I’m so glad I found this group. I just need to talk with others and see that it’s real
Anyone else find that the guilt from OCD is one of the worst parts? It’s just this guilt that I’m causing OCD somehow- guilt that I know isn’t logical but I can’t shake it. I try so hard to be healthy with the one (major) exception that I’m drinking myself maybe to death. I simply cannot take the constancy of OCD plus my powerlessness to stop. And I am powerless. I don’t find it comforting to be reassured I’m not powerless because it feels like I am. But it also feels like it’s my fault. I can’t take this guilt.
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Part of the idea of treatment for ocd is handling the guilt/depression involved. I would urge you if possible to talk with a counselor or doctor about all of this. Try to find someone who specializes in ocd treatment. You can also talk to them about drinking. Which can be a major or none factor in your behavior and thought patterns. Good luck.
I completely relate to this!!! For so many years...the guilt I experienced far outweighed the anxiety. I had guilt for tragedies that I was not responsible for...and I continue to struggle with guilt for leaving an emotionally abusive marriage (just because I feel guilty and responsible for everything!). This is the OCD way! For many people, guilt is the primary feeling. But just because it feels real, doesn't mean there is anything to be guilty about (I'm working on this!). It's a great opportunity for real-life ERP and to say, yup, "maybe I deserve to feel guilty...but it's probably OCD...and I'm going to choose to live into my values today!"
You are not alone. Guilt is a part of OCD. It’s because we are such considerate and caring people, guilt can get to us so easily. OCD holds onto that guilt and it FEELS real. It turns into a vicious cycle. I agree with the other wonderful people on here and recommend you talk to a anxiety/OCD specialist. They will help you to process this guilt in another way. Something I find very helpful is to acknowledge out loud that it’s my OCD causing it. The second I feel a OCD moment coming up I say, “That’s just my OCD.” Then I distract myself with something. Even just singing a silly song out loud. I have days where this works easily and days where it takes multiple tries to distract myself. Then I talk with my therapist about what could be triggering the guilt and work with her on it. This is what works for me along with ERP. I hope this helps some. I’m sorry for your struggles and I know it can feel so isolating. You are not alone!
Hi. I'm sorry that you are going through this, and can certainly understand. Logic doesn't help at all.
Through therapy with a qualified OCD specialist, I have learned so many things to help me in this type of situation. I have shared here before that I have made index cards for myself just in this type of situation.
Some of them say
* OCD is a Bully
* Feelings are not facts
* OCD will never be satisfied
* OCD is a disorder, not a decision
and so many more that are not coming to me off the top of my head. I would be happy to share them with you.
Do you watch the web nights of "Just Ethan"? He has OCD and hosts usually a one-hour long web thing that is live (but you can also watch it afterward since they post them online on YouTube and Facebook ). The nice thing about watching them live is that anytime during the video, you can post comments or questions and he answers them right there. He also much of the time has up to 3 other doctors/specialists on with him. Between them all I have learned so much. Hearing from others that have experienced the same thing is so helpful. And the tips you learn are so great.
I suffer from scrupulosity, so 'guilt' is my middle name 😜.
I echo what everyone else here is saying! I experience an insane amount of guilt from OCD related thoughts. You're in no way alone, and like everyone else is saying, speaking to the right therapist is essential in treatment. You friggin' got this!
Yes I think guilt is one of the most hard thing when you have OCD. You are not alone and when you feel guilty think that "you don't do anything wrong and OCD want to feel like that". I hope I helped you. <3 <3 <3
Guilt and Ocd can definitely go hand and hand. ..as an individual who has had guilt for many years. When I learned Noone else can make you feel guilty. So important to give your self compassion.
You shouldn’t feel responsible for what you can’t control. That’s unquestionable. This being said, there is an element that OCD sufferers can control to some extent: an objective assessment of reality. Let me explain. Some people believe, while in the throes of OCD, that they can search for complete certainty on a certain topic without their obsessional search negatively affecting the rest of their lives. They’re in denial. This is wishful thinking. They’re not objectively looking at the high costs of OCD. An OCD episode always take longer than anticipated. This temporary blindness may make them underestimate the need to practice ERP exercises at the appropriate time. OCD is a debilitating disorder, but one’s faculty to judge clearly given the knowledge and resources available at the time should remain somewhat intact, in contrast with a disorder like schizophrenia. When you say you feel guilty that you’re causing OCD, is it because you feel that you too easily let OCD distort your thinking and temporarily give it a credibility it doesn’t deserve? I'm trying to understand where the guilt stems from?
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