Hi I posted last week regarding my neighbours who live in six households who visit the lady next door there auntie and sister
We have a narrow shared drive and need my bins in and out Thursday Friday
They didn’t offer any help what so ever and Sunday her sister and niece visited sat out right under my fence in the back garden chatting like a normal weekend!
I sent a text Monday asking not to put me at risk to receive a text telling me they’ve only done it a couple of times as she needs human contact and will sit at the other end of the garden in future when they visit !!
People are so frustrating
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Well, at least you have tried and maybe they will think about it a bit more. All of us shielding could do with some human contact but I didn’t think that meant allowing people into your garden!!
It’s putting me at risk I’ve explained this in my text to her I’ve just had it with them yesterday her nephew was in and out three times must have had a cuppa in there
Hi Phil, Like Judy ( piggie50) said, at least you tried,but my honest opinion is the message you received back seemed quite reasonable, it could have been a lot worse and led to a confrontation. If they have agreed to sit at the bottom of the garden then they are only putting themselves at risk and not you. We don't need a nation of neighbours 'informing' on each other because after all this is over we all have to go back to 'normal living' whatever that is and you do not want to have created bad feeling with each other. Count your blessings, I live next door to a lovely mixed race couple who where here when I arrived on this street 22 yrs ago. The other side of me as had a variety of private owners for about the last 12yrs or so. The present owners have rented it out as a HMO. There is currently around 8 asian men residing there with only 1 toilet. Result is they urinate outside and the back garden is neglected to the point where it as attracted rodents ( good job I have my cat and a couple I have adopted!) Plus to top it off 1 of them decided to burn huge tree branches last weekend and decided the best way to do it was to deliberately light the grass to make sure he burnt the full lengh of them! It resulted in me calling the fire brigade because it was out of control. The police were in attentence also.The police contacted the council who this week wrote to me to say they had written them a letter warning them about having fires during lockdown as it could be considered unreasonable at this time and told me they were investigating that address as they believe it to be unlicened as an HMO dwelling. Sorry for long reply but the saying sprang to mind 'there but the grace of God'... Hope you keep safe tina.🤗
Sounds a nightmare I’m just concerned for my health as there still driving out and mixing then sat out coughing in the back
Unfortunately I’m not very tolerant and before my illness was in the gym twice week 5 a side and squash in the league twice a week I’ve had a splenectomy got an enlarged left ventricle and high blood pressure
Hi Phil, I do understand your frustration, but, why don’t you see how it goes after this latest txt. Things just may improve from here on.
If your neighbours want to mix amongst themselves, I say, be it on their heads. As long as they keep away from your garden boundary (as promised) and you can deal with your dustbin day in a safe manner, I would try and detach yourself from their behaviour. Your health is paramount, and you may do more harm to yourself by stressing about a situation which may already be resolved.
Hi phil. I completely understand your point, I also suffer ill health apart from EtJak2, epilepsy, high blood pressure and asthma plus 2 strokes and I know only too well the meaning of frustration. Sometimes I seriously could quite cheerfully wring their necks but alas thats impossible,unfornately! They think because I now live alone after separating from my husband 5 ago and my only daughter is married with my 2 beautiful grandchildren they can get away with it. Even before lockdown I had put a stop to my grandchildren coming in the nice weather,only in winter can they come. I visit them instead. It's either my son-inlaw or daughter who visit separately if i'm ill or unable to visit them. So I quite understand where your coming from and you have my deepest sympathy phil but at the end of the day at least you tried. Sending warm wishes phil and above all else stay safe. Tina.x🤗
Hi Phil, you are being very reasonable and they are being quite selfish. As Judy says we all need human contact but restrain ourselves because of the dangers we put others in.
I think the best advice is, as has already been said, is to distance yourself from them while they are having their contact. Hopefully they will remember to sit at the other end of the garden. I would be tempted to reply, saying thank you for their understanding, even though they shouldn’t be having people round like they are, so you avoid conflict which will just make things worse as Tina says. Sometimes being extra nice when you don’t feel like it (don’t blame you) can work to your advantage.
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