Mixed emotions on morning of day 5....

[nsd_user663_5367]

Well, so far so good I suppose. Today is the morning of day 5, and I've made it the whole way without cheating at all (and no, I dont consider my patches cheating!!).

I find myself with very mixed emotions. On the afternoon of day three, I felt as if I was literally going to CRY; not because of the cravings, but I just MISSED smoking. I feel that way each morning as I wake up, initially thinking that I'll step outside for a smoke and then remembering that I will never do that again. It seems from many of the posts on the 4-7 day board that this is normal, but do you have any tips on how to deal with it?

Re-framing it to think of what im gaining is a great idea, but it certainly doesnt overpower the sadness of what I have lost.

I have a long road trip today... it'll be tough. Wish me luck!!!

Thank you guys so much

[nsd_user663_3728]

Hi SSD

Well done getting to day 5 well on your way to a week smoke free

It's normal to feel emotional at this time in a quit and most of us have to go through a sort of greiving process, but when you think about that it's not so irrational as fags were a major part of our lives for a very long time

The only way I found of dealing with it was just to go with it and have a cry when I needed to and also to read anything and everything I could find about quitting, the symtoms as well as the benefits and believe me there are so many benefits it makes all the pain and discomfort you're suffering just now well worth it so just hang in there it will get easier for you very soon

Love

Marg xx

Oh keeping busy helps as well

[nsd_user663_4786]

i cried me a river, and then some, lots of us suffered mixed emotions in the first few days, weeks even, but it does get better and reading the links will help you get through the hard times.

Also remember you never want to have to go back to day one:eek:

Stay strong, post often, read lots.

Sending you some PMA, hope it helps

[nsd_user663_4990]

The feeling of loss for this thing you built into your life is only a short lived thing.. thankfully you start to experience a new way of dealing with every day life soon enough and you feel benefits for having done so too.

The early days are a bit tough going, but stick at it, and get through these days, and you will see for yourself what everyone else oft talks about. Things do get better.. and you feel better with it too.

Take each day as it comes.. and don't be afraid to seek us out for support.

j

[nsd_user663_5031]

Hi SSD,

That part of the day was one that I thought I would miss too, and in the early days, the thought of never doing that again for the rest of my life filled me with fear and dread.

Now as my wife steps out in the morning for her puff, rain or shine, I pity her.

Hard as it may seem right now, a life without smoking is a far better one than a life smoking. How many times have you beat yourself up for smoking? Beat yourself up when after your magical first fag you cough and splutter everywhere and think "I will give this crap up one day". How many times have you stood in a cold doorway even when its pissing down with rain to have your morning smoke? Stood there in the middle of winter shivering to have that treasured first smoke of the day?

I certainly don't beat myself up for not smoking.

Believe me, these thoughts will pass, be strong, I promise you in a few weeks, you won't even think about a fag in the morning. Hard to believe, even I never thought it could happen, but it does.

Paul