OCD and Trauma

[Romina1]

Hello!!

I have OCD and it’s been a long journey! I had ERP but didn’t work for some of my thoughts...

I read about Trauma and OCD and would like your advice on this specific fear I have:

I’m going to get married and I’m feeling anxious that an OCD thought will pop in the middle of the ceremony or while I dance the vals( it is something I’ve dreamed of all my life) and ruin this once in a life time event and I’m also afraid of attaching this “bride to be time” with the OCD and feel a anxious every time I look back into the memories of my wedding!

I feel very anxious when thinking about the day I got engaged because my head is telling me: “You didn’t enjoy the engagement because you have OCD and you haven’t been given the all clear by the therapist” this thought makes me very sad because it really makes me think I didn’t enjoy my engagement!! And it was something I dreamed of all my life!

Have someone feel this way or can someone give advice??

Thanks!!

[LadyJoro]

Could you create a memory/vision board that shows the day as a good memory and the wedding is something good to look forward to so that when these thoughts pop up you have something tangible to help you challenge these thoughts?A cute picture of you and your other half showing off your ring that you can carry with you can help too.

If you don't have one take one, get dressed up pretty, do you're make up etc so you have a reminder that being engaged is what you want and it's a good thing.

[Fargo-Guy]

You will always have thoughts. Keep in mind the positive things about your relationship. Let you wife to be know you have an illness. OCD. It is nothing more than an illness. You can take med. get treatment and have a good life. But she needs to know how bad your OCD is. You can live with it. I have been married 48 years. Had ocd since 6. Life can go on.