Taunted by "take it or leave it" smokers?

Hi everyone,

I have been reading your posts and you are all doing fantastically and I feel the need to come on here for your words of inspiration more than I need a fag now!

Anyhow, I just wanted to know if you felt the same about something, since I have given up I seem to be surrounded by "Take it or leave it" smokers.

I have one friend who can go ALL week without a cigarette and just smokes at the weekend,

I have one who doesn't smoke at all and goes out about 4 times a year and when she does - she has a cigarette and the other one smokes about two a day!

The one who smokes "just at the wkds" says your doing really well, I haven't had one all week either!! (but she will at the wkd!)

Now is it just me being stupid or am I right in feeling inadequate (as when I smoked, I could easily smoke 20+ a day), or rather "had too" and how can they do that?

I am annoyed that they can do that? to me you either smoke or you don't !why and how can people "pick and choose". I know this sounds like envy/jealousy/anger on my part and probably a bit of all three, but knowing what I went through initially by going a few bloody hours without one - it was agony!

I know this probably sounds like a load of drivvle, but I had to get this lot of my chest, my anger is brewing but why? :confused:

Fay xx

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  • P.s I Got Rid Of Patches Sunday So I Am Now C/t!!!

  • I have people waffling that nonsense at me day in day out since i quit....

    Why do they all say they can take it or leave it? I can take or leave salt and vinegar crisps but i don't have to tell everyone about it.

    I'm lucky in that i don't envy the take or leave smokers, eventually they will all be coughing over 20 a day, such is the law of addiction.

    I think they lie to themselves as well as us. If they can 'leave' a cancer stick containing 4000 deadly chemicals then why don't they?

    If they get any pleasure from their nicotine fix then assume they are addicted and exercising extreme self control to NOT smoke other times....

  • Know what you mean Fay my son inlaw just smoked one or two each night before bed. My daughter is a nonsmoker so he gave it up last year but had a really hard time. He now said it was creeping up some extras at the week end. So dont think they will stay social smokers for ever. linda xxx

  • Let them waffle on as much as they like. I once knew a girl (woman) who HAD to have a fag before she went to bed EVERY night - but that was ALL she ever smoked!!!!! One lousy fag a day! :confused: She had one hell of a time stopping - and to me that was CRAZY!!!! :eek:

    Well done on coming off the patches btw :D

  • Thanks for the responses, I guess they are addicted (especially after what you said about your son-in-law Linda) if they weren't why would they smoke at all?

    I bet if you asked them they would say cus they enjoy it! either way they are killing themselves still!

    xx

  • My sis baffles the hell outta me. She smokes on occasion when she is out. She won't smoke every time she is out. I guess it depends on what company she is in, be it smokers or non smokers. She cadges fags off everyone else if she happens to be smoking that night!! I used to guard mine from her as if my life depended on it lol There was no way I was gonna run out of fags by the end of the night! God the times I have panicked at THAT thought! God how sad and pathetic I was. Its mad.

    But anyway, my sis can go weeks without having a fag. I'm sure she doesn't 'need' it. She'd never be ratty if she couldn't get hold of one for the night. So why the hell do it?! I'd love to be so laid back about fags because then I'd just not bother smoking the occasional fag when out.

  • Hey Fay

    Here we are in week three!!! Pats on backs all round!

    I used to work with a girl who was a casual smoker, worked together for 3 years and when we first met she only smoked when she went out, well sure enough by the end of 3 years she was bumming fags off people at lunch etc and smoking near on every night.

    It will always bite them on the bum. I totally understand your feeling a little miffed by these people at the moment - it's nasty nic trying his best to get you to have one, trying to tell you you could be like them - yeah right we know in our right minds that we can't!! Same as nasty nic trying to tell me for the past few days that I'm a happier person smoking!!!

    I've come close to caving in believe me and I really am a more snappy, irritable and miserable person now BUT I'm hoping that's just a temporary thing:confused:

    Anyway, good luck Fay - 5 days till we're into week 4!

    Jane x

  • I have people waffling that nonsense at me day in day out since i quit....

    Why do they all say they can take it or leave it? I can take or leave salt and vinegar crisps but i don't have to tell everyone about it.

    I'm lucky in that i don't envy the take or leave smokers, eventually they will all be coughing over 20 a day, such is the law of addiction.

    I think they lie to themselves as well as us. If they can 'leave' a cancer stick containing 4000 deadly chemicals then why don't they?

    If they get any pleasure from their nicotine fix then assume they are addicted and exercising extreme self control to NOT smoke other times....

    Yet again WKDF is correct in my opinion. I also onow thes take it or leave it, it dowsn;e affect me; holier than though, stronger than you or any other smoker in the world people.

    Unfortunately they can't just 'leave it' ask any one of them, if they can take it or leave it - why take it knowing how horribly, life threateningly bad it is for them?

  • I read this thread with interest - i think its a myth that people can 'take it or leave it' when it comes to fags....they still have their habit, whether its smoking everyday or every friday or every weekend. They are still smokers at the end of the day.

    I had a friend who only smoked when he was out. Which initially was once / twice a week - went up to about 6 times a week in the end! lol.

    He's successfully quit for 3 years now though...

    Laura :)

  • Takes all sorts I spose. I used to envy my sis who literally could take it or leave it. But you know what? Even if I could become a casual smoker like her and not need them, only smoking them 'cos I felt like it, why on earth would I want to pollute my lungs anymore??? No way.

    Well I for one am glad our silly days are over!!!

    As for some people eventually smoking more, my sis really isn't one of those. Which is why I used to be so envious of her. For 15 years now she has only smoked about 6 nights in a year :eek: She hasn't smoked any during the day whilst at work or social ising...its only ever on the odd occasion. So they do exist! Why they bother tho I don't know.

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