Husband still in hospital

[Jean24]

Husband still in hospital and its now 14 days. His pneumonia really taken it toll on him, he had thrush in his mouth. Starting to improve slowly. Just wondering how poorly would he had been if he didn't have his pneumonia injection last year. I feel so far away from him, when he's down I can't buck him up. There's no papers being delivered onto wards, he didn't have a radio or telly to keep in touch with the outside world. I took up his Walkman, clean clothes. Etc. I've taken up some more clean clothes, jellies etc do he can eat other things. Trying to speak to a doctor has been a night mare. In 14 days I've spoken to 3 doctors. Can spend all day trying to ring the ward. I realise its hard on the staff, but it even harder for families to be kept in the loop. Hopefully he will be home mid week. Fingers crossed.

[Otterfield]

I'm so sorry to hear this, it must be incredibly stressful for you. Keep posting here and we will all support you as well as we can x

[Jean24 in reply to Otterfield]

Thank you. Just want him home now. Will need to build him back up. He will soon start to notice his hair will need cutting.

[Aime]

Fingers crossed for you he gets home soon. He sounds on the mend. Kindest regards and best wishes to you both.xx Aime 😻

[hunter5582]

It sounds like a bad stretch to be dealing with being so sick and have nothing to while away the hours being alone and out of touch. What about his cell phone and/or a tablet? I sure hope he gets out of the hospital soon. I know the hospitals are stressed, but there really is no excuse to leave families so out of the loop. Patients recover better when they have support and contact from their loved ones and someone can advocate for them. Patients do not get the same quality of care when no one is able to advocate for them.

You will both be in thoughts and prayers. I hope he is home soon.

[Jean24 in reply to hunter5582]

Thank you. He's only got a small phone, I did buy him a I pad a few years ago but just couldn't get on with it. So gave it to daughter. He's got his Walkman.

[Chaz1]

Hi, so sorry to hear he's still poorly & that it's such a bad experience. He is in the best place so please keep that in your mind. My Grandma (not Mpner) is in hospital with pneumonia also & it has been very challenging, she has been in for a month now although she is greatly on the mend but she didn't have a comb, hearing aid or glasses for the first few days which was distressing for her as they don't like them to be sent when they go in an ambulance. She struggles to hear anyway particularly without her aids & people wearing face masks. We've struggled to talk with drs & she was moved wards without us knowing. It's a horrible situation but I trust that they have her care in hand and she hopefully will be home in the next week or so. How she ended up ill is a mystery as she is 98, in a care home in her own room, full PPE & doesn't leave her room. She is active, gets up & walks around on her own & sits in her chair doing cross words.

Take care of yourself, hubby is surrounded by professionals but you are also going through it without the same help so shout out to us. Sending virtual hugs xx

[Jean24 in reply to Chaz1]

Thank you, it's strange how they get these things. He's not been out other than doctor t o have flu jab and hospital. He will be home soon. X

[Trocken]

So sorry to hear about your husband, I work for the NhS and whilst I know trusts are operating differently, ours have had a big push on keeping patients and family in touch, they have IT access on every ward so patients and family can see each other via video call options. Patients all have access to free TV / Radio / and the phone above their beds, so families can call their direct number. Can I suggest you call PAL’s (Payient Advice and Liaison Service) who may be able to help improve communication for you all. You’ll be able to find their contact details on the hospitals website or ring the switchboard and asked to be put through to them. It’s such a hard time for you all. Xx

[Jean24 in reply to Trocken]

Thank you. I wish this hsppened here but no. X

[katiewalsh]

Hi Jean. This must be so hard on you. But great news that he’s starting to improve. And I hear the nurses and staff do an extra good job caring for patients who can’t have visitors. Maybe it would help you feel better if you wrote him a letter each day. If he’s not allowed to receive it now it will be a real treat for him for when he gets home. Fortunately you can be sure he knows how much you love him & that you’re thinking of him all the time. But writing some nice love letters might be a real treat for both of you. And he’ll probably like to read what you did while he was in the hospital. Just be sure to take care of yourself & make a few plans now so you’re ready to care for him when he gets home. Hang in there. This is a hard time to get through. Katie

[Jean24 in reply to katiewalsh]

Thank you. I'm not one doing live letters. It's my husband who can write a soppy letter. X

[Wyebird]

Chin up, fingers crossed he is on the mend x

[Stevesmum42]

What a worrying and scary time for you both. It must be so very hard not being able to help and just to be with him....I hope he will be home very soon..... Sandy x

[Doggy1903]

Thank you for being brave enough to write about your husband. I m sure all that read your news send our love for his recovery. Bless him so distanced from you. Sounds as if you are doing all you can to help. Take care and let us know how you are please,

[IrishHiker]

That is really tough on both of you. I hope he is better soon and you can be together back home again. These are hard times for all with COVID adding pressure on the healthcare system and society in general. Stay in touch and keep us posted. Best of luck to you both♥️

[paintbox]

Thinking of you and your family. It's such an isolating time on top of the health worries you have for your husband. I wish him a speedy recovery so you're back together at home very soon 🙏

[Cokopops]

So sorry you’re going through this. What a worrying time for you. Keep positive

[krotsida]

God bless you and your husband.

[Cja1956]

So sorry to hear he is still on the hospital. My mom who is 87 was in the hospital 3 times since January. She has very poor speech and my sister and I have been her mouthpiece for many years. She’s also wheelchair bound and can’t perform her activities of daily living. She also has a history of pneumonia and breathing issues. But she, thankfully, never got Covid. However, because she was low on oxygen, they put her in the Covid ward automatically, and then pretty much ignored her. My sister and I called several times day, but the nurses always seemed to have more “pressing” issues. They wouldn’t allow her to wear a diaper and they left her to eat by herself and ended up with food all over her. It was so frustrating and stressful, so I understand what you are going through. I truly hope he comes home soon and you can care for him properly, with good food and all the love and comforts of home.

Sending hugs,

Cindy

[azaelea]

What a dreadfully worrying time you have had. So pleased to hear your husband is improving and hope you'll have him home very soon. We're all thinking of you both. xx

[mhos61]

Best wishes to you Jean.

It won’t be too much longer until he’s back home with you! Xx

[tracey13]

I feel for you both it's a nightmare being in hospital and having no visitors .

Hope your husband gets home soon . X