still struggling - does it get easier?

[Anon_wiltshire]

we found out around 7 years ago that we were unable to have children with ivf also not being an option for us.

For a long time I had come to terms with that and my husband and I have a great life and have been positive about what this means for us.

however over recent months the sadness of the situation has been creeping back in, I am getting older now so not sure if it’s the realisation of actually the older I get the choice is further taken away…I’m not sure.

Does anyone else get those feelings?

[Hsd12]

Hi, thank you for sharing, it's nice to know I'm not alone! I have the exact same feelings and currently really struggling to cope. It's been 4 years since we stopped fertility treatment after several failed attempts and we to had thought we had worked through alot of the pain... I definitely think age plays a big part, I thought I'd got over the worst but the feelings seem to be creeping back in and I'm not sure how to deal with them. I know there are many people with similar stories and I hoped to find comfort in meeting others that have similar emotions, I only joined this forum a few weeks ago hoping I might find some coping strategies and support.

[Dragon80]

Hi Anon

Yeah your definitely not alone, I'm feeling alot of sadness at the moment. My partner & me have decided not do anymore IVF as I had 2 miscarriages last year plus I'm 43 now so chances are low it being successful. I know we are both in difference stages of the grieving process but we both know the sadness this can bring, which I feel at the moment won't leave me. I'm doing counselling which I think he helping me, but it still along way for me to go. Sorry I'm not really offering much advise but I hope this helps you to know alot of people feeling like this. I'm free to chat anytime xx