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Thank you all for your support. I am realizing that as a society, at least in America, we don’t learn how to deal with death. I realize that I never properly grieved for my brother who died a horrible death in Feb. 2016, then my parents a few months later just 18 days apart. Now with a divorce and the death of a woman who was like my mom and bestest friend, I realize that I am consumed with grief. Plus I have lost two grandsons my one daughter had. So much loss that I guess I never properly grieved. I have just always been strong for everyone else. I hope I can finally learn how to properly say goodbye. I continue to cry buckets of tears, kind of for the world at this point, all I have to do is think of something sad and I bawl like a toddler!

Again, my expressions of thanks to you are so very sincere. I have told them here about each of you in anonymous terms and how you are truly my family. I love each of you. Truly, really, absolutely. Will stay in touch. Sorry so long of a write. Love, Kelly xx

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jennie62

Kelly you're allowed to cry like a toddler, I find myself doing that from time to time over people I've lost. Truly helps to release the grief, loss and pain.

Sending you love and prayers.

Jennie

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RoyceNewton

for what it is worth my condolences for you, I hope when I come to start facing such losses I am as strong as you. My most sincere condolences for your loss my friend.

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mrsmike

My heart goes out to you Kelly. You are in my prayers. You are a strong person, you've shown that many times. You'll get thru. Remember we are here and will do whatever we can to help you.

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Doubled51

Amore55 . Dear Kelly I’m so sorry you have had to deal with so many losses. But you have to take time out to grieve. Time to cry just bawl your eyes out if it helps. Time to take a time out and breathe.

You are right we as a society have gotten in such a fast pace world that we’ve lost the ability to grieve and give our heart and mind time to heal.

I’m praying that God will heal your broken heart and give you peace that surpasses all understanding.

May God bless and keep you my friend.

Lots of love to you.

Donnie

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jimeka

Kelly, you are never given more than you can handle, so look for the rainbow, God’s promise, hugs Jimeka 🤗

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Morllyn

😔 Stay strong lady but let yourself grieve. 😘

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greaterexp

I’m glad you are in a place where you can let go and grieve. What a burden you’ve been carrying for so long.

Bless you for checking in with us here. We care so much about you and we hurt when you hurt.

It sounds trite, but I’m praying for you, darling girl.

Amore55, Kelly, dealing with grief is such an individual process that I do not believe it's just an American society issue. Each and everyone faces this horrible stage in life in very different ways. Even though my mother was chronically ill and I knew she was dying for several months her passing was no easier then when my husband father dropped it a heart attack at age 63 unexpectedly. No matter how you prepare you are, you still feel like someone's sucker punch you in the stomach when you lose one that is near and dear to you? The best I can hope to share with you is that try to remember the good things about your dear friend who passed, your parents, and the other loved ones you lost. If you can remember the good things it helps to ease the burden of the Lost. As long as you keep the memories near and dear they're never far away from you. When you face the Dilemma that is very complex in the answer just does not present itself logically to you no matter how long you problem solve on it then suddenly the answer becomes very crystal clear it is your loved one helping you to solve the issue providing the support you seek. When the day has been long and hard and you are exhausted and feel that's what you can't go on even one more second and it turn a breeze comes and gently whisper across your brow, it is your loved one pressing a kiss to your forehead to remove you and give you strength. Remember the good times and your loved ones will never be far away. Smile when you think of the ones you have lost and smile often.

You have been under such stress lately that this has magnified your feelings of loss and isolation. Please know that many here loves you dearly and are as close as a post away. If I can do anything to help you only need to ask. Fancy

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erash

Only when you feel deeply and sincerely can you hurt so deeply. So in a way, it is a blessing of life 🙏

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Feel that? That's the love that surrounds you. So grieve my friend. And let us be strong for you. And know, that this to shall pass. Love you!🤗💕

J🌠🦃

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Brindisi1

Lifting you in prayer for peace and comfort. You have had a lot of loss of family. Only until later will we understand. Grieve but with the love of God.

Tucking you into my prayers.

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DIsneyQueen

Kelly, Grief is so hard and so individual. And it sounds like you have had so many profound losses. There is no “right” way to grieve. Give yourself time and nonjudgmental freedom to grieve however feels right for you. That includes feelings of starting to feel normal (whatever that is for you) again. And as far as the tears, tears are just love that has no place else to go.

You will be in my prayers as you go through this very individualized journey that will be with you the rest of your life. Love that is gone always leaves its mark

Gay

You are grieving! That is your method! Lord you’ve had a lot of tragedy. The Bible says unforeseen occurrences befall us all. That life is short and glutted with agitation. Everyone grieves in their own way. I don’t believe there is some special grieving process and then one is fine. I think time makes the loss more bearable yet one never forgets.

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AngieRowe

❤️

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SueAB

Oh, Kelly! If anyone has a right to grieve, it is definitely you! I feel like a little sniveling whiner when I see what you have endured and overcome! Each day will become a teeny bit easier as you dwell more on your wonderful memories and less on you losses.

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bavery207

Amore55 may your tears help you find peace. You are with people who care.

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Jazzihorsecat

We All Love You Kelley!!💗💌💗 & yes you're family here, know that we'll always be here for ya just a post away!💌💘💞💖💗 You are Strong!💪 & may all the good memories come flooding back & comfort you, in YAH's arms & Perfect Love, you'll get thru this, My Prayers are wrapped around you!🙏Love You!💖💗💘---Jazzy🌹💜

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kdali

Nothing wrong with crying buckets 💐😘

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