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Post 510 Sex and sexuality 14 Sep 2019 2

RoyceNewton
RoyceNewton

I do not recall when somebody spoke on this subject so of course, I am going to. Get your minds out of the gutter this is not me bragging or anything pornographic.

As always we preface this by saying I not a doctor of any sort. I am a man with Relapsing-Remitting ms (RRms) Divorced but now in a relationship with She Who Must be Obeyed and have been for 20 plus years. As "YOU' know she also has RRms. So that is the history.

Sex and sexuality is part of our being and our purpose. To keep the species alive and thriving. With ms it has one or two or three issues. Vaginal dryness, lack of erections, no desire. "YOU" can name lots of other problems I am sure. Sex and intimacy are a part of our lives as adults. It does require a lot of careful maneuvering, not just physically but mentally. Here I hesitate to say, but the most stable couples that I know are those of dual ms couples. They both understand and are willing to forgo immediate pleasure for closer intimacy and accept a great deal more humour.

Sex does not have to end with a diagnosis (DX) of ms, there are lots of women who have children after being Dxd with RRms, I know of a young lady that had three, years back, so it is possible.

In your relationship, I feel it may be more important to have a very strong mutual understanding of what ms is and a really weird sense of humour also never hurts.

It is possible to be sexual and to have sex with ms. It is possible to have sexuality. Lookup a few good dictionaries and learn the meaning of the words. Then how they apply to "YOU.

Royce

you can still be a sexual being, it is not all just a good wiggle and tight jeans

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Jesmcd2
Jesmcd2CommunityAmbassador

Chapter 510 Cut. Print. Shoot! Perfect! 🤣😂

Some of us need a bf before even thinking about sex!😭🤣🤗💕🌠

RoyceNewton
RoyceNewton in reply to Jesmcd2

we are still human and sex does not mean penetration anymore

Jesmcd2
Jesmcd2CommunityAmbassador in reply to RoyceNewton

Still need a boyfriend, I'm kinda old fashioned that way.😂🤣

RoyceNewton
RoyceNewton in reply to Jesmcd2

absolutely nothing wrong about that

I am in a bad spot with this. I use to be always ready at the drop of a hat 😍. Sometimes too much so my wife would say😅. But now all I think is, the number of times she has had to help clean me up from my bathroom mistakes, there is no way she could still find me sexually attractive. Because I sure don’t feel that way about myself 😔.

RoyceNewton
RoyceNewton in reply to MSnWV

talk to her, communication is really a good thing. Surprising how many doors (legs) it opens

Think again. Just because she has to help you in your private parts does not make you undesirable.

True that ^

I have MS he has ED so we just cuddle & hug it's a mutual problem but being able to talk about is MOST important

RoyceNewton
RoyceNewton in reply to kycmary

ha conversation who would have thought that would help :-)

kycmary
kycmary in reply to RoyceNewton

Royce to be able to snuggle up & cuddle with the one you love even when you can't do anything more is very comforting. We have the problem BUT! we have each other also.

RoyceNewton
RoyceNewton in reply to kycmary

certainly very true, as you get older sex is less and less important I have found

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