Moving states with OCD

[mkay28]

Hi everyone!

I’ve posted on here a couple of times regarding my story with harm ocd thoughts and what has occurred in my life. I got the opportunity to move across the country with my boyfriend and attend college and finally made the decision to go. It’s coming up fast and I still am beyond terrified to go because what if my thoughts get worse once I move down there and am not in my comfort zone at my childhood home. Any advice? because I am so excited but these negative thoughts are starting to make me second guess my decision.

[deValentin]

It's a chance for you to start with a clean state. No need to second guess the future (Is my ocd going to get worse? Is my ocd going to get better?). Go one step at the time, and whatever the future holds, you'll maintain the satisfaction you've done your best. OCD recovery is a bumpy road, so it's okay to experience some relapses from time to time. What's important is to look at the big picture, keep hope and start afresh each time.

It's normal to feel ambivalent about the move. You'll leave a comfort zone, but with the passing of time, you'll get used to your new environment and create a new comfort zone. At the same time, it may be exciting to start a new chapter in your life, but with the passing of time, the novelty will wear off. Investing time in friendships and activities will keep the fire alive.

Some people say, I'll stop ruminating on the possibilities of harming myself or others when I'll be absolutely sure I won't harm anybody. That's the wrong way to go. Absolute guarantees don't exist in life. It's better to say, I'll stop pondering over that topic when it's reasonable to do so. If you do that, you'll regain some self-confidence, and absolute guarantees won't be necessary anymore for you to be at peace with yourself. To do that is more difficult at first , but it's more satisfying in the end. I wish you good luck in your new start in life.

[IStillHaveHope]

I think it's really typical for people with OCD to have the, "what if the OCD comes back" worries. If you're like me then it will likely wax and wane over your life and tend to spike when there is added stress. The good news is that you know this now so make sure you're taking care of yourself when stressful situations arise. Make sure you're eating right, getting enough rest, and getting exercise. Also make sure you have good support network (therapist, doctor, friends, family, etc.) setup to help you if you have issues.

One of the worst problems with OCD is that it tries to constrict your abilities. Live your life and pursue what you value; not what the OCD does. You cannot live a life without stress but you can learn what to do in those situations. It's not easy and it takes effort to understand yourself better but it is possible to live a long and fulfilling life with OCD.

Go out there and kick ass despite what your OCD is telling you