Here comes my "bete noir"

Hi everyone

Well as of Thursday it will be 8 weeks for me but I've been a serial quitter for over a decade!

The 1st time, I had a longish quit (6 months or so) which failed as I thought I could have the odd one or two now and again. WRONG!

Since then I've had many stops for a weeks or so, and 3 or 4 that have taken me into the 3rd month.

In the past the 3rd month has proven to be the hardest and the point when I have failed. This time I think I'm prepared for it but I'm under no illusions that I need to stay focused and strong.

In recent days I've felt the yearning to smoke that has proved so difficult to over come before. It usually is accompanied by unpleasant despairing moods and thoughts :confused: .

This is going to be the quit that is for keeps, and maybe the mental fortitude that I have been able to develop during this quit will see me through without it being anywhere near as bad as previous times, but I'm gearing up for a fight just in case.

Wish me luck!

Nic

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  • Hi Nic

    I am replying to wish you luck:D

    I too had many attempts at quitting. Looking back, most were probably half hearted.

    This one is different because I now understand the nature of smoking. I was (we all are) a junkie,an addict, call it what you will. By reading a certain book, the title of which illudes me right now:D, finding this place, and reading sites such as why quit I educated myself, and I know I will never smoke again. Even 9 months in I still think about smoking everyday. It was part of my life for so long this is probably to be expected, but I know I will never have another puff, I cant, as we all know what comes next.

    You give so much support to others, so have a little back.

    My advice to you would be:

    Do not dwell on the 3 month thing,it is purely a mental thing.

    Be very positive in yout thoughts. Do not think, KNOW

    Most importantly, never take another puff,do not smoke again and you will have it licked:p

    If it does become the fight you talk about, just bop the Dark Beast on the nose, stick your tounge out and make sure you win.

    Congratulations on your 8 weeks and once again Good Luck

  • Nic

    Come on chin up and stay strong you have always been very supportive of others so were here to support you.

    8 weeks is wicked and you don't want us girlies on here to give you our wrath if you let Nasty Nic back in your life!!

    STAY STRONG :D

  • Good Luck Nic

    You have been a big help to me.. just think how much of a hypocrite you would be if you gave in now!!! (haha tough love!)

    You know you dont need smelly cancer sticks, and I have every faith that you will see this through, it is only your body confused as to what it wants, so stay positive, mind over matter!

    Good luck, keep in touch with your progress :)

  • Hi Nic,

    It's curious, I, too, seem to have a faltering point at around 3-4 months.

    My advice would be to take up a positive habit around now...whatever you like that is also good for you...and put some concentration on that.

    I don't know that we can do much about our rhythms, except be prepared and do what is necessary to reach the next step.

    You can do it! easy peasy!:)

    Bill

  • thanks peeps :)

    The good news - I'm not going to fail.:D

    The bad news - Feeling low :(

    Well the yearning to smoke has passed but through last night and this morning I've been lethargic and down.

    I've got a few hours free this afternoon so I'm going to do some sprints up an old slag heep near the house. If that doesn't shake this mood at least my legs 'll be hurting enough that I don't notice it!

    I guess that since I've been hoping that this phase wouldn't come but expecting it, its inevitable that its has. But equally (to try and put a positive spin on it) I feel that if I hadn't got this phase I wouldn't have truly seen though the quitting process, like a kind of right of passage if that makes sense?

    Cheers everyone

    Nic

  • The really good news

    I've got a few hours free this afternoon so I'm going up an old slag

    That should make you feel a whole lot better

  • LOL,

    After all the recent rain it was a dirty old slag!

    Well I've been out and come back. Sweaty, muddy, nettled, knackered and smiling.

    There really is nothing better for lifting ones spirits than exercise.

    (well nearly nothing see previous post)

    Will try to take an extra martial arts class tonight to fully banish the blues, but much more positive already.

    Thanks again you lot

    Cheers

    Nic

  • well done you are doing fantastic at least you are in the right mind set of that you are not going to fail :D:D

    Tracey x

    tracey - Free and Healing for Nine Days, 7 Hours and 39 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 1 Day and 7 Hours, by avoiding the use of 373 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me £92.85.

  • Well I've been out and come back. Sweaty, muddy, nettled, knackered and smiling.

    Cheers

    Nic

    i know ill get into trouble but ....................a piccy??!!! ;)

    oooo and well done :)

  • i know ill get into trouble but ....................a piccy??!!! ;)

    oooo and well done :)

    Just use your imagination, It'll be much better than a picture would;)

  • Nic,

    I know exactly what you mean by being down - I've experienced this before around the 3 month mark, it's horrible.

    Something to think about, if you had a smoke now, just imagine how much worse you would feel - a waste of all your effort to make a better, healthier you. You probably would have felt miserable even if you were still smoking, it's life?

    I know it's hard to get your head back into gear cause it feels like it's always going to be like this.... can't smoke = can't enjoy yourself.

    Only advice I can offer is what you have already done, get out, don't dwell, exercise, remain positive and keep reminding yourself of all the reasons you stopped in the first place.

    Good luck mate.... don't let the rest of us down!;)

  • Well following the hill running, and the harsh MA training this evening I'm physically drained but feeling mentally sound!

    Nice to be back in my own mind again!

    I'm throwing myself into physical activity for the next few days. I shall try to do something before work and I've another class tomorrow and Friday.

    I have said it before but each failed quit teaches you something that will help you on the next one. Past quits have shown me that no matter how I feel giving in does not make me feel good, so its not an option and I shall not fail.

    Chers

    Nic

  • Please HELP on Day 1 post

    PP

  • go nic!!!

    go nic 8 weeks thats fab well its kinder almost 9 now init cos its 8 for me on wednesday were doing great!!! well done us

  • Hi everyone

    Well as of Thursday it will be 8 weeks for me but I've been a serial quitter for over a decade!

    The 1st time, I had a longish quit (6 months or so) which failed as I thought I could have the odd one or two now and again. WRONG!

    Since then I've had many stops for a weeks or so, and 3 or 4 that have taken me into the 3rd month.

    In the past the 3rd month has proven to be the hardest and the point when I have failed. This time I think I'm prepared for it but I'm under no illusions that I need to stay focused and strong.

    In recent days I've felt the yearning to smoke that has proved so difficult to over come before. It usually is accompanied by unpleasant despairing moods and thoughts :confused: .

    This is going to be the quit that is for keeps, and maybe the mental fortitude that I have been able to develop during this quit will see me through without it being anywhere near as bad as previous times, but I'm gearing up for a fight just in case.

    Wish me luck!

    Nic

    I wish you all the luck on earth mate. This 3 month thing seems to be some kind of mental barrier put up in the past but you seem to have such a positive attitude this time round from reading your posts. I've no doubt you will lay all ghosts to rest come mid October. I go on holiday to the algarve this Saturday and am looking forward to my first ever smoke free holiday and I look forward to catching up with your progress when I get back 2 weeks later.

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