My kids and ex have always told me that I share my feelings too openly, that I set myself up to get hurt. I have never believed them or wanted to shut myself off. This forum is like a big family, in my mind, and all families hurt each other , unintentionally from time to time. My skin is very thick and most things just roll off my back. But recently my feelings were quite hurt in a statement made to me on here.
So, I would just remind us all to stop and think before we “analyze” or play junior psychologist with others here. We are all fighting the best fight we can in this uphill, but somewhat losing battle, until a cure is found. I love every one of so dearly. You are each very precious to my soul. I believe you can feel my true love in my posts. It is very real. That is just me. No matter what my kids say, I will keep opening up my heart, because that is what I do in life. We are here to love one another.
On another sad note, I had the dogs at the nature preserve last Sunday with m friend. They chased an armadillo, because they had never seen one into the parking lot. They have never done anything like break loose from my wrist before with their leashes. They were both struck by a large truck. Maddie died instantly, Harley a few minutes later. I have grieved so horribly. I did know my depth of true love and adoration and appreciation for them until now. I continue to cry often and ask you to pray for me to have comfort.
Apologies for the long post. My love always, Kelly xx
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always my deepest sympathy for you on your tragic loss. I am sure I will feel the same way on the loss of my joint dog. I grieve for you and thank you for sharing your pain with me my dear sister.
Kelly my little sister you know you can always talk to me about anything especially if you’re hurting .
I’m sorry you were hurt by anybody much less part of our family. You know you can pm me and talk anytime. I’ll cry with you, get mad with or anything else that will help you.
I’m so sorry about your dogs. I know how you loved them. I’ve had dogs I don’t even know run out in front of me and be to close to stop and they broke my heart so bad that I couldn’t get them off my heart for days and I’ve lost some of my own beloved to accidents and it’s heart breaking to say the least so I know your hurting. But you have a lot of great memories to help that can’t be take away.
But you know I love you and will do anything in my power for you. So if I can help in anyway way just message me and let me know how.
Just remember that I love you sis. Your big brother.
Donnie, your message touched my heart so deeply. I do not have words to tell you how much I live and appreciate having a brother like you. You are a rock. Thank you, dearest friend. Kelly I love you.
Oh shit ! I would be devastated 😭 I am so sorry for you that’s just like loosing a family member 😪. My furbabies are a hugh part of my life especially since my wife passed 😣 Prayers are with you 🙏🙏🙏 hang in there, vent all you want👍😉😘 Ken 🐾🐾🐾🐾
Dear Ken, yes, my dogs got me through my divorce and other difficult times. After my divorce, if I had not had them, I believe I would have just stayed in bed and died. But they made me get up everyday and walk them and take them to the dog park. Finally, start eating again, after losing about 40 pounds. They have been my life, entirely. When I tried to re- home them, I was okay, sad, but knew they would be okay. It did not work. But now they are just gone, in an instant. Like I blinked, and no more dogs. I am grief stricken. I do not know how you have managed to get through your loss. I so admire you, but I know you know, like I do, one day at a time. Serenity prayer. Sometimes over and over. Love and thanks, Kelly
I thought you had made other arrangements but didn’t want to say anything. Just makes me sick to have read this. I just can’t imagine the heartache for you. Maybe it was meant to be where you were having problems keeping them and tried to find a good home for them. I know it’s hard but you know where they are and they will be waiting for you 🥰. Glad they didn’t suffer or be abused elsewhere. Bless you and stay strong 👍👍I know easy to say from others when you’re the one living with it. Many prayers and a big hug 🤗
Ken, I did make other arrangements. I found what looked like the perfect home with the perfect person, but Maddie, my Cairn could not adjust. She missed me ALL the time. Harley, my Bichon, did great. He missed me, but they are good little dogs and he just acted like he was on vacation. So I had them back for a week and a half. I so wish I never took them for that walk. Thank you so much for being so very kind.
Ken, I have also thought about what you said, that was it somehow meant to be. But what a sad, cruel thing. But I truly was struggling. I had hired someone in my building to walk them in the afternoons. I still took them every morning to the dog park, rain or shine. Maddie especially loved it, because she lived to chase her ball. Harley was happy just to hang with mama, like a typical Bichon! You know what I mean. They just like to stay close, all the time. Maddie was busy and lived to run around, like a good terrier should! They were the best. I have said that about the countless dogs I have had. Every single one has been “the best”. Funny how that works. Dogs are a gift from God, that we never get long enough.
I’m sorry your feelings were hurt. I know I say things sometimes without thinking but I never mean to hurt anybody’s feelings and I hope nobody else on here would, either. My heart breaks for you with your sweet pups, too. Oh my goodness. Words can’t express the sadness. That is horrible. Virtual hugs sent your way. You are in my prayers.
Tinker-Belle. I know that the person saying the thing that hurt my feelings did not mean to do it.
Thank you for your so sweet words about my sweet little fur babies. I will be sad for so long, but always cherish and love them. I know I cannot get any other dogs, which breaks my heart. Love, a Kelly
Don't apologize, Kelly. I was crying because I know how much your fur babies meant to you. It's so sad to lose them especially in this manner. Rest in Peace, Maddie and Harley. Sending you comforting thought and gentle vHugs, always.
I am so sorry about your dogs. What a dreadful thing to see. I hope the truck driver had, at the very least, stopped his truck & showed some remorse. Your dogs were inquisitive but please don’t blame yourself; if that truck driver were more aware he would have seen both the armadillo & your dogs. And, as far as “wearing your feelings on your sleeves”, so what? There is a reason he’s your ex! You are who you are; never apologize for that!
Oh, didn’t you know? We all hold a PhD in
Something! Just take what you want from any of us (& vice-versa) & hopefully we can each other. Sometimes at the end of the day that’s all we have - each other- because others really don’t understand us! 🤔🤗
The truck driver was just devasted. He is a farmer here in Kansas, at the nature center with his wife and two young daughters, they were all bawling, even the man. I meant to say devastated above. Sorry. I am having trouble typing again. Anyway, he was a giant help, actually. No details needed, let’s just say, he helped get Maddie in th back off my vehicle. Harley died in my arms licking my hand and asking me to make it all better. Which God did, because no one here had that ability.
Thank you for your very sweet words. Especially reminding me about why he is my ex. I guess he really never must have accepted my nature, telling me that I am way too generous. Which I suppose I am. Why shouldn’t I be? Much love, Kelly
Dear Kelly, I wish you peace and comfort in this difficult time. Love is Love. You are in my prayers. So sorry for your loss. Please keep sharing your feelings here. It's who you are and besides that it helps me to know it's ok to be vulnerable too.
I’m so sorry about Marley and Maddie - horrific for you, just dreadful
Arg and judgemental amateur psychologist santimonious fcuking people are the the pits!
It’s hard to be entirely understood at the best of times; never mind here in writing, hence why people should keep judgemental comments to themselves?!
‘If you havnt got anything nice to say; don’t say anything at all’
You’ve had a confusing message (who could even be vaguely mean to your gentle loving kind self?!) and witnessed an horrific horrible accident you are probably in shock
...I hope the family rallies round you and you don’t slip down the rabbit hole of blaming yourself for any of this...
I hop have time to take some time out to mourn your significant and tragic loss
Oh, boy! You said so many kind things, I do not know how to say thank you. So I will say what works best.. I live and always appreciate you!
You never mince words which I admire. What you said was my very first inclination, but because it was important to be so gentle with all I chose not to say it so bluntly, but so well! Thank you 😇🥰. Much love to you. My dear friend. Kelly xx
I think that everybody is different and nobody is perfect. The feelings are feelings no reasons. So, is very nice to have each person your own feelings, because we are feelings.
Hey no worries it’s only what you would say, right?
And I’m a scouser; so we call a spade a spade - bull bores me ...
I’ve been here for a long time and watched how kind and supportive you are to everyone who comes here, setting a good example and spreading the lurve - which is what we need, what with this bee atch MS to deal with on a daily basis
You’re clearly a loving, kind,lovely woman and you don’t deserve the rubbish luck you have had lately
The only way is up chick!
And as we (well I say lol) you can’t polish a turd;but you can roll it in glitter!
I hope you regain your equilibrium, peace and equanimity
Kelly, the forum family has wrapped arms around you at this terrible time. I hope the outpouring of love supports and buoys you at this time of loss. All of us, whether or not we live with fur friends, know the pain of your loss. We know too that it stays with us as long as we remember their names, diminished, but never quite gone. I know how dear those pups were to you.
Unfortunately we all fall short and sometimes say things that certainly shouldn’t be said. If I ever say something that offends or hurts you or anyone else in this group I ask you to call me out on it. As you said so eloquently we’re all in a daily battle, but we are expected to carry ourselves appropriately. Enough said.
Secondly your two best friends that were abruptly taken from you is beyond my realm of comprehension! I truly feel your pain and will be praying that God smooth the sharp edges of the grief you’re experiencing as we speak. God bless you my friend.
Oh, my goodness, Kelly! My heart just hurts so badly to read about this. Losing a furbaby is always so difficult, but in such a sudden and tragic manner is so painful. You are in my heart and prayers.
Oh no, I'm so very sorry for the sudden loss of your dogs. I am also sorry for some of the messages you have received on this group. This is supposed to be a loving group that helps and not take down others. Please feel free to vent when you need to.
oh my i am so sorry for your lose and the pain you are feeling ...they are just like our children ...can't believe this happened so sorry ...wow just can't believe it was such a sad incident ...they do want to check things out and maybe protect you for not knowing what it was ...i think i would of ran the other way ....wow love and prayers to help you heal ...many prayers ...peace and lots of love ...
So very sorry to hear of your loss, it must have been a terrible experience for you that will keep replaying. I don't know what to say, words cannot express my sadness that this has happened. Love to you all, I hope and pray you will get through this.🌈
Oh Kelly. My heart aches and my tears fall for you. I don't post on here very often, but I do read all the posts a few times a week. You are a special person and your posts have brought me a lot of smiles. Our pets are not pets, they are family. Furry children. The pain of the loss is overwhelming. There is nothing anyone can say that will take that away. I am so sorry this happened to you. You will be in my prayers.
I am sorry you had to go through such a tragedy. My prayers go out for you. My heart hurts for you. Our fur babies are family and to some of us they are like our children. The pain of losing them is just as real as if they were our own. I'm glad you reached out to us here to share your pain. Please don't beat yourself up because they took off running. Most healthy, strong peopIe couldn't have held them back. It's not your fault. I hope you know you are loved and that you will get through this and a time will come that you will only have good memories rather than painful ones you have right now. Peace be with you.
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