No empathy

[berrybee]

I have suffered infertility for 11 years which I have been handling on my own. In January this year I started having irregular bleeding and I have had this every month since at various stagers through my circles. Last month it started getting worse and as started happening after intercourse. Last Tuesday it happened really badly after intercourse which absolutely petrified me and straight away called my gp and got an appointment that afternoon. The gp was really nice and the best i'd seen in along time. I explained what had been happening so she did an internal and tested my urine and she said everything was perfect and the tests were clear, she then questioned whether I could be pregnant. when I explained my infertility I broke down something I've not done in along time. She referred me to see a gynaecologist for more tests and told me to speak to them about seeing a counsellor, as i'd suffered so long on my own without help. yesterday I went to see the gynaecologist for a colposcopy, when I tried talking to her and telling her my position, she had no empathy and didn't let me speak she told me it wasn't her department, she then referred me for an ultrasound next week and told me to go back to my doctor about the counselling. I asked her well aren't you a gynaecologist and she said yes but I only deal with this aspect. I feel like i'm just going through the motions yet again and would have thought that been in her position she should have a duty of care to at least listen and have would some understanding and empathy. sorry I just needed to vent and I hope nobody else feels let down by the professionals.

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Hi berrybee....thank you for opening up about your ordeal. Sadly there are alot of medical staff who have become so numb to patients they show no empathy. We discovered this with the consultant we had when we went through a cancer scare with my husband. I am glad you had a better experience with your GP but I would take the time to contact PALS at the hospital and tell them of your experience with the gynaecologist. We did this and it made a difference to other people's care.

I also want to say how sorry I am that you have been carrying this burden alone for so long. It adds to the grief and isolation. And triggers can bring it back up so easily.

I am glad you are on this forum and hope you get the tlc you need xx