I am in a new relationship with a woman who I feel a great connection with. On our last meet I drove her home. Two days later, my cousin was in my car and she said my car smelled really bad. I maybe didn't notice it since I've gotten used to it. I had a bunch of clothes and things from the gym in the trunk which isn't totally blocked off from the rest of the car. Other family members and friends have been in my car recently and hadn't mentioned anything- a couple months ago a friend mentioned something, but on the day of my date for whatever reason I thought it wasn't bad (I did remove some items from the car before she got in). I was mainly focused, though, on wearing nice clothes, and looking decent myself, etc., so was less focused on my car. I am not totally sure my date noticed anything on that day (I may or may not have also had the windows open prior to her being in the car). Now I am really unable to communicate with my date naturally. I had my car cleaned and bought air fresheners after my cousin mentioned this to me. I feel I can only go back to normal interactions with my date after she comes in my car again and sees that it's clean. This is hurting my self image a lot.
Please let me know what I should do to manage this. We just made plans to meet again on Tuesday. Should I appologize about the car smell in advance and tell her it's better now? On prior dates she chose to take an uber to meet me (and maybe that was specifically cus she didn't like my car!). If she insists on an uber this time too, I'll feel I'll have no opportunity to show her that I've improved in that regard and am not totally mindless. But until she sees my car in normal condition I don't feel I can talk to her with confidence and connect with her like before. We had interesting conversions in the past about things like psychology, dreams, etc. The conversation of our last date went very well- I even told her about a dream I had with her in it, and she responded well! With something like this car issue on my mind, though, it will be hard to stay enthusiastic since I'll feel she's not taking me seriously. Thanks!