Seperation Issues?

[nsd_user663_3078]

This forum is fantastic for the motivation and support it offers quitters in the early days of their endeavors but do you think there comes a point, when you have been quit for some time, where you have to leave smoking in your past and by that I mean anything connected to it including forums etc?

Or, do you think its a good thing to stay connected to one of the mediums that aided you in your quit?

What do you think...

[nsd_user663_3078]

I see myself being on here on a regular basis for the next wee while as I think the reinforcement and encouragement helps build nicotine barriers in my mind(sounds crazy, I know) which kick in anytime I get a craving.

For example, I have been looking forward to my first post as a week 2'er and anytime that i've had a craving, that thought just jumped to the front of my mind.

On a long term basis I would feel obliged to pop in and give encouragement to those in my situation now, it would be a privelage actually

It would also be great to catch up with old buddies.

Ofcourse that is a long, long way off......

Sorry, my point is I don't think staying connected has to be a negative thing.

[austinlegro 11 Years Smoke Free]

To me, if you stay on here or keep coming back regularly then there must be something lacking either in your quit or in your life.

Givers and takers surely cat..?

Givers might be here forever depending on their motivation.

[nsd_user663_3043]

I think being on here for a year would be okay. I guess the longer you go you'd end up popping in near any miletstones. I'd love to come back on the 1 year forum!

[nsd_user663_3078]

yeah that really would be something wouldn't it

[nsd_user663_2497]

Interesting thought.

Had never really considered it before. Myself, I can see I will probably be an occasional stopper by type, really kind of like I do now as I dont tend spend too much time online.

Its all personal choice at the end of the day, but I dont think its unhealthy for long termers to stick around. This is a forum like any other, that i'm sure many of us have been members of for years, whethers its sports or music ones etc.

[nsd_user663_3003]

we all need help

Hi Bobby.

some time we do need forum like this, there are others who need to be up-

build, their will-power maybe so low they need someone to turn to for help.

you and all the others one in the d-day team has really help me a lot.

thank-you all,

Alan

[nsd_user663_2931]

I think I will be leaving the forum behind, can't really be healthy to keep on here. To me, if you stay on here or keep coming back regularly then there must be something lacking either in your quit or in your life. Popping in on occasion to gee up those who have joined would, I suppose, be OK.

Yep, def something lacking in my quit...willpower. Which is why I use this site. For the most part, it is full of great people and is great to follow by their example.

As for lacking something in life...hmmm...no, can't say I can relate to that. Maybe someone else will turn up that can relate to you? :rolleyes:

[nsd_user663_3029]

Different people need this forum for different things. Some need help, some like to offer it, some are just interested in the ins and outs of smoking and its effects.

I would like to think that most people stick around until they are either completely at ease in their ex-smoker status (i.e. they don't even think about smoking and thus naturally don't even think about this site), or fall off the smoke-free wagon and prefer to disappear.

Of course those in that last category need this site as more than most, and I would hope that anyone who's lit up can feel confident enough to come back, take the support that's offered, and try again.

As for myself, I expect that around my birthday (mid-June) I'll feel well enough not to need this community for my own support, and will be on my way out of offering support for fresh stoppers. I might pop back sometimes if I have moments of weakness and, assuming I succeed in not lighting up again, I'll probably return for my 6 month and anniversary celebrations, if only to prove to the fresh stoppers that it can be done, and to say hello to the others who are stopping around now.

In the meantime, the main use I'll get from this site will be to stop any craves during the late evenings, when I have most trouble, and when I'm least busy (and thus have most time to think about smoking).

I smoked my last cigarette 6 Days, 13 hours and 15 minutes ago. I have saved £59.74 by not smoking 262 cigarettes. I have saved 21 hours and 50 minutes of my life.

[nsd_user663_3029]

I knew my opinion wouldn't be popular, but thats all it is, my opinion. No offense was intended to anyone who has/intends to stay on this forum for the next however many years, its just not the way for me.

It doesn't look like anyone was offended by what you said... :confused:

We're all quite different people and the only thing we all have in common is that we all want to stop smoking. We all have different personalities and it's therefore hardly surprising that some of us have different approaches to both this forum and to battling our individual demons.

I take everything anyone says here as their own opinion, based on their own experiences, and I like to believe that we're all here to help each other and ourselves. Even though some of us are more abrasive and terse in our comments than others, I always give posters the benefit of the doubt and believe that they mean well.

Any other motives just don't make sense.

I smoked my last cigarette 1 Week and 5 minutes ago. I have saved £63.86 by not smoking 280 cigarettes. I have saved 23 hours and 20 minutes of my life.

(I have been officially clean for a week! Woo Hoo!)

[nsd_user663_2892]

How long is a piece of string?

I don't know what I'll be doing tomorrow....never mind looking that far ahead.

At this moment in time, I love being able to come on here, whether it be to bitch, moan, rejoice or even just for a chit chat.

I love that I can rant and rave AND YOU ALL GET WHERE I AM COMING FROM.....if I spoke to any of my colleagues, friends or family the way I speak to you guys, they'd probably have me committed. Those who have never smoked don't understand, and those who are still smoking just want you to shut up.

So, I guess my answer is, I will be here as long as I feel the need.

[nsd_user663_2783]

I knew my opinion wouldn't be popular, but thats all it is, my opinion. No offense was intended to anyone who has/intends to stay on this forum for the next however many years, its just not the way for me.

Hi - I'm not offended by your opinion Cat - as you say its just not the way for you. Don't go just yet though will you. I have found some of your posts very helpful in the past:cool:

I would like to think I could do the same but I am not confident enough to leave this forum just yet and I would still like to read the posts and help where/if I can in the months to come. I have found most of the comments from those who have been on here for a while very helpful and supportive.

[nsd_user663_2743]

I love that I can rant and rave AND YOU ALL GET WHERE I AM COMING FROM.....if I spoke to any of my colleagues, friends or family the way I speak to you guys, they'd probably have me committed. Those who have never smoked don't understand, and those who are still smoking just want you to shut up.

thats it in a nutshell for me!!