Good morning my beloved ms family. I hope your sleep was better than mine last night. I do not understand my sleep issues these days. My Mother swears it is age-related, maybe she is correct, I just wish I could get a good nights sleep, without a 2am trip to the toilet then 4 hours wide awake. Maybe tonight, I can only hope.
Okay, today we are going to talk about sex, the physical act. We shall start with usual disclaimer. If “YOU” are having serious issues and care enough, GO TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. I am NOT one. what I say is based upon experience, mine and others.
We shall talk first about the physical act. Sex involves touch and stimulation. A difficulty with Relapsing-Remitting ms (RRms), in my experience. With our back to front haywire nerves, it can lead to a lot of frustration. What worked once may not work ever again or maybe only this time. I have found a lot of experimentation, patience and a sense of humor are good things to have. Oh and a lot of patience and low expectations. Since diagnosis (DX) I have only been engaged physically with one woman and she has ms as well. Both of us having this disease has made it much easier to accept non-performance. I do not know what it is like with a non-ms functioning partner.
With that in mind a strong communicative relationship I feel is a huge benefit. To be able to laugh at yourself, have humour in your physical escapades I feel is very important. A good sound understanding of what is happening and is meant to happen as well is important. Knowing that your penis will be hardest when it is stimulated is important. If the nerves along your spine are damaged how can “YOU” expect feeling and sensation? Knowing these things takes the frustration and pressure off. If my penis is not erect with the first stimulation, I know why. There is no need to be angry at myself or frustrated. If the feeling is not there, perhaps try something else. A lot of the time a kiss and a cuddle are more than satisfying. Sex as I was at 18 is not needed so much at 50+.
Having said that it can be fun to try, I just never expect to succeed, like I used to and I am comfortable with that. “YOU” should be as well. I know have known of several young ladies that did have children after a diagnosis (DX) of ms. One actually had several.
Royce (your ms writer and brother)
now it is up to YOU, do we go anywhere on this topic?
