Confession ocd

[Sophie30x]

Has anyone ever suffered with confession OCD. I have horrible sexual intrusive thoughts about a certain person. And it’s making me sick because I have a gf that I love so much and I don’t see this person in that way at all! I have the need to confess things to my gf about it. But I know she wouldn’t understand this. I need help and want it to go away. I know if I tell her I’m feeding the OCD. Has anyone got any tips?

[sligoguy]

It is a common one , the ocd makes you feel guilty for the intrusive thought ,which by the way is nothing to do with you ,or what you are about ,you then try do make it right by confessing this to your partner or who ever ,but this is a typical ocd response !! BELIEVE me they don't need to here your confession ,and you don't need to confess I promise you it is pure and simple ocd trying to screw you up again ...no one can stop thoughts popping in to their head, absolutely no one ,the difference is us with ocd make it a bigger deal ,,, everyone that sees an attractive girl or guy will get a thought or image some more graffic than others ,it is just a human thing ,so cut yourself some slack you are normal. Just because you see a good looking person or one nice to you ,it does not mean you are not in love with your partner,,,,it's an ocd trick to make you question everything ....try and see the pattern

[Sophie30x in reply to sligoguy]

Thankyou so much for this, I absolutely hate it! The guilt I feel about it when she doesn’t even know. I’m so desperate to tell her to make me feel better but that’s so selfish. It’ll just come back again won’t it so I need to be strong. Thankyou so much ❤️

[sligoguy in reply to Sophie30x]

I've been there ,all the details ,then oh I forgot to tell her that bit ,,and so on ,,,she does not need to here it you are NOT being deceitful,you are not being a cheat ,you have a flare up in ocd ,,,that's why you are suffering it's cos you care and these thoughts are wrecking your head ,so accept that is what this head game called ocd does ,,,let the thoughts go

[Sophie30x in reply to sligoguy]

Thankyou so so much. I really appreciate your help. What a lovely person you are x

[MothFir]

Have you started therapy yet? I think in a previous post you said you were starting CBT soon.

Like sligoguy says, it's a common theme and the best thing you can do is NOT start confessing stuff. The fears and guilt are not real, no more real than the OCD fears I sometimes have about my stove -- worrying that it's on when I'm staring at the thing and it clearly says "off." Try to think of the anxiety as a bad cold, or joint pain, or an annoying insect, or whatever. Just don't think that its content means anything. If you can put up with the painful emotion long enough without giving in to its demands, you will eventually starve it of its intensity.

I think most of us have ups and downs with our OCD, so hang in there. If you can consistently do therapy (ie, resist confessing) you should experience overall improvement even if there are rough periods now and then.

[Sophie30x in reply to MothFir]

Thankyou very much for your help. I am starting CBT next Friday and I’m so ready for it! I’m now on 100mg of setraline.. it is helping enormously but these past two days haven’t been great! I absolutely hate it x

[lml885]

The confession is a compulsion and try to think about it like a glitch in your brain. Good people get concerned with so called bad thoughts, but they aren’t actions. They are just thoughts, little neurons firing in your brain. You’re not a robot, you can’t control everything. We humans are also mammals, we naturally have carnal desires and instincts but we also have morals so we don’t act on them. Don’t judge your thoughts, they’re just thoughts. You have good thoughts too, focus on those.

[Sophie30x in reply to lml885]

Thankyou so much xx

[Gianna_chile]

Hi. Does your gf know how ocd works? But really knows? If so, you can tell her both sexual ocd and confession compulsión. And also confess that this is a compulsion she should not feed.

Best luck

[Sophie30x in reply to Gianna_chile]

Yeah she does know. But she still gets upset. I just need to try not tell her what I’m thinking because it doesn’t mean anything