict is wrong.

    Mash

  • Hi Karri,

    Nice to see you back on here again:) Are you planning to quit soon? Hope so cos you were very supportive to me when I first joined, and now I am 5 weeks in. So if you feel ready to quit now, expect loadsa support:)

    TC,

    Zoe xx

  • Jacqui

    I used to hate it , waking up with the thought...I shouldn't smoke, I should stop today, guilty feeling, then getting upset about it because I already smoked or bought some. Then buying the last packet...and planning ahead for the next day...its like going round and round in circles.

    I know what your going through. Don't stress about it. You will know when your ready to do it again . ( I been through that a million times)

    Siggi

  • Hi Jacqui

    When the time is right you will do it. I've had 3 failed attempts this year, but this time it feels different..

    Your mind has to be set and you have to see it as the best possible decision you could ever make, then you will find the will to do it.

    I think the decision can be tougher than the actual quit and taking Champix has certainly helped with that as are encouraged to set a date (and smoking starts tasting horrible!!)

    Good luck

    LizzieX

  • Thanks all, i will do my very best to get back on track again and to stop being stressed about it. Jacqui

  • I was meant to be here but to no avail. I an very irratable and my hub puts up with an awful lot of my mood. One minute its my last and then i get anxious and no matter what i am finding it very difficult to keep my cool . If only i could get back that positive and focused way i had when i quit in feb this year. 4 m i got too. Them bang lit up a fag oh i wish i hadnt. I keep reading on here but im just not focused. As some of you pinpoint a day to quit. Not everyone is ok with this. I now have to get focused on this and get my determination back and when i do you will know. Jacqui

    He should put up with your mood. What would he prefer? You are cranky for a ferw days and live or you go back to smokikng and get cancer and are dead within 6 months. Your choice.

  • I know where you are coming from Jacqui, I would set dates (say end of the week, next monday, thursday next) but always find away around them. I would stress so much about quitting it became very hard to start again.

    Anyway yesterday I decided I was just fed up with the smokes and stopped (with the help of the patch again). Still have half a pack sitting outside that I must throw out.

  • Hi Jacqui,

    I know what you mean, quit dates don't work for me either, I just ended up dreding the date and that made me worse :(

    In the end I just decided there and then I'd had enough and maybe that is what you need.

    I'm sure it will happen when you are ready and there is no point in trying before you are ready.

    Hugs to you!

    Woo x

  • thanx Greg that certaintly hit home. I have had one cig this morning 7th nov. I have spoken to my cig this is the last one. Back on lozenger's for me.

  • Great news Fleetwood - come join the Nov NOPEs - a warm welcome is assured!

    Chris

  • Well done Fleetwood - yes, come and join us NOPEs! I have reached Day 3 with the help of this amazing forum - you CAN do it! Good luck for today (I only think about today!)

    Sue

  • You KNOW you can do it ! Good to see you so soon back , I admire your strength :D

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