Neighbours

[PhilReade]

Hi I posted last week regarding my neighbours who live in six households who visit the lady next door there auntie and sister

We have a narrow shared drive and need my bins in and out Thursday Friday

They didn’t offer any help what so ever and Sunday her sister and niece visited sat out right under my fence in the back garden chatting like a normal weekend!

I sent a text Monday asking not to put me at risk to receive a text telling me they’ve only done it a couple of times as she needs human contact and will sit at the other end of the garden in future when they visit !!

People are so frustrating

[piggie50]

Hi Phil,

Well, at least you have tried and maybe they will think about it a bit more. All of us shielding could do with some human contact but I didn’t think that meant allowing people into your garden!!

[PhilReade in reply to piggie50]

It’s putting me at risk I’ve explained this in my text to her I’ve just had it with them yesterday her nephew was in and out three times must have had a cuppa in there

Crazy

[Tico in reply to PhilReade]

Hi Phil, Like Judy ( piggie50) said, at least you tried,but my honest opinion is the message you received back seemed quite reasonable, it could have been a lot worse and led to a confrontation. If they have agreed to sit at the bottom of the garden then they are only putting themselves at risk and not you. We don't need a nation of neighbours 'informing' on each other because after all this is over we all have to go back to 'normal living' whatever that is and you do not want to have created bad feeling with each other. Count your blessings, I live next door to a lovely mixed race couple who where here when I arrived on this street 22 yrs ago. The other side of me as had a variety of private owners for about the last 12yrs or so. The present owners have rented it out as a HMO. There is currently around 8 asian men residing there with only 1 toilet. Result is they urinate outside and the back garden is neglected to the point where it as attracted rodents ( good job I have my cat and a couple I have adopted!) Plus to top it off 1 of them decided to burn huge tree branches last weekend and decided the best way to do it was to deliberately light the grass to make sure he burnt the full lengh of them! It resulted in me calling the fire brigade because it was out of control. The police were in attentence also.The police contacted the council who this week wrote to me to say they had written them a letter warning them about having fires during lockdown as it could be considered unreasonable at this time and told me they were investigating that address as they believe it to be unlicened as an HMO dwelling. Sorry for long reply but the saying sprang to mind 'there but the grace of God'... Hope you keep safe tina.🤗

[PhilReade in reply to Tico]

Hi Tina

Sounds a nightmare I’m just concerned for my health as there still driving out and mixing then sat out coughing in the back

Unfortunately I’m not very tolerant and before my illness was in the gym twice week 5 a side and squash in the league twice a week I’ve had a splenectomy got an enlarged left ventricle and high blood pressure

[mhos61 in reply to PhilReade]

Hi Phil, I do understand your frustration, but, why don’t you see how it goes after this latest txt. Things just may improve from here on.

If your neighbours want to mix amongst themselves, I say, be it on their heads. As long as they keep away from your garden boundary (as promised) and you can deal with your dustbin day in a safe manner, I would try and detach yourself from their behaviour. Your health is paramount, and you may do more harm to yourself by stressing about a situation which may already be resolved.

Mary xx

[PhilReade in reply to mhos61]

Thanks Mary

Your right added stress isn’t going to help I’ve just organised the district nurse to do my bloods for my phone appointment at Christies

Thanks

Phil x

[mhos61 in reply to PhilReade]

Hope everything turns out ok for you. Xx

[Tico in reply to PhilReade]

Hi phil. I completely understand your point, I also suffer ill health apart from EtJak2, epilepsy, high blood pressure and asthma plus 2 strokes and I know only too well the meaning of frustration. Sometimes I seriously could quite cheerfully wring their necks but alas thats impossible,unfornately! They think because I now live alone after separating from my husband 5 ago and my only daughter is married with my 2 beautiful grandchildren they can get away with it. Even before lockdown I had put a stop to my grandchildren coming in the nice weather,only in winter can they come. I visit them instead. It's either my son-inlaw or daughter who visit separately if i'm ill or unable to visit them. So I quite understand where your coming from and you have my deepest sympathy phil but at the end of the day at least you tried. Sending warm wishes phil and above all else stay safe. Tina.x🤗

[PhilReade in reply to Tico]

God bless you thanks so much I really appreciate it

People are so insensitive and unaware of people’s lives it’s nicer to be nice than horrible

I lost my dog last week I’m really heartbroken I gave her all my dog treats and food ect to to be treated like this

Xx

[mhos61 in reply to PhilReade]

Sorry to hear you lost your dog. It is a heartbreaking experience. We still miss our dog three years on. X

[mhos61 in reply to Tico]

Something you can do without in these times Tina. Xx

[Tico in reply to mhos61]

Bless you Mary. Hope your keeping well and staying safe. Tina.xx🤗

[PhilReade in reply to Tico]

Thanks so much you to xx

Phil

[mhos61 in reply to Tico]

Getting through it Tina. The weather and having a garden certainly helps. How about you? Sounds like you had an ‘interesting’ weekend.

[Tico in reply to mhos61]

No comment!🤐tina x😊

[Aime]

Hi Phil, you are being very reasonable and they are being quite selfish. As Judy says we all need human contact but restrain ourselves because of the dangers we put others in.

I think the best advice is, as has already been said, is to distance yourself from them while they are having their contact. Hopefully they will remember to sit at the other end of the garden. I would be tempted to reply, saying thank you for their understanding, even though they shouldn’t be having people round like they are, so you avoid conflict which will just make things worse as Tina says. Sometimes being extra nice when you don’t feel like it (don’t blame you) can work to your advantage.

Hope this works - kind regards Aime xx😻😻

[PhilReade in reply to Aime]

Hi thanks

They’ve just all been sat out in the back sounded like was just saying well things won’t change

But I just moved to other end of my garden I’ve extended the hieght of my fence and put conifers against it which are up to 6 ft now 👍

[Aime in reply to PhilReade]

That’s the best way Phil as confrontation just makes things worse now and in the future - it’s not worth it. You’re the better person!

Kindest regards Aime xx😻😻