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Hi all I live in a corner bungalow with a narrow drive in and out for me and next door who says she has copd her two nieces live at 12&14 her sister at number 24 and cousin at 27

She’s at 16b with me stuck in the corner they are all in and out of next door daily it’s a nightmare I dread bin days as I’m on hydroxycarbamide no spleen high blood pressure and heart problems

If I tell the housing there’s 5 households and wandering if it’s worth it

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Dazakella2010 profile image
Dazakella2010

Hello....

yes if it was me I would defiantly report it.... all to use people mixing together who else are they mixing with? Rules are rules and they are there for a serous reason, everyone needs to abide by them.

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Mwalimu

I can understand how you feel …. could you put it down in writing (keeping a copy), explaining the situation you are in and that you are frightened? Could you also suggest how they could help you feel better about things?

Remember more bees are caught with honey than salt. Technically you are right but some people are simply heedless and limited in understanding/imagination.

Think very carefully what you want to say, then imagine yourself in their position of receiving it. You'll probably want to change it!

Good luck,

Sallie

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PhilReade in reply to Mwalimu

I have a camera on my front door it’s got all the images of them coming and going daily for the last three weeks even the kids on there bikes

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Mwalimu in reply to PhilReade

That would certainly prove you are right but isn't your aim to try to change things with the minimum of unpleasantness? You have got to live with them ALL both during and after the lock-down. Anyway, hope things change for you. Sallie

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PhilReade in reply to Mwalimu

I know your right I’ve tried the family are a nightmare they park right in the access to my drive making it difficult to get in with there 4 by 4 next door has two dogs two pups they bring food in and out taking turns cooking for each other and are always going out

I just feel like moving

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piggie50

Hi Phil,

This is a difficult one as it’s obviously making you very anxious.

I would steer away from anything that would cause bad feeling. As Awalimu says, you still have to live around these people after all this is over. Are you shielding? ie not going out at all? , apart from putting your bins out. If so, I would try to ignore it and on their own heads be it if one of them succumbs to the virus.

Unfortunately with so many of one family living in the same road they probably do not feel they are doing wrong. ( Incorrect I know) .

I don’t think a letter to them will make a scrap of difference, they obviously don’t care. ( like a lady dog walker who laughed at me when I covered my mouth and nose to pass her). You either ignore it or report it, but that should be your decision.

My feeling is as long as you stay inside when they are coming and going you are safe.

Look after yourself,

Judy x

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PhilReade in reply to piggie50

Thanks so much yes I’m shielding I’m not going out apart from my bins I wear my mask and gloves and make sure no one is about

I take out at night last week someone did bring my bin in though

Just a nightmare time hope your ok

Thanks

Phil

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MaggieSylvie

If those people are not seeing anyone else outside the home, then it's almost as if they are living in one household, and therefore minimal danger to you. However, I can imagine how disturbing all the coming and going can be. But are they overloading the bins? What is your concern about bin day? If they are, they perhaps you should contact the Council.

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PhilReade in reply to MaggieSylvie

It’s just I don’t want to be passing on the narrow entrance on bin days that’s all really

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Dazakella2010 in reply to MaggieSylvie

But they are not living in one household they have their own houses and the rules are to only see the people you live with.... if you bend the rules then what’s next.... just seeing a friend? Just seeing your sister? Rules are rules and you are to see it mix with no one out side your family.

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MaggieSylvie in reply to Dazakella2010

I'm sure you are right, but that will, no doubt, be their excuse. I can't understand how people can be so inconsiderate right outside someone else's door at any time, never mind now.

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MaggieSylvie

Could you put your bin out early and bring it back late? Or ask them to do it for you.

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PhilReade in reply to MaggieSylvie

Hi yes I’m going to do that thanks really appreciate your messages

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friendofpiglet in reply to PhilReade

Asking them to put your bin out and bring it in gives you the opportunity to air your concerns without causing offence.

Andy

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PhilReade in reply to friendofpiglet

Thanks Andy will ask the question see if that works out

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JackLina in reply to PhilReade

Hi. I really do understand how yo feel. One thing you didn't mention is the intimidation yo may feel in a situation such as this but I would agree with others who have suggested you try to go with it and just ensure that you, personally are doing as much as you can to steer clear of them and therefore stay safe.

They too need to continue their lives and with children it is very difficult so this behaviour, to them, is a way of alleviating the pressure and boredom perhaps.

You can feel content in your own efforts to self-isolate and maybe time you outdoor exercise to occur when yo know they will not be around.

All the best x

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PhilReade in reply to JackLina

Thanks so much for your reply I put my mask and gloves on this morning and brought back in

The ironic thing is next door has COPD and 70 and one relative 4 doors away has Lupus crazy they both been out shopping this morning

Thanks again

Phil

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JackLina

Isn't it unbelievable? We live on a main road and of course, traffic has been sparse but the nicer the day, recently, the more traffic we're hearing. Most people who pass our home are walking out into the road when they see another coming the opposite way but sometimes, we see others passing virtually shoulder to shoulder.

Unfortunately, we can only ensure that we follow guidelines ourselves to stay safe. Try to let this go a little and concentrate on other things. It really is proving difficult, I know but make sure you stay safe as you clearly are and revel in the joy of staying well. x

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PhilReade in reply to JackLina

Hi thanks

I’ve taken onboard your advice and others and been getting stuck in to my garden and sitting out relaxing with my iPod

It’s not worth getting upset and angry over it’s just wasted energy

You take care and thanks again

Phil

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JackLina

You're so right. Relax and enjoy your garden. x

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