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[nsd_user663_5439]

Made it to week 2 but man I am soooooo grumpy! Really worried about being so grumpy and snapping at people - particularly my BF. Don'tr want to give in to the cigs and not going to but I wish I wouldn't be so easily offended - about things I never would've used to notice! Been such a cry baby too

[nsd_user663_4990]

I had the same problem with my other half, i seemed to be overly argumentative in the first 3 weeks... but the good news is.. it does pass.

Keep your BF happy though, apologise in advance for the moodies you may have.. just tell him no matter what, you don't mean ANY of it.. and you'll be calmer once your through these testing first weeks.

It is worth it.. and there is better for you to come, you just can't see it yet, not while your in the middle of it.

Stick at it, you'll both see a difference soon enough and you will not be as angry or irritable either.

Good luck.

j

[nsd_user663_5439]

Thanks J,

much better today and going out dancing together tonight (managed to persuade him to do it as a well done for me giving up the cigs!) so won't be stroppy. It's good to know that it passes after the first few weeks - i don't want to be a moody cow forever!

[nsd_user663_4990]

No it really does pass, it just seems really hard while your in the thick of it.. you have to go through it to come through it, but once out the other side, i'm sure both of you will notice the difference. You held this addiction for ages, so picture this irritability as not being you.. but the addiction not giving up without a fight.. its trying to shake you right now, and the best way it knows how is to make you feel insecure .. no-one likes being moody when normally the are not, but as i mentioned in my previous reply, its only short lived.

In the early part of my quit i found week 1 (day 3/4 and 6) were my worst days, then i had few roughish days at the start of my 3rd week, (monday and tuesday), but the rest of it got better, and it will get better for you too, just learn to recognise when your starting to 'flip' a bit. (we know we're doing it ), and then back off for a 5-10 min timeout. Its far better than rising to each and every niggle and causing a scene over stuff you later regret.

You'll get the hang of it soon enough and then one day you'll wake up and you'll find you just don't seem to be as irritable no more.. its not far off... you just have to go through this.

The rewards are sooooooooooo worth the effort.. and you can both go out and celebrate your milestones if you want too, thats a good way of settling differences.. just be honest with yourself

good luck. you can do this.