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So very tired

So our journey into the land of divorce continues. Up to this point, I have made 57 trips to the storage unit just working to get MY stuff out of the house. I bought myself a minivan, as we have always been able to share a vehicle. My husband works two blocks from our house. He has not helped with one thing. He is massively depressed, hates his job. The company stinks, he has been there 17 years, but it got bought out about three years ago and now it is a very difficult work place. Anyway, it has been in the high 90’s and 100 the past two days,and there I am making multiple trips to get my stuff out. We are selling the house and I swear he thinks it will just empty itself. He still tells me every call he loves me.

One very good thing...both of my dogs were certified emotional support animals. This is all so sad and draining. He says there is no reconciling. So, I plan to make a new life filled with concerts (classical), books, walks to the big library downtown as it looks like I will be moving downtown. Thanks for listening to one exhausted mser. Love you all, Kelly

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Amore55 I hold you in the Light.

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Sending you hugs 🌈💕

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How are you emotionally? How’s the pain? Hugs Jimeka 🦋 🍫

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Jimeka I am doing all right. As I said, I am tired, but I just keep going. The sooner we sell the house, the better. My pain goes thru the roof, but what can I do? I think of you everyday. Hope you are doing well. Hugs back to you. Love, Kelly

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Please keep in touch, don’t go through this alone, here for you, blessings Jimeka 🦋

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Sorry that you have to go through this 😔 but it sounds like you have a plan.🙂

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Sorry, you have to go through this and are not getting any help with moving your things from your soon to be ex. I hope you are drinking plenty of water and taking plenty of breaks in the heat. Do you have a cooling vest to use while doing all the moving?

Hugs my friend, I'm sorry you are going through this.

Jessie

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Hang in there it sounds like you have a good plan. We are going to get that weather also 90*+ for 5 days. Be safe in this weather make sure you drink your water.

At least you have your dogs for support.

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Oh Kelly, my heart is being ripped into for you right now. I can't imagine what you are going through and I just simply wish I were closer to give you support, hugs, and what assistance I can to get through this horrible part of your life. Your husband is making it so much harder bye telling you he loves you but then insisting he can't stay. I think he needs some serious counseling to put his priorities in order and figure out where is life is going. It sounds to me as if he had so many negative things on his plate with his depression, and his job turning into a nightmare, and dealing with watching MS simply tearing you apart that he broke. I think he believes that if he doesn't have to deal with your MS and watching you fight this dreaded disease and seeing what it's cost you to do so, his life will straighten out. He hasn't thought this through though and the decisions he made are stressing you out and ripping you in 2.

You are without a doubt, the bravest in most resilient woman I have ever known. How is your pain right now? I'm tearing up just speaking to you, thinking what you are going through. Is there anything I can do for you? I know it stinks were so far apart because that limits the help I can give you so much. Please know that you are in my heart, my thoughts, and my prayers. I'm sending you big hugs through this Electronic Connection. I absolutely hate and I am destroyed by what you were going through. It makes me realize that no matter how solid we think our marriage is our our mates are only human and I know they are scared to death watching us disintegrate right before their eyes. Then next I wonder if I could be as strong as you if this happened to me. I doubt liability to be that strong. Please keep in touch. Love, Fancy.

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I'm glad you're looking ahead Amore55 ☺ just remember to breath every day! Getting a divorce is never easy. And your coming on so suddenly? 😒

So go tell your soon to be ex to cry an whine somewhere else! YOU don't need it! 🤗💕

Now if you want down an dirty, come see me.😈 🤗💕

J🌠

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Take care of YOU! Hope everything goes smoothly. You say your hubby is depressed and wants a divorce but is doing nothing. Seems odd! Good luck!

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You should be tired, I’m tired just reading about it. I also loathe moving. But moving downtown is super exciting! Are you close to lots of stuff?!

This is a hurdle you will look back on and realize what a rockstar you really are. Keep moving forward! 😘🤗

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kdali. I will be very close to numerous fantastic venues. The tabernacle where the famous Mormon Tabernacle choir practices is very close and anyone can hear them practice. There is a fabulous farmer’s market. A place called the Gallivan Plaza with twice weekly concerts, AND a water pad! So many fun things to do, plus I am planning on sitting in on some college courses. Of course, it is not for credit, but I will love the history, literature and art history ones. The professors welcome anyone over 55 and I am 57! I will build a life. 😋 love to V. Thanks for the support. Love, Kelly xx

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Oh wow, that’s wonderful! Lots of great things to look forward to 😍

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Sorry to hear about what’s going on ☹️. Do you have any friends or family that can help 🤷🏼‍♂️. It has to be hard to do and I think as little communication with your ex the better off you will be👍. Sounds like he is just thinking of himself and no body else. Take care of yourself 👍🙏😉🐾. Ken

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Amore55,

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Be strong!

Realize that you need to do what works best for you and

reach out to others for help.

Take care of yourself.

Leslie

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❤️

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Kelley, U have all of our Prayers & support here elwctronically, u r such a warrior, & we all hoping u have your cooling vest & plenty of H20 to drink. We love u too & R totally & fully here for u too. YAH's Blessings to you& many loves & Prayers!💖💜💙💛❤😻😍☀🌈👍🙏🙏💪🐾🌹🌷🌸💐🌺🌻---Jazzyinco

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Keely, I'm so glad you let us know what is going on. I've been very concerned about you, and I know everyone else has been, too.

I wish you had better support as you go through this. Are there people in your church who would help with the physical work? How far away are your kids?

You amaze me with your strength and determination. You remain in my prayers for God's comfort, strength, help, and hope. I sure wish I lived closer to you!

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So glad that you are moving on. I wish that it wasn't so tough on you. Moving downtown sounds fun and energizing. Big hugs.

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You brought back memories. It is a hard time to make it through. Keep talking and laughing. I love The help pie episode.

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I am also sorry to hear of all you are going through but Wow! What an awesome attitude! You are doing the right thing, looking forward and making plans. Nothing is worse that sitting and stewing. (I'm good at that...) You are an inspiration!

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Amore55 I'm Really sorry your husband is putting you through this stress and fatigue! It is WRONG for your husband to sit at his pitty party while you are moving all of your things in the heat!

You take care, please be sure to rest when needed! Good luck on your future endeavors!

Kevin🤗

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