Survived my 40th reunion

Man! Everyone looked so old! (Not me, of course! - kidding there...) Had some people question the cane but it went well. Didn't have to worry about how much weight I had gained as everyone else were heavier, too. (I used to be anorexic in HS - 6' tall and 119 #'s. Now I'm more of an average weight for my height.) Silly but I'm still aware of it. I was such a wallflower in school so I figured nobody would even know me. Quite a few did and I even got some hugs! Surprise for me! I always have felt like such a nobody but perhaps, just perhaps, I'm somebody after all...

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  • mrsmike9buffering you are who you were meant to be. Never let anyone think you are a nobody. You are special, just the way God meant you to be. Big hug, blessings Jimeka ๐Ÿฆ‹ ๐ŸŒˆ ๐Ÿค—

  • I went to my 20 year reunion this year and ended up having lots of fun. I got called up front after sitting for an hour and everyone got a great eyeful of how badly I can walk. But lots of great conversations come from it without judgement.

  • Never forget that we are all somebody in the eyes of God and honestly he's the only one that matters.


  • Well said, Donnie. Sukie427

  • Well, I know that now. But as a teen... It was almost like stepping back in time to that old, terribly insecure person. Haven't outgrown the insecurity completely but sure am better than I was!

  • Good for you for going. I went to my 25 th that was before the MS. I looked pretty good if I do say. But I was like a wall flower know one noticed me in school but like you they knew who I was. Funny how that works

  • mrsmike9buffering teenage angst is tough. In many ways, glad I'm no longer a teen. ๐Ÿ˜œ

    I skipped my 40th this yr. too far away. And I've only kept in contact with a few. Last time I attended was the 25th. Dragged hubby along to see where I grew up. Most of the women looked ok, men balding and overweight.

  • Mrsmike9buffering, it's Fancy1959. I know with a sign in like yours I spoken to you before because of been out of the chat room a lot with my own health issues going on. So first and foremost Welcome to our extended family. You have found a safe place full of wonderful people that are compassionate, kind, and caring. So welcome aboard! Remember you are an important part of our chat room and are always somebody here!

    I am glad you had a good time at your 40th reunion. I haven't been to a reunion since my 20th and that was almost 20 years ago. I totally agree and understand that people of Our Generation are aging at a rapid pace except for ourselves! My husband is the king of this because he never think he's aged at all. We had a video made on vacation where we were in our swimsuits and he actually looked at himself and said "Oh my God I have a belly!" The entire family started chuckling at this comment. He hasn't watched this video since then! Haha!

    I would hope every almost 60 year old or 60 year old plus man and woman have at least a small belly or something's wrong with us! It's not always that weight was gained, sometimes it seems that even the most fit people in our generation just simply seem to have their weight settle. Haha! Especially us women who have had multiple babies and those who have had surgery the belly Factor expands exponentially!

    Until we speak again take care and remember you are somebody here. Also please remember that together we are stronger. Fancy

  • It sounds like you had a great time, mrsmike9buffering! Good for you! My 40th was last year, but I didn't go. I've never attended a reunion. Just too far and not worth the effort. So 6' and 119? I was 6' and 135. And I thought I was skinny! I'm no longer that tall or thin. Ha! Age and time (AND MS!) have a way of changing and humbling us all. ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ’•

  • Tutu I've never been to a reunion. I graduated in 1969 and never looked back. I wasn't the most popular guy then and didn't figure that would change after all these years. Its just enough to know that I've made it all these years without the help of a bunch of uppity snotty folks I didn't like then and most likely wouldn't like now. Haha. And they probably still wouldn't like me..


  • High school - even middle or grade school - can be rough, Doubled51. And I'm sure we've all changed some since then. I've never wanted to go back to my teens or twenties or so on. Some years (and days) are certainly better than others, but I think I'll stay just where I am and with whom I am! Life is good! ๐Ÿ’•

  • Tutu I agree. I had some good friends in my school years but when school was over it was time to go to work making a living not reminiscing about the old days. I moved on to the real world instead of worrying what the others did. And I've never regretted these decisions. Especially turning my life around and becoming the person I am today. I'm a husband a father a grandfather and a great grandfather. Theres no reunion that could ever top that. Ill stay where I am to. Yes life is good. Blessings.


  • Sounds like a great life, Doubled51. What wisdom we could share with our younger selves! I believe Mercy Me has a song about that. ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ’•

  • Tutu Yes. The younger me. If I knew then what I do now. Truly words of wisdom.


  • mrsmike9buffering So glad you were able to go to your reunion and it sounds like you had fun, which is great to hear!


  • mrsmike9buffering , good for you! I actually intensely disliked high school and my classmates, but I went to my 30th reunion in 2001 before I had the MS just out of curiosity and my best friend (who, along with my husband, are the only classmates with whom I am still in contact) and I played "Guess Who Had Plastic Surgery". A wonderful game, to be sure--we actually counted 3! Now my 50th is coming up and I am sure that the score would be much higher, if I were going, but I am not. Nothing there for me. Sukie427

  • I found it rather therapeutic. When I left I realized that perhaps I wasn't such a nobody back then. Just realizing that helps me now.

  • mrsmike9buffering now that's what I'm talking about. Congratulations to you.

    Blessings to you.


  • @mrsmike9buffering

    I'm glad you were able to enjoy yourself. We are our own worst enemy we make things worse by over thinking.

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